Nā hiʻohiʻona o ka ʻōpio ʻōpio

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• He aha ka Syndrome keiki ʻōpio?
• Nā ʻano maikaʻi ʻole o ka ʻōpio ʻōpio
• He mea nui paha ke kauoha hānau?
• Nā Myths e pili ana i ke kauoha hānau
• Nā ala e hakakā ai i ka ʻōpio ʻōpio
• Lawe ʻia

Ma kahi o 90 mau makahiki i hala aku nei, ua manaʻo kahi psychologist e hiki i ka ʻōpū hānau ke hopena i ke ʻano o ke kanaka e lilo ai ke keiki. Ua paʻa ka manaʻo i ka moʻomeheu kaulana. I kēia lā, ke hōʻike nei kahi keiki i nā hōʻailona o ka hōʻino ʻia, lohe pinepine ʻoe i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe e ʻōlelo ana, "ʻAe, ʻo lākou ka pēpē o ko mākou ʻohana."

He aha ke ʻano o ka hope loa i ke kaʻina hānau, a he aha ke kikoʻī o ke keiki ʻōpio? Eia kekahi o nā manaʻo e pili ana i ka maʻi ʻōpio loa a no ke aha e hiki ai i ka hope ke hoʻokau i kahi keiki i ka wā lōʻihi.

He aha ka Syndrome keiki ʻōpio?

I ka makahiki 1927, ua kākau mua ka psychologist ʻo Alfred Adler e pili ana i ke ʻano hānau a me nā mea i wānana ʻia no ka lawena. I loko o nā makahiki, ua hāʻawi ʻia i mua nā manaʻo he nui a me nā wehewehe ʻana. Akā ma ka nui, wehewehe ʻia nā keiki muli loa e like me:

• nohona kaiāulu
• hilinaʻi
• makakū
• maikaʻi i ka hoʻoponopono pilikia
• akamai i ka loaʻa ʻana iā haʻi e hana i nā mea na lākou

ʻO nā mea hana keaka a me nā mea hana keaka kaikaina loa i ko lākou ʻohana. Kākoʻo kēia i ke kumumanaʻo e paipai hope loa i nā keiki e ʻoluʻolu a hoʻomākeʻaka. Hana paha lākou i kēia i mea e nānā ai i kahi ʻohana ʻohana lehulehu.

Nā ʻano maikaʻi ʻole o ka ʻōpio ʻōpio

Hoʻohālikelike pinepine ʻia nā kamaliʻi ʻōpio me he waiwai pio lā, mākaukau e lawe i nā pilikia kūpono ʻole, a ʻoi aku ka liʻiliʻi o ke akamai ma mua o kā lākou mau kaikaina. Ua manaʻo ʻia e ka poʻe psychologists e hoʻopili nā mākua i nā keiki muli loa. E noi paha lākou i nā kaikuaʻana e hana i nā kaua no nā kaikaina a me nā kaikuahine, e waiho ana i nā kamaliʻi liʻiliʻi ʻaʻole hiki ke mālama pono iā lākou iho.

Ua ʻōlelo pū kekahi nā kānaka noiʻi i nā keiki ʻōpio i kekahi manawa ke manaʻoʻiʻo ʻaʻole hiki ke lanakila ʻia no ka mea ʻaʻohe mea e ʻae iā lākou e kūleʻa. A ʻo kahi hopena, manaʻo ʻia ka makaʻu ʻole o nā keiki muli loa i ka hana ʻana i nā mea weliweli. ʻAʻole paha lākou e ʻike i nā hopena e like me ka maopopo o nā keiki i hānau ʻia ma mua o lākou.

He mea nui paha ke kauoha hānau?

Hoʻokahi mea a Adler i manaʻo ai ʻo ke kauoha hānau ʻaʻole pono e noʻonoʻo i ka mea o ka hānau mua a ʻo ka mea i hānau hope loa.

ʻO ka manawa pinepine, ke ʻano o ka manaʻo o ka poʻe e pili ana i kā lākou kauoha ma ka laina o nā kaikaina e like ka nui me kā lākou hānau maoli. ʻO kēia ka mea i ʻike ʻia ma ke ʻano o kā lākou hānau hānau psychological. ʻO kahi laʻana, inā maʻi a maʻi kīnā ʻole kahi keiki hānau mua, hiki i nā kaikaina ke hana i ka hana maʻamau no kēlā keiki.

Pēlā nō hoʻi, inā hānau ʻia kekahi o nā kaikaina i loko o kahi ʻohana i mau makahiki ma mua o ka lua o nā kaikaina, loaʻa i kahi ʻelua keikikāne e lawe i ke ʻano o kahi hānau mua a keiki muli paha. ʻIke pū kekahi mau ʻohana i hoʻohui ʻia e manaʻo kekahi mau stepibling e mālama lākou i kā lākou palapala hānau maoli, akā hoʻomaka pū kekahi e loaʻa kahi kauoha hou i loko o ka ʻohana hui.

