Ke hoʻoheheʻe kaʻu keiki me Autism, eia kaʻu hana

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• Aia he ʻokoʻa ma waena o ka hoʻokau ʻana i nā hana a me ka paipai ʻana i ke kūʻokoʻa
• He aha e hana ai i ka wā o ka meltdown nui loa
• 1. E minamina
• 2. Hoʻomaopopo iā lākou i ka palekana a me ke aloha
• 3. Hoʻopau i nā hoʻopaʻi
• 4. Nānā i kāu keiki, me ka nānā ʻole i nā mea kū
• 5. E haki i kāu mea hana maʻalahi
• 6. E aʻo iā lākou i ka hoʻoponopono ʻana i ka manawa ke mālie lākou

Hoʻopā ka olakino a me ke olakino i kēlā me kēia o mākou. ʻO kēia ka moʻolelo o hoʻokahi kanaka.

Noho au i loko o ke keʻena psychologist o ke keiki e haʻi ana iā ia e pili ana i kaʻu keiki he ʻeono makahiki i loaʻa i ka autism.

ʻO kēia kā mākou hui mua ʻana e ʻike inā he kūpono kūpono mākou e hana pū i kahi loiloi a me kahi ʻike maʻamau, no laila ʻaʻole kaʻu keiki.

Ua haʻi aku wau me kaʻu hoa iā ia e pili ana i kā mākou koho o ka home-kula a pehea mākou i hoʻohana ʻole ai i ka hoʻopaʻi ma ke ʻano he ʻano aʻo.

I ka hoʻomau ʻana o ka hālāwai, ua lilo kona mau maka i hawklike.

Ua hiki iaʻu ke ʻike i ka hoʻokolokolo ma kāna hōʻike ʻana i ka wā i hoʻomaka ai ʻo ia i kahi monologue e pili ana i ka mea e pono ai wau e koi aku i kaʻu keiki e hele i ke kula, e hoʻokau iā ia i nā kūlana i hōʻoluʻolu ʻole loa iā ia, a koi iā ia e launa me ka nānā ʻole i kāna ʻano e pili ai.

Ikaika, ikaika, ikaika.

Ua manaʻo wau makemake ʻo ia e hoʻokomo i kāna mau ʻano i loko o ka pahu, a laila noho ma luna o ia.

I ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, he kū hoʻokahi a ʻokoʻa kēlā me kēia keiki me ka autism a ʻokoʻa hoʻi i ka manaʻo o ke kaiāulu. ʻAʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke kūpono i ko lākou nani a me ka quirkiness i loko o kahi pahu.

Ua hōʻole mākou i kāna lawelawe a loaʻa iā mākou kahi kūpono kūpono no ka ʻohana - no kā mākou keiki kāne.

Aia he ʻokoʻa ma waena o ka hoʻokau ʻana i nā hana a me ka paipai ʻana i ke kūʻokoʻa

Ua aʻo wau mai ka ʻike e hoʻāʻo ana e hoʻāʻo i ke kūʻokoʻa kūʻē, inā paha he autism paha kā kāu keiki.

Ke kūleʻa mākou i kahi keiki, ʻoi aku i hoʻokahi mea maʻalahi i ka hopohopo a me ka ʻoʻoleʻa, ʻo ko lākou ʻano kūlohelohe ke ʻeli i ko lākou kuʻekuʻe wāwae a paʻa paʻa.

Ke hoʻoikaika mākou i kahi keiki e kū i mua o kā lākou mau makaʻu, a ke ʻōlelo nei wau ua walaʻau ke ākea, e like me Whitney Ellenby, ka makuahine i makemake i kāna keiki me ka autism e ʻike iā Elmo, ʻaʻole mākou e kōkua maoli iā lākou.

Inā wau i koi ʻia i loko o kahi lumi i piha i nā nananana, hiki paha iaʻu ke hemo mai koʻu lolo i kahi manawa e kū ai ma hope o 40 mau hola o ka ʻuwā ʻana. ʻAʻole ia he manaʻo he ʻano breakthrough a kūleʻa paha koʻu i ke alo ʻana i kaʻu mau makaʻu.

Manaʻo wau e mālama wau i kēlā mau traumas a hoʻomaka pinepine ʻia lākou i koʻu ola.

ʻOiai, ʻo ka hoʻokau ʻana i ke kūʻokoʻa ʻaʻole ia he keu loa e like me ke ʻano o Elmo a i ʻole kahi lumi i piha i nā nananana. Hāʻule kēia mau mea kaomi ʻana ma luna o kahi pae mai ka paipai ʻana i kahi keiki kānalua (maikaʻi loa kēia a ʻaʻohe kaula e pili i ka hopena - E ʻōlelo lākou ʻaʻole!) I ka hoʻoikaika kino ʻana iā lākou i kahi hanana i ʻuā ko lākou lolo. weliweli.

Ke ʻae mākou i kā mākou keiki e ʻoluʻolu i kā lākou wikiwiki a lawe lākou i kēlā ʻāpana o kā lākou iho makemake, ulu a hilinaʻi maoli.

ʻO kēlā, maopopo iaʻu kahi e hele mai ai ka māmā Elmo. ʻIke mākou e hauʻoli kā mākou poʻe keiki i kēlā me kēia hana inā e hoʻāʻo wale lākou.

Makemake mākou e ʻike lākou i ka hauʻoli. Makemake mākou e koa lākou a piha i ka hilinaʻi. Makemake mākou iā lākou e "komo" no ka mea ʻike mākou i ka manaʻo o ka rejection.

