5 Nā moemoeā moekolohe — Wehewehe ʻia

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• E moe i kahi ma'amau
• E Hoomaluia
• E moe me kekahi mea hou
• Moʻo waha
• Hoʻohui i ka wā moe
• Nānā no

Hana mākou i kahi kiko o ka kūkākūkā ʻole ʻana i kā mākou mau moemoeā-a he ʻoiaʻiʻo maoli nō ia e pili ana i ka moekolohe. Akā inā mākou e hōʻike i kā mākou mau moʻoʻōlelo kiʻekiʻe ma waena o nā pepa, e hoʻomaopopo ko mākou mau hoaaloha-ua like paha lākou. Ma kahi noiʻi o 1,516 mau mākua, ua ʻike nā kānaka noiʻi mai ke Kulanui o Quebec i ka nui o nā moemoeā moekolohe ma mua o ka mea i manaʻo mua ʻia. Ma aneʻi, ʻelima mau makemake a ka hapa nui o nā wahine e ʻae ai, a me nā ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo a ka poʻe loea e pili ana i ka neʻe ʻana no kahi hoʻokolohua hoʻāʻo maoli.

E moe i kahi ma'amau

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Kūleʻa nui kēia moemoeā i nā pili wā lōʻihi, wahi a Laura Berman, Ph.D., ka wahine moekolohe a me ka pilina a me ka loea pili wahine a Durex. ʻO ia no ka hoʻāʻo ʻana i kekahi mea hou-ʻo ia hoʻi ka hele ʻana i kahi ʻāpana brunch ʻokoʻa ma mua o ka maʻamau a i ʻole ke hana ʻana ma waho o ka lumi moe

E ho'āʻo: ʻO kahi maikaʻi loa e hoʻāʻo ai i ka manaʻo o kāu kāne e pili ana i ka naʻaupō ma ka lālani hope o ka hale kiʻiʻoniʻoni ʻo ia ka wā e hoʻomaka ai nā kukui e pōʻeleʻele, wahi a Berman. Lawe iā ia i kahi manawa kūlike ʻole (heluhelu: ʻaʻole i ka wā e moekolohe ana ʻoe a i ʻole i kou wahi kuko koho), a mākaukau e kūkā. Hoʻowahāwahā paha ʻo ia i kou manaʻo o ka moekolohe ma kahi pāka lehulehu, e laʻa, akā e hāmama ʻoe i ka hele ʻana ma ia i kahi kihi o kou pā hale, wahi a Berman.

E Hoomaluia

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Kanalima Malu o ka Hina ʻaʻole i hoʻomaka i ka hilahila o ka ʻāina me BDSM-hoʻohana nui ʻia ia. "Ke ʻumeʻume nei nā wahine i kēia mau lā i nā mea he nui i kēlā me kēia lā, ʻo ka manaʻo o ka hāʻawi ʻana i ka kaohi i kekahi mea ʻē aʻe-ʻaʻole wale ia, akā ʻo ka mea ʻike i ka mea e hana ai me kēlā kaohi-hiki ke lilo i erotic," wahi a Berman.

E ho'āʻo: E like me ka moe kolohe o ka lehulehu, ʻaʻole ʻo BDSM kahi mea e hoʻāʻo ai ma ka makemake. ʻO ka mea mua, e nīnau i kāu kāne pehea e manaʻo ai e hoʻohui i kahi kauā a kamaʻilio lepo ʻole i kāu hana maʻamau. Inā ʻo ia ma luna o ka moku, e holoholo iā ia i kāu hiʻohiʻona maikaʻi. Hiki i nā kāne he nui ke kānalua i ka hana nui i loko o ka lumi moe, no laila hiki ke kōkua i nā ʻōlelo kikoʻī, wahi a Berman. Pono pū kekahi: ʻohi i kahi ʻōlelo palekana ma mua o kou hoʻomaka. (ʻAʻole wale nā ​​wahine e ʻae nei i ka moemoeā BDSM. ʻO ia kekahi o nā hanana male malū ʻelima a ʻoiaʻiʻo nō hoʻi.)

E moe me kekahi mea hou

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Wahi a Berman he mea maʻamau loa ke kuko i kahi kekelē o nā ʻano like ʻole, keu hoʻi inā ʻoe me kāu kāne no nā makahiki. ʻOiai e hoʻolālā ʻia nā kānaka no ka monogamy, ʻo ka makemake no kahi loli i kahi hiʻona ʻaʻole maʻamau.

