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Ua hele mākou a pau i laila: Loaʻa iā ʻoe nā hoʻolālā ʻaina ahiahi me kahi hoaaloha, akā paʻa kahi papahana ma ka hana a pono ʻoe e noho lohi. A i ʻole he pāʻina lā hānau, akā ua maʻi nui ʻoe ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke kolo mai ka noho. ʻO nā kumu āpau, pono ʻoe e hoʻopau i nā hoʻolālā-a ʻike ʻoe i ka weliweli ke hana pēlā.

Kapa ʻia kēlā hopena he "hewa hoaaloha," a ʻōlelo ka poʻe loea e piʻi aʻe nei. [Tweet kēia ʻoiaʻiʻo!] "ʻO ka lawehala hoaaloha ka mea maʻamau i waena o 20-mau manawa," wahi a Carlin Flora, he loea hoaaloha a mea kākau o Friendfluence: ʻO nā ala kamahaʻo e hana ai nā hoaaloha iā mākou ʻo wai mākou. "He mea ʻole kā lākou hana, manaʻo lākou ʻaʻole lākou e lilo i hoa aloha maikaʻi." Aia nō kekahi e "kāhea" ana, he hola hauʻoli āu "e" hele ana, a i ʻole kahi leka uila āu "e pane" ai i ka wā kahiko-a i ʻole manaʻo ʻoe. Eia naʻe ka hopena: ʻOiai ke manaʻo nei ʻoe he mau manaʻo maikaʻi kāu, ʻo ka hoʻāʻo ʻana e hōʻoluʻolu i nā mea āpau he mea maoli ʻole ia - a hiki i ka mea hiki ke haʻalele iā ʻoe i ka ʻino.

ʻO kā mākou "More" Society = ʻOi aku ka hewa

He aha ka mea e manaʻo ai mākou he mau hoaaloha weliweli? ʻO ka mea, aia wale nō ka mea e holo nei. Ma waho aʻe o ka hana ʻana i nā hola lōʻihi, ʻoi aku ka nui o nā hanana e hele ai-a no laila, ʻoi aku ka nui o ka poina. "Ke hoʻi nei nā mea a pau i ka piʻi ʻana o ka moʻomeheu Pūnaewele," wehewehe ʻo Catherine Cardinal, Ph.D., he loea hoʻohanohano ponoʻī a hoʻokumu i ka lawelawe aʻo ola Wise Women Rock. "Loaʻa i ka poʻe i ka ʻike hou aku, no laila ke hoʻopili nei lākou i nā hana hou aʻe. A laila ke kono nei lākou i kēlā me kēia i kā lākou mau pūnaewele kaiaulu e hele mai i kā lākou hanana, no laila ke hopena o kēia hōʻeha nui o nā hui nui." A no ka mea ʻaʻole paha ʻoe e ʻimi nei e hoʻopaʻa koke i kou ola kaiaulu a hoʻāʻo e paʻi i kēlā me kēia hanana, hoʻopau ʻoe i ka hewa no nā mea āu e lele ai.

ʻO kekahi kumu e hoʻonui nei ka hewa o ka hoaaloha, ironically, narcissism. "Ua hoʻolilo ka pāpili kaiaulu i nā poʻe he nui i nā mea ola ponoʻī," wahi a Christine Hassler, he loea a me ka mea kākau o ka millennial. 20-Kekahi mea, 20-Nā mea āpau. "Manaʻo ka poʻe he mea nui ko lākou alo ma mua o ka mea a ma ka hōʻike ʻole ʻana, ʻaʻole pau ka pāʻina a ʻehaʻeha paha ka mea hoʻokipa, ke maʻa mau ka maopopo o ka poʻe āpau."

Loaʻa i ka lunamanaʻo maopopo

Laki hiki iā ʻoe ke hele i kahi huakaʻi hewa o ka hoa: ʻO nā mea āpau e pili ana i ka hoʻonohonoho ʻana i kāu mau ʻōpuʻu-i kou poʻo, ʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻaʻole leo nui! -A hoʻokau i kāu mea maikaʻi loa ma mua. "ʻAʻohe o ke kaupaona a me nā hoa aloha maikaʻi ke lawe i ke kaupaona like a no laila ʻaʻole e loaʻa ka mālama like," wahi a Flora. Inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e hoʻokaʻawale i ka manawa no kāu hoa i hele i laila i kēlā me kēia haʻihaʻi, hana hou, make o kāu ʻīlio, a me nā mea hou aku, ʻo ʻoe. pono ʻeha ʻoe no ka mea he ʻāpana nui ʻo ia o kou ola, wehewehe ʻo Flora. Akā ʻo ka hōʻole ʻana i ke kono a ka hoaaloha a i ʻole ke kāpae ʻana iā ia i kekahi manawa, ʻaʻole ia he mea e mihi ai.

"ʻO ka hewa hewa e pili ana i ke kolu a me ka ʻehā o nā hoaaloha a me nā hoa pili hiki ke hoʻopilikia i ka pilikia ʻole a hoʻopau iā ʻoe i ka ikaika o ka naʻau," wahi a Flora. "Inā hoʻoikaika mau ʻoe e pili ana i ka poʻe i pili ʻole iā ʻoe, hiki iā ia ke hoʻopilikia i kou kiʻi ponoʻī a manaʻo ʻoe iā ʻoe iho he hoaaloha maikaʻi ʻole, ʻaʻole ʻoe."

I mea e hiki ʻole ai kēia, mai ʻae me ka noʻonoʻo ʻole i nā mea kono. E noʻonoʻo e pili ana iā lākou ma kahi pae hohonu, e hoʻoholo i ka hanana i mea nui, a laila e hoʻomau e like me ka ʻae a ʻaʻole paha. [Tweet this tip!] "I ko kēia ao ʻo FOMO, ʻaʻole mākou makemake e haʻalele i kekahi mea, no laila ke ʻōlelo nei paha mākou i nā mea āpau e ʻae iā mākou iho i nā mea hou aʻe. Akā ʻo ka lilo ʻole i ka palapala komite he mea ia i kou psyche no ka mea pau ka hana ʻana. nā manaʻolana wahaheʻe, kahi e hōʻeha ai ʻoe inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e hahai," wehewehe ʻo Hassler.

Inā ʻoe e ʻōlelo, e maka i ka lā ma kāu papa kuhikuhi a kāʻei i kou manamana lima i kū ʻole nā ​​pilikia o ka manawa hope loa. Inā hōʻole ʻoe, e mālama i nā mea pono a pōkole hoʻi. "ʻO nā wehewehe lōʻihi loa no ke aha e hiki ʻole ai iā ʻoe ke hele e hoʻokūpaʻa i kou manaʻo o ka lawehala no ka mea manaʻo lākou iā ʻoe e like me kāu hana ʻana i kahi mea hewa," i ʻōlelo ʻo Hassler. A ʻaʻole ʻoe-no laila hoʻokuʻu.

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