Nā Myths e pili ana i ke kauoha hānau

Ma hope o nā makahiki he umi o ke aʻo ʻana, hoʻomaka ka poʻe noiʻi e noʻonoʻo i ke kaʻina hānau, ʻoiai he mea kupanaha, ʻaʻole paha he mana e like me ka mea i manaʻo mua ʻia. Ke ʻaʻa nei ka noiʻi hou i ka manaʻo no ke kauoha hānau ke kumu e hana ai ka poʻe ma kekahi ʻano. ʻO ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, nā kuleana e like me ke kāne, ke komo ʻana o nā mākua, a me nā stereotypes e hoʻokau nui paha i ka hana.

Nā ala e hakakā ai i ka ʻōpio ʻōpio

Hoʻopai ʻia kāu pēpē i nā ʻano āpau i pili i ka maʻi ʻōpio loa, me nā maikaʻi ʻole? ʻAʻole paha, keu nō inā e nānā ʻoe i ka mea āu e manaʻo ai i kāu mau keiki. E makaʻala i kāu mau stereotypes ponoʻī e pili ana i ke kaʻina hānau a me nā ʻohana, a pehea ka hopena o kēlā mau stereotypes i kāu mau koho i loko o ka ʻohana. O kahi laʻana:

1. E ʻae i nā keiki e launa pū kekahi me kekahi e hoʻomohala i kā lākou ala ponoʻī e hana ai i kekahi mau mea. Ke waiho ʻia e hoʻokaʻawale iā lākou iho, malia paha e liʻiliʻi ka hana a nā kaikaina ma muli o ke kauoha hānau a ʻoi aku ka hoihoi i nā mākau like ʻole a lākou e hāʻawi ai.
2. Hāʻawi i kāu mau keiki i nā kuleana a me nā kuleana i loko o ka hana o ka ʻohana. Pono kēia e hoʻomohala kūpono. Hiki i nā littlest ke waiho i kekahi mau mea pāʻani a hāʻawi i ka hoʻomaʻemaʻe.
3. Mai noʻonoʻo ʻaʻole hiki i nā mea liʻiliʻi ke hana i nā mea hōʻino. Inā ua hōʻeha ke keiki muli loa, a laila kamaʻilio kūpono ia ma mua o ka palaki ʻana i ka hanana. Pono nā kamaliʻi ʻōpio e aʻo i ke aloha, akā pono lākou e aʻo aia kekahi mau hopena i nā hana i hōʻeha i kekahi.
4. Mai hakakā i ke keiki muli loa no ka nānā o ka ʻohana. Hoʻomohala nā keiki i kekahi mau hana ʻino no ka loaʻa ʻana o ka nānā ke nānā ʻole lākou e nānā ana kekahi iā lākou. Hiki paha i kāu haumāna papa ʻekolu ke kūkākūkā i ka lā kula me ka sophistication, akā pono e loaʻa ka manawa i kāu kamaliʻi e kamaʻilio me ka ʻole o ke kaua no ia.
5. Ke ʻike nei kekahi mau noiʻi e pili ana inā pili ka hopena o ka hānau hānau i kahi pono no nā keiki hānau mua. Akā he maʻamau hoʻokahi a ʻelua paha mau helu, ʻaʻole lawa pono e hoʻokaʻawale iā Einstein mai Forrest Gump. E hoʻāʻo e hoʻopaʻa ʻole i nā mea i loaʻa i kāu keiki muli loa a hiki i ke kūlana maʻamau i kau ʻia e kāu keiki mua.

Lawe ʻia

ʻO ke keikikāne ʻōpio paha kahi kaʻao. Akā inā paha he kumu hoʻohuli maoli ia, ʻaʻole maikaʻi ʻole nā ​​mea āpau. He mea mālama nā keiki ʻōpio i ʻoi aku ka ʻike, nā kaikaina e mālama iā lākou, a me ka palekana o kahi home i hoʻopaʻa ʻia me nā mea e pono ai ke keiki.

Hiki i nā keiki ʻōpio ke nānā i nā kaikuaʻana e hoʻāʻo i nā palena, hana hewa, a hoʻāʻo mua i nā mea hou. Hiki i nā keiki ʻōpio ke noho mehameha wale i ka home no hoʻokahi makahiki a ʻelua paha me ka poʻe mālama ʻaʻole huhū i kahi keiki hānau hou.

ʻOi aku ka hana a me ka pilikanaka o nā keiki ʻōpio. ʻO kēia nā mākau i makemake nui ʻia i ka hoʻokele waiwai kahi e waiwai ai ka hana laulima. ʻO ka mea hope loa, ʻaʻole pono e wehewehe ʻia ka maʻi ʻōpio muli loa e kāna mau mea maikaʻi ʻole. Hiki iā ia ke lilo i kūlana maikaʻi no ka wā e hiki mai ana kāu keiki. A i kou noʻonoʻo ʻana pehea e "pale" ai i kāu keiki mai ka hoʻomohala ʻana i nā ʻano maikaʻi ʻole o ka maʻi ʻōpio loa, e hoʻomanaʻo i ke kaʻina hānau he kumumanaʻo wale nō ia. ʻAʻole ia he wehewehe o ke ola.