E ho'āʻo: ʻAʻole ʻōlelo ʻo Berman ʻoiaʻiʻo ka moekolohe ʻana me kekahi hoa ʻē aʻe, ʻoiai ka mea nui ʻē aʻe i luna o ka moku. "Wehe ʻia kahi Pahu Pandora," i ʻōlelo ʻo ia. "He lili a hopohopo paha kekahi." Akā, e hoʻāʻo i ka roleplaying. E kiʻi i kāu kāne-i ke ʻano o ka malihini-e kiʻi iā ʻoe i kahi pā kūloko, a i ʻole e noi iā ia e komo i kahi wig a i kahi kapa i kahi moe. ʻO ka hoʻāʻo ʻana i kahi kūlana hou iā ʻoe, ke pāʻani ʻana i ka porn ʻoiai ʻoe e naʻaupō ai, a i ʻole ka hoʻohana ʻana i kahi pāʻani moe kolohe i ka wā o ka hana hiki ke hoʻokō i kou makemake i kahi loli.

Moʻo waha

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ʻOiai loaʻa iā ia ka moekolohe, "ʻoluʻolu ʻole ka nui o ka poʻe i ka wahine waha," wahi a Berman. Manaʻo paha lākou i kā lākou ʻenehana (inā ʻo lākou ka mea hoʻokani) a i ʻole ke koʻikoʻi i ka hōʻoluʻolu o kā lākou mea nui (e māluhiluhi ana paha kona ʻāʻī? Honi maikaʻi au? Ke lōʻihi nei au?).

E ho'āʻo: Inā kāohi ka hopohopo no ka "hana pololei ʻana" iā ʻoe, ʻōlelo ʻo Berman e nānā wale i nā aʻoaʻo aʻoaʻo ma ka pūnaewele - manaʻo lapuwale paha ʻoe, akā i kēia hihia, ʻo ka ʻike ka mea kaua maikaʻi loa. Inā hopohopo ʻoe e pili ana i ka hopena loaʻa, ma ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe, e hoʻāʻo i nā alapiʻi pēpē. "E hoʻomaka me ka noi ʻana iā ia e iho i lalo iā ʻoe no ʻekolu mau minuke. ʻO ka manawa aʻe, e hoʻāʻo i ʻelima," wehewehe ʻo ia. A laila e kia i ka noho ʻana i ka manawa a hala ka manawa. E haʻi wale iā ia e pili ana i ka hoʻokolohua ma mua, a i ʻole e manaʻo paha ʻo ia e hana ana ʻoe i kahi mea āu e makemake ʻole ai ke kū ʻoe iā ia, a laila ka hopohopo hana nona.

Hoʻohui i ka wā moe

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ʻO ka moemoeā maʻamau a nā wahine kekahi o nā risqué liʻiliʻi loa ma ka papa inoa-e makemake ana e ʻike i nā ʻano aloha i ka wā o ka moekolohe. "Kākoʻo ia i ka mea nui o ka pilina o ka naʻau i ka pili aloha," wahi a Berman. "No ka mea hiki iaʻu ke hāʻawi iā ʻoe i nā mea 365 e hoʻāʻo ai e hoʻomaʻamaʻa i kou ola wahine, akā inā ʻaʻole ʻoe a me kāu hoa i kēlā ʻano ikaika i loko, ʻaʻohe mea e hana."

E ho'āʻo: E hoʻokokoke aku i ka naʻau me kahi hoa moe, e hoʻāʻo i nā ʻano moe kolohe, e hoʻokūkala nei i ke kāwili ʻana i kēlā pilina naʻau, e ʻōlelo ʻo Berman. Hoʻokahi hana maʻalahi: Noho ke poʻo wāwae i kou hoa, a laila kau i kou lima ʻākau ma luna o kona puʻuwai. I ka nānā ʻana i nā maka o kēlā me kēia, hoʻohui i kou hanu me kāna. "Kōkua kēia iā ʻoe i waenakonu, e hoʻokau i ke koena o ka honua, a hana i ka ikaika hou aʻe ma waena ou ma mua o kou lilo ʻana i kino," wahi a Berman.

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