Pākuʻi kamaliʻi: ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana i ka hana nui a ka poʻe kaulana

Anter

• He aha ka maʻamau?
• Ehia na mea nui loa?
• He aha inā ʻaʻole ʻoe makemake i ka mea kaulana?

Hōʻike Overview

ʻO kāu keiki he Belieber, he Swiftie, a i ʻole Katy-Cat?

ʻO nā keiki mahalo i nā mea kaulana ʻaʻole ia he mea hou, a ʻaʻole ia he mea maʻamau no nā keiki - ʻoi aku ka nui o nā ʻōpio - e lawe i ka fandom i ka pae o ka pulakaumaka. Akā aia kahi kiko kahi a kāu keiki ʻo Justin Bieber ke nānā aku nei iā ʻoe e hopohopo?

Eia pehea e hoʻokaʻawale ai i ka hoihoi paha o kāu keiki me ka kaulana ma luna o ka luna.

He aha ka maʻamau?

ʻAʻohe kuhi no ka pulakaumaka kaulana, a i ka hapanui o nā hihia, he mea maʻamau ka pīhoihoi o kāu keiki a ʻōpio paha me ka meʻe hou loa.

"He mea maʻamau ka mahalo i ka poʻe, a loaʻa i kēlā me kēia keiki kēia kekele," wehewehe ʻo Dr. Timothy Legg, N.P.P., he kahu hānai psychiatric ʻohana psychiatric ʻohana i hōʻoia ʻia e ka papa. "Ua kūleʻa ka poʻe kaulana a ʻoi aku ka nui ma mua o ke ola, a ʻaʻole maopopo mau nā keiki he cinematic ia."

ʻOiai paha e lilo nā kamaliʻi ʻōpio i ka pīhoihoi me ke ʻano superhero a i ʻole ke ʻano kiʻi kaha kiʻi, akā no ka poʻe ʻōpio, ʻo ka hoʻomana meʻe i ka mea hīmeni a i ʻole hōkū kiʻi ʻoniʻoni kahi ʻaneʻane o ka hele.

Ma ke ʻano he makua, he mea maʻalahi paha e noʻonoʻo i ka mahalo o kāu keiki e pili ana i ka pulakaumaka maikaʻi ʻole, keu hoʻi inā ʻaʻole ʻoe makemake i kā lākou mea punahele. Akā i ka hapanui o nā hihia, he aha ka mea e hōʻeha iā ʻoe ma ke ʻano he maʻamau loa ka hana.

"ʻO kaʻaʻahu e like me ke kaulana a me ka hoʻololi ʻana i kou lauoho e like me ke kaulana kaulana kahi ʻāpana maʻamau o ka hoʻāʻo ʻana i nā ʻano ʻano like ʻole a me ka ʻike ʻana ʻo wai ʻoe," wahi a Kauka Legg. ʻAʻole kēlā mau ʻano mea e hopohopo ai.

ʻO Ditto no ke komo ʻana i nā hui kalapu, hoʻomanaʻo ʻana i nā mea lapuwale, a me ka hoʻolilo ʻana i ka manawa he nui i ka noʻonoʻo ʻana e pili ana i ka mea kaulana. ʻO ia wale nō inā hoʻomaka ka hoihoi o kāu keiki i ka mea kaulana i ke ola o kēlā me kēia lā e loaʻa paha kahi kumu no ka hopohopo.

Ehia na mea nui loa?

ʻOiai he mea maʻamau no kāu keiki e hoʻolōʻihi i ka manawa i ka noʻonoʻo ʻana i kā lākou meʻe, aia ka palena.

No ka pulakaumaka kaulana e noʻonoʻo ʻia pathological, pono ia e hoʻokō i nā pae hoʻohālikelike o kahi maʻi obsessive-compulsive.

"ʻO ka nīnau pehea ka nui o kēia," wahi a Kauka Legg. "Ke keʻakeʻa nei paha i ka hiki i ke keiki ke hoʻokō i nā hana o kēlā me kēia lā?" Ma ke ʻano he makua, inā ʻoe e hopohopo e pili ana i ka hoihoi o kāu keiki, e hoʻopono e pili ana i kāu loiloi i ka hopena o ke ola o kāu keiki.

Inā hōʻole kāu ʻōpio i ka hana ʻana i nā hana a me ka hoʻolele ʻana e nānā i kahi wikiō ʻo Justin Bieber ma kahi o, ʻaʻole hewa ʻo Justin Bieber. ʻOiai inā ua hoʻoholo kāu keiki e haʻalele i nā hana i hoihoi mua iā ia no ka mea makemake ʻo ia e hoʻolilo i ka manawa e kamaʻilio me kāna mau hoaaloha e pili ana i kāna mea punahele punahele, ʻaʻole ia he kumu e hopohopo ai. He mea maʻamau no ka poʻe ʻōpio ke hoʻololi wikiwiki ʻana i nā hoihoi, no laila, ʻo ka lilo ʻana o kekahi hoihoi e hoʻololi iā ia me kahi mea ʻē aʻe, ʻaʻole ia he pathological.

