ʻAe ʻia nā wahine ʻeleʻele ikaika i ke kaumaha

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• 'ʻAʻole kaumaha nā kānaka ʻeleʻele'
• Kaumaha kaumaha
• ʻAe i ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo
• Lawe aku

He wahine ʻEleʻele wau. A pinepine, ʻike wau e loaʻa ka ikaika palena ʻole a me ke kūpaʻa. Kau ka manaʻo i kaomi nui iaʻu e hāpai i ka persona wahine ʻeleʻele ikaika (SBWM) ʻike pinepine ʻoe e hōʻike ʻia i ka moʻomeheu pop.

ʻO ka SBWM ka manaʻoio hiki i nā wahine ʻeleʻele ke lawelawe i nā mea āpau e hele mai me ka loaʻa ʻole o ka hopena o ka naʻau iā lākou. Pale aku ʻo SBWM i nā wahine ʻeleʻele i ka hōʻike ʻana i ka palupalu a haʻi mai iā mākou e "hoʻopau" a "hoʻopau" me ka nānā ʻole i ka luhi manaʻo a me ke kino.

A hiki i kēia manawa, palekana ke ʻōlelo ʻana ʻaʻole i nānā iki ke kaiāulu i nā pono olakino noʻonoʻo o ʻAmelika-ʻAmelika. Akā ua hāʻawi nā kaiāulu ʻEleʻele a me nā kaiāulu ʻeleʻele ʻole i ka pilikia.

Hōʻike ka noiʻi hou ʻo kēia pūʻulu he 10 pākēneka e ʻoi ana ka hakakā me nā pilikia olakino koʻikoʻi ma mua o nā keʻokeʻo ʻole Hispanic. Me kahi kūlana kiʻekiʻe aʻe no nā pilikia, hōʻike pū kekahi ʻo ʻAmelike Hui ʻeleʻele i kekahi o nā pae haʻahaʻa o ka mālama olakino noʻonoʻo. ʻO nā ʻāpana moʻomeheu e like me stigma, ʻāpana ʻōnaehana e like me ka loaʻa kālā ʻole, a me nā stereotypes e like me ka SBWM a pau i ka hana i nā haʻahaʻa haʻahaʻa o ka lapaʻau ma waena o nā ʻAmelika ʻAleʻele.

Hana nā wahine ʻeleʻele me nā kumu kaiāulu kū hoʻokahi i hiki ke hoʻopili i ke olakino noʻonoʻo. Ma ke ʻano he wahine ʻEleʻele e hana i ka hopohopo a me ke kaumaha, ʻike pinepine wau i ka "nāwaliwali" ma muli o koʻu nāwaliwali o ka naʻau. Akā i koʻu ulu ʻana i ka ʻike i ke olakino noʻonoʻo, ua ʻike wau i kaʻu hakakā ʻana ʻaʻole e hōʻoki i koʻu ikaika.

A, ʻo ka mea nui, ʻaʻole ikaika mau wau. ʻO ka haʻi ʻana i ka nāwaliwali i ka ikaika. ʻAe wau i kēia i kēia lā, akā he huakaʻi lōʻihi loa ia e hele ai i aneʻi.

'ʻAʻole kaumaha nā kānaka ʻeleʻele'

ʻIke wau he kū hoʻokahi wau i ka wanaʻao. Ua hana mau wau a ʻimi mau i ka ʻike. Minamina, e like me nā mea hanahana ʻē aʻe i loko o ka mōʻaukala, ʻike pinepine wau iaʻu iho e hana pū ana me nā ʻoka kaumaha. Mai ka wā kamaliʻi, loaʻa mau wau i ke kaumaha nui. ʻAʻole like me nā keiki ʻē aʻe, kū pinepine kēia kaumaha me ka hoʻopiʻi ʻole ʻia.

I kēlā makahiki, ʻaʻohe oʻu maopopo o ke kaumaha, akā ua maopopo iaʻu he mea maʻamau ʻole ka hoʻololi ʻana mai ka manaʻo extroverted a kaʻawale loa. ʻAʻole wau i lohe i ka huaʻōlelo kaumaha no ka manawa mua a hiki i koʻu nui ʻana.

