I ka wā e kamaʻilio ai e pili ana i ka lilo ʻana o ke kaupaona ʻoiai ke aloha

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ʻO Theodora Blanchfield, 31, he luna media media mai Manhattan haʻaheo no ka mea he ʻelima mau makahiki i hala, ua lilo iā 50 paona. ʻOiaʻiʻo, he huakaʻi ia i hōʻike nui ʻia ma kāna blog Losing Weight in the City. Aia nō naʻe kekahi poʻe āna e hōʻole nei e hoʻokaʻawale iā ia: kāna mau hoa aloha.

"Kūʻē ia i nā mea āpau aʻu e manaʻoʻiʻo ai, akā ʻo ka ʻoiaʻiʻo o ka hana ma ke kaumaha ka mea e hoʻohilahila iaʻu a hilahila hoʻi," wahi a Blanchfield. "Ke hopohopo nei au e manaʻo lākou e loaʻa hou ana iaʻu. A i ʻole e ʻai mau ana wau a ʻaʻole e leʻaleʻa-me he mea lā ʻo kaʻu hana wale nō ka ʻai ʻana i ka salakeke a me ka hana ʻana." (Nanea i nā lā, nā hola hauʻoli, a ʻoi aku me kēia mau ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo e hoʻemi i ke kaumaha no kēlā me kēia pule pule.) ʻO ka mea pōʻino, ua hōʻoia ʻia kēlā makaʻu no Blanchfield i kahi lā mua. Ua hoʻōho kekahi hoa wahine ma kēlā ʻaoʻao o ka pā, "Aloha au i kāu blog!" e koi ana i kona lā e nīnau iā Blanchfield i ke ʻano o ka blog. Ua haʻi ʻo ia iā ia-a ʻaʻole i lohe hou iā ia.

ʻAʻole ʻike ʻo Blanchfield i ke kumu o ka nalowale ʻana o kāna lā, akā ʻae ka poʻe loea he mea naʻauao ke kali a hiki i kāu mau lā ma mua o ka hāʻawi ʻana i ka ʻike pilikino e like me ka poho kaumaha. "Inā ʻo kekahi o nā manaʻo mua o kou lā ka ʻike i kou hoʻokahe wale ʻana i kahi nui o ke kaupaona, e ʻike ʻo ia i kēia ma ke ʻano o kāu hiʻina wehewehe nui," i wehewehe ʻo Mimi Tanner, ka mea kākau o ʻO ka Reverse Ultimatum: Loaʻa i kahi kūpaʻa me ka hakakā ʻole. No laila pehea pololei hana haʻi ʻoe i kou hala?

Kaha ia i kahi leka o ka mana-ʻaʻole hilahila

"Ma kahi o ka ʻōlelo ʻana he momona wau," hoʻāʻo e ʻōlelo, "Ua hoʻomaka wau e hoʻomaʻamaʻa no ka marathon i hoʻokahi makahiki i hala aku nei, a ua nui ka kaumaha i lilo iaʻu. Maikaʻi loa ia," wahi a Sara Eckel, ka mea kākau o ʻAʻole ʻO ʻoe: 27 (Wrong) Nā kumu no kou male ʻana. "Makemake ka nui o ka poʻe e aʻo pehea ʻoe i hana ai. Ua mālama ʻoe i kekahi mea i kou ola." E hana i ke kumuhana i loko o ke kamaʻilio ʻole me ka waiho ʻole i kahi pōkā pahū. (Ma hope o nā mea āpau, ke kaʻana like nei ʻoe i kahi maʻa ʻokoʻa ma mua-ʻaʻole ʻoe i ʻaihue ai i ka hale o kou hoalauna.) ʻO Blanchfield-nāna i hoʻololi i ka inoa o kāna blog iā The Preppy Runner-i hoʻohana i kēia ala hou. "Hoʻohaʻahaʻa wau i ka lilo o ke kaumaha a hoʻokūkala i ke olakino," i ʻōlelo ʻo ia.

He mea nui ka manawa

He mea hoʻowalewale ka makemake e hōʻike i nā ʻano i kōkua iā ʻoe e hoʻokō i kahi pahuhopu hoihoi. ʻO wai ka makemake ʻole e launa me kekahi mea i hōʻike i kahi moʻohelu o ke koa, kūpaʻa, a me ka hoʻokalakiko? Inā pono ʻoe e kiʻi i kahi helu, ʻo ka lā ʻelima ka manawa maikaʻi loa no ka hōʻike nui, wahi a Tanner. "E ʻike lākou iā ʻoe ma ia manawa a hiki iā lākou ke hoʻohui i kēia ʻike hou me ka ʻole e hōʻino ana i kā lākou mau manaʻo aloha mua," i ʻōlelo ʻo ia. (No ka ʻōlelo aʻo manawa hou aku, heluhelu ʻO ka manawa kūpono e kamaʻilio e pili ana i nā mea āpau i kahi pilina.)

Maliʻa paha he hōʻailona ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka manawa kūpono e haʻi, akā, aia iā ʻoe manaʻo mākaukau. "ʻAʻole ʻoe e koi e haʻi aku i kēlā me kēia i kou moʻolelo a pau i ke ola o ka ʻōpeʻapeʻa," stresses Eckel. "ʻOi aku ka maikaʻi o ka hele ʻana mai kahi wahi o ka mahalo iā ia iho. Ma mua o ka noʻonoʻo ʻana, 'E hoʻokolokolo ʻo ia iaʻu?' e noʻonoʻo, 'Ua ʻoluʻolu anei au i ka hāʻawi ʻana i kēia ʻike i kēia kanaka?' Ke hāʻawi nei ʻoe i ka mana iā ʻoe iho. "

ʻO Ilyssa Israel, 39, he kōkua kōkua mai Springfield, NJ, ʻoluʻolu loa me kekahi kāne i haʻi aku ʻo ia iā ia i ka lā ʻelua ua nalowale ʻo ia ma kahi o 100 paona ma hope o ka hana ʻana i kahi ʻoki kino gastric - a ua loaʻa he ʻoki hou e wehe i ka nui o ka ʻili. . ʻO kāna pane: "Maikaʻi! Maikaʻi iā ʻoe!" A laila ua hōʻoia ʻo ia i kāna mau hakakā ponoʻī me ke kaupaona a me ke ʻano o ke kino. "Manaʻo wau ʻo ka haʻi ʻana iā ia i ka wā mua e hoʻokokoke mai iā mākou," wahi a ʻIseraʻela. "Ua hiki iā mākou ke haʻi aku i kekahi i kekahi i kā mākou mau ʻōlelo huna pouli loa a e ʻae piha ana." Ua male lāua i ʻelua makahiki ma hope.

Kaohi i nā Controllables

Ma muli o ka maʻalea e kamaʻilio ai i kou hala, ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke kaohi pehea e lohe ai nā poʻe ʻē aʻe. E mākaukau no kekahi e papau a superficial paha, e hoʻohui ʻo Eckel. Akā ʻike i kekahi manawa, kāhāhā ka poʻe iā ʻoe. Ua hoʻopā ʻia ʻo Blanchfield i ka wā i haʻi aku ai kekahi kāne āna i kamaʻilio ai ua hoʻoikaika ʻo ia iā ia a ma hope mai, ua nalowale ʻo ia i ka nui o ke kaumaha. "Maikaʻi ke ʻike ʻana i ka hoʻololi ʻana i koʻu ola a kau i waho i kahi hopena maikaʻi i kekahi mea ʻē aʻe," i ʻōlelo ʻo ia. (Hoʻohui i kēlā i nā Kaha 6 Not-So-Obvious He kahu ʻo ia.)

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