Eia nō naʻe, inā pili nui kāu keiki i kahi mea kaulana e lawe nei i kā lākou mau hana āpau, hiki i ka manawa e kamaʻilio ai me ke kauka.

"Inā e heʻe ana ka hana kula a ke keiki a ke hāʻawi nei lākou i kā lākou mau hoaaloha a pau e noho i loko o ko lākou lumi i ka lā holoʻokoʻa i ka papakaumaka e nānā ana i nā ʻahamele, pono ʻoe e launa me kahi loea no ka loiloi," manaʻoʻiʻo ʻo Kauka Legg. ʻAʻole ia he manaʻo e pono ʻoe e hopohopo inā lilo kāu keiki i ka Pōʻaono i hala e nānā ana i ka marathon ola o kahi ʻahamele - aia wale nō inā kūlike a maʻamau ka hana e like me kēlā.

A, ʻoiaʻiʻo, inā kamaʻilio kāu keiki e pili ana i ke kaumaha nui a i ʻole ka ʻōlelo ʻana i nā manaʻo suicidal e pili ana i kahi mea kaulana, a laila ua hiki i ka manawa e hoʻopili koke aku i kahi loea. Inā manaʻoʻiʻo paha kāu keiki ua ʻike pono kā lākou meʻe iā lākou a i ʻole koi mai paha i hoʻihoʻi ʻia ko lākou aloha, he hōʻailona ia e loaʻa ana iā ia kahi pilikia e hoʻokaʻawale i waena o ka moemoeā a me ka ʻoiaʻiʻo.

He aha inā ʻaʻole ʻoe makemake i ka mea kaulana?

ʻOiai inā hāʻule ka hana a kāu keiki ma waena o ka mahalo maʻamau, loaʻa paha iā ʻoe kekahi mau hopohopo e pili ana i ka pae o ka pulakaumaka o kāu keiki, akā ma ke ʻano kanaka a kāu keiki i koho ai e mahalo.

Akā "e inaina mau nā mākua i nā hana a ka poʻe kaulana," wahi a Kauka Legg. ʻOiai ke hoʻolohe nei kāu keiki i nā mele e pili ana i ka hoʻokele-e nā kī ʻana ʻaʻole ia he ʻano maikaʻi ʻole kā lākou pulakaumaka me ka mea pena rap. "Pono nā mākua e nīnau he aha ke kumu no ia," wahi a Kauka Legg. "E kūkākūkā i kāu mau hopohopo me kāu poʻe keiki, akā i ke ala ʻole hoʻoweliweli."

ʻO ka hapanui o nā manawa, e nānā aku kāu ʻōpio iā ʻoe me ka hoʻowahāwahā a hōʻoia iā ʻoe ʻaʻole lākou e noʻonoʻo e hoʻohālikelike i ka hana i nā mele a lākou e hoʻolohe nei - maopopo iā lākou he mea noʻeau ia, ʻaʻole ke ola.

Inā pīhoihoi kāu keiki ʻōpio a ʻōpio paha e kahi hero antisocial, ʻaʻohe pono e lele i kahi hōʻailona, ​​akā he manaʻo maikaʻi e ʻoi aku ka ikaika o kāu kamaʻilio. Hiki paha i nā keiki ʻōpio ke paʻakikī i ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻana i ka mea ʻoiaʻiʻo a me nā mea i loko o ka manaʻo, no laila e kamaʻilio me kāu keiki e ʻike i kona mau manaʻo e pili ana i ke mele.

ʻO ka hapa nui o ka manawa, ʻaʻohe mea e hopohopo ai ka pulakaumaka o kāu keiki me kahi mea kaulana. I ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, hiki ke lilo i mea hana maikaʻi loa nāu ma ke ʻano he makua. "E hoʻohana ia mea i kou pono," paipai Dr. Legg. "ʻAʻole pono nā mākua e pane koke i ka maikaʻi ʻole, no ka mea hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻohana i kēia ma ke ʻano he mea hana kūkākūkā."

E hoʻāʻo wale e ʻōlelo i ka hiki i kāu keiki ke loaʻa nā tikika ʻahamele me nā hana keu a i ʻole nā ​​māka maikaʻi, a e kahaha nō ʻoe i ka wikiwiki o ka hiki i kāu ʻōpio ke holoi holoi.