ʻAʻole i liʻuliʻu e hoʻomaopopo ia ʻaʻole ia he huaʻōlelo e manaʻo wau e ʻike pū.

Ma hope o ka ʻike ʻana he kaumaha paha koʻu, ua kū wau i kahi hakakā hou: ka ʻae ʻana. Ua hana ka poʻe āpau a puni iaʻu i kā lākou pono e pale aku iaʻu mai ka ʻike ʻana me ia.

A ua ukali pinepine ʻia e nā kuhikuhi e heluhelu i ka Baibala. Ua lohe au "ʻaʻole e hāʻawi ka Haku iā mākou i mea nui aʻe e hana pū ai ma mua o ka hiki iā mākou ke hoʻomanawanui" i nā manawa hou aʻe ma mua o ka mea e lana ai ka manaʻo o kekahi. Ma loko o ke kaiāulu ʻEleʻele, inā huhū ʻoe no ka lōʻihi loa, haʻi ʻia iā ʻoe kahi mea e pono ai ʻoe e hana ʻoi aku ka pule e pule aku iā ʻoe. No laila, pule au.

Akā ke hoʻomaikaʻi ʻole nā ​​mea, ua kū wau i mua me nā manaʻo maikaʻi ʻole. ʻO ka mea kūpono ʻaʻole e hakakā nā wahine ʻEleʻele me ka honua āpau kanaka hoʻomau nā manaʻo i ka manaʻo ʻaʻole hiki iā mākou ke komo.

A ke kuhi nei he superhuman mākou ke luku nei iā mākou, hoʻopaʻapaʻa ʻo Josie Pickens i kāna ʻatikala "Depression and the Black Superwoman Syndrome." Ke ho'āʻo nei e hālāwai me kēia kūpono, ua ʻike wau iaʻu iho - hou - wehewehe ʻia e ka stereotype o kāna hana a ʻaʻole manaʻo he ʻeleʻele.

Kaumaha kaumaha

ʻO ka hoʻomāinoino ʻia ma ke kula ka mea i ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi. Ua kapa ʻia wau ma ke ʻano he "ʻē aʻe" i ka wā ʻōpio. ʻO nā manaʻo like ʻole i pāpā ʻole i nā kūkākūkā olakino noʻonoʻo i hoʻolilo iaʻu i mea hoʻokuke.

Ua aʻo wau i ka pale ʻana i ka haʻalele ʻana i ka pilikanaka a me ka hōʻalo ʻana i ka lehulehu. Akā i mau mau makahiki ma hope o ka pau ʻana o ka hana hoʻomāinoino, ua mau ka hopohopo a ukali iaʻu i ke koleke.

ʻAe i ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo

Ua hoʻoneʻe kaʻu kulanui i ke olakino noʻonoʻo o kāna mau haumāna a hāʻawi iā mākou i 12 mau papa ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo manuahi i kēlā me kēia makahiki kula. Ma muli o ka lilo ʻole o ke kālā i mea keakea, hāʻawi ʻia iaʻu ka manawa e ʻike ai i kahi kākāʻōlelo me ka hopohopo ʻole.

No ka manawa mua, aia wau i kahi kaiaulu ʻaʻole i kaupalena i nā pilikia olakino noʻonoʻo i kahi hui kikoʻī. A ua hoʻohana wau i kēlā manawa kūpono e kamaʻilio e pili ana i kaʻu mau pilikia. Ma hope o kekahi mau kau, ʻaʻole wau i manaʻo he "ʻē aʻe" hou. Ua aʻo mai ke aʻoaʻo iaʻu iaʻu e normalize i kaʻu mau ʻike me ke kaumaha a me ka hopohopo.

ʻO kaʻu hoʻoholo e hele i ke aʻo ʻana ma ke koleke i kōkua iaʻu e hoʻomaopopo i kaʻu mau hakakā me ka hopohopo a me ke kaumaha ʻaʻole i hoʻohaʻahaʻa iaʻu ma mua o kekahi. ʻAʻole hoʻokuʻu kaʻu Blackness iaʻu mai nā hopohopo olakino noʻonoʻo. No ʻAmelika-ʻAmelika, ʻo ka hōʻike ʻana i ka hoʻokalakupua ʻōnaehana a me ka prejudice e hoʻonui ai i kā mākou pono no ka lāʻau.

ʻAʻohe mea hewa iaʻu ke kaumaha a me ka hopohopo. I kēia manawa, ʻike wau i nā pilikia o koʻu olakino ma ke ʻano he mea ʻē aʻe i kū hoʻokahi iaʻu. ʻIke wau i ka hoʻoulu nui loa i kaʻu "mau lā iho," a ʻo kaʻu mau "lā" e maʻalahi ke mahalo.

Lawe aku

ʻO ka ʻae ʻana i kaʻu mau hakakā ʻaʻole ia he kumu no ka paʻakikī ʻole e hana pū i kēia manawa. Ke loaʻa iaʻu nā lā maikaʻi ʻole, hana wau i mea nui e kamaʻilio pū me kekahi. He mea nui e hoʻomanaʻo i nā mea maikaʻi ʻole āu e lohe ai a manaʻo ai e pili ana iā ʻoe iho i ka wā o nā haʻalulu depressive ʻaʻoleʻoiaʻiʻo. Pono nā ʻAmelika-ʻAmelika, e hoʻāʻo e ʻimi i ke kōkua no nā pilikia olakino noʻonoʻo.

Ua koho wau e mālama i kaʻu mau hōʻailona me ka ʻole o ka lāʻau, akā ʻike wau i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe he nui i hoʻoholo i ka lāʻau e kōkua maikaʻi iā lākou e hoʻokele i nā ʻōuli. Inā ʻike ʻoe iā ʻoe iho e pili ana i ke kaumaha mau a i ʻole nā ​​manaʻo maikaʻi ʻole e lawe nui iā ʻoe, e kamaʻilio me kahi loea olakino noʻonoʻo e ʻike i ka papa hana i ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi iā ʻoe. ʻIke ʻo ʻoe nō ia ʻaʻole ʻo ka "ʻē aʻe" aʻo ʻoe nō ʻaʻole hoʻokahi wale nō.

Mai hoʻokae i nā maʻi olakino. Pili lākou i kēlā me kēia. Pono ka wiwo ʻole, akā pū, hiki iā mākou ke haki i nā stigmas e pili ana i nā maʻi olakino noʻonoʻo no nā hui āpau o ka poʻe.

Inā ʻoe a i ʻole kekahi mea āu e ʻike nei e ʻike nei i nā hōʻailona o ke kaumaha, hiki iā ʻoe ke loaʻa ke kōkua. Hāʻawi nā hui e like me ka National Alliance on Mental Illness i nā hui kākoʻo, ka hoʻonaʻauao, a me nā kumuwaiwai ʻē aʻe e kōkua i ka mālama ʻana i ke kaumaha a me nā maʻi noʻonoʻo ʻē aʻe. Hiki iā ʻoe ke kāhea i kekahi o nā hui aʻe no ka inoa inoa ʻole, kōkua pilikino.

• National Suicide Prevent Lifeline (wehe 24/7): 1-800-273-8255
• Nā Samaritans 24-Hour Crisis Hotline (wehe 24/7, kāhea a i ʻole ke kikokiko): 1-877-870-4673
• ʻO United Way Crisis Helpline (hiki ke kōkua iā ʻoe e ʻike i kahi therapist, ola kino, a i ʻole nā ​​pono maʻamau): 2-1-1

ʻO Rochaun Meadows-Fernandez kahi mea kākau kūʻokoʻa i loea i ka olakino, sosiology, a me nā mākua. Hoʻolilo ʻo ia i kāna manawa heluhelu, aloha i kona ʻohana, a me ke aʻo ʻana i ke kaiaulu. E hāhai i kāna ʻatikala ma luna ona ʻaoʻao a ka mea kākau.