A i kekahi manawa luhi loa mākou i ka luhi e hoʻomanawanui a me ke aloha.

Akā ʻaʻole ka ikaika ka ala e hoʻokō ai i ka hauʻoli, ka hilinaʻi - a i ʻole ka mālie.

He aha e hana ai i ka wā o ka meltdown nui loa

Ke hoʻoheheʻe kā mākou keiki, makemake pinepine nā mākua e kāohi i nā waimaka no ka mea ʻeha ia i ko mākou naʻau ke hakakā nei kā mākou keiki. A i ʻole ke holo haʻahaʻa nei mākou i ke ahonui a makemake wale i ka maluhia a me ka mālie.

I nā manawa he nui, ke kū nei mākou me ka melima ʻelima a ʻeono paha i kēlā kakahiaka ma luna o nā mea maʻalahi e like me ka lepe i ko lākou pālule ʻili loa, ke kamaʻilio nui nei ko lākou kaikuahine, a i ʻole ka hoʻololi ʻana i nā hoʻolālā.

ʻAʻole uē nā kamaliʻi me ka autism, uē, a me ka lele ʻana e kiʻi iā mākou ma kekahi ʻano.

Ke uē nei lākou no ka mea ka mea a ko lākou mau kino e pono ai i kēlā manawa e hoʻokuʻu i ka haunaele a me ka manaʻo mai ka luhi ʻia me nā naʻau a i ʻole nā ​​stimulate sensory.

Hoʻohui like ʻole ko lākou lolo a no laila ke ʻano o ka launa pū ʻana me ka honua. ʻO ia kahi mea a mākou e kamaʻilio ai me nā mākua i hiki iā mākou ke kākoʻo iā lākou i ke ala maikaʻi loa.

No laila pehea e hiki ai iā mākou ke kākoʻo pono i kā mākou poʻe keiki ma o kēia mau meltdown kani nui a pauma?

1. E minamina

ʻO ke kumu ʻo Empathy ka hoʻolohe a me ka hōʻoia ʻana i kā lākou paio me ka ʻole o ka hoʻokolokolo.

Ke hōʻike aku nei i nā manaʻo i ke ala olakino - inā ma o ka waimaka, uē, pāʻani ʻana, a i ʻole ka puke pai ʻana - maikaʻi ia no nā poʻe āpau, ʻoiai ke ʻano kaumaha kēia mau manaʻo i ko lākou nui.

ʻO kā mākou hana ke alakaʻi mālie i kā mākou mau keiki a hāʻawi iā lākou i nā mea hana e hōʻike ai iā lākou iho i kahi ala e hōʻeha ʻole ai i ko lākou kino a i ʻole nā ​​mea ʻē aʻe.

Ke empathize mākou me kā mākou keiki a hōʻoia i ko lākou ʻike, lohe lākou lohe ʻia.

Makemake nā kānaka āpau e lohe ʻia, keu hoʻi i kahi kanaka e manaʻo pinepine ʻole ʻia a kahi iki iki me nā poʻe ʻē aʻe.

2. Hoʻomaopopo iā lākou i ka palekana a me ke aloha

I kekahi manawa nalowale loa kā mākou keiki i loko o ko lākou naʻau i hiki ʻole iā lākou ke hoʻolohe iā mākou. I kēia mau kūlana, noho wale mākou me kahi kokoke iā lākou.

I nā manawa he nui, hoʻāʻo mākou e kamaʻilio me lākou mai kā lākou hopohopo, akā he mau manawa ia e hemo ana ka hanu ke kahi keiki i loko o ka ʻeha o kahi hoʻoheheʻe.

ʻO ka mea hiki iā mākou ke hana e hōʻike iā lākou palekana a aloha ʻia lākou. Hana mākou i kēia ma ka noho kokoke ʻana iā lākou e like me ka ʻoluʻolu.

Ua nalowale wau i nā manawa aʻu i ʻike ai i kahi keiki uē e haʻi ʻia hiki iā lākou ke puka i waho o kahi hūnā ke haʻalele lākou i ka hoʻoheheʻe ʻana i lalo.

Hiki i kēia ke hoʻouna i ka leka i ke keiki ʻaʻole pono lākou e puni i ka poʻe aloha iā lākou ke pilikia lākou. ʻIke loa, ʻaʻole kēia kā mākou leka i manaʻo ʻia i kā mākou poʻe keiki.

No laila, hiki iā mākou ke hōʻike iā lākou aia mākou ma laila no lākou e ka noho kokoke ʻana.

3. Hoʻopau i nā hoʻopaʻi

Hiki i nā hoʻopaʻi ke hoʻohilahila i nā keiki, hopohopo, makaʻu, a me ka huhū.

ʻAʻole hiki i kahi keiki me ka autism ke kāohi i kā lākou mau hoʻoheheʻe, no laila ʻaʻole lākou e hoʻopaʻi ʻia no lākou.

Ma kahi o, e ʻae ʻia lākou i ke ākea a me ke kūʻokoʻa e uē nui me kahi makua ma laila, e hoʻomaopopo iā lākou ua kākoʻo ʻia lākou.

4. Nānā i kāu keiki, me ka nānā ʻole i nā mea kū

Hiki i nā meltdowns no kēlā me kēia keiki ke walaʻau, akā makemake lākou e hele i kahi pae kiʻekiʻe ʻē aʻe a ke keiki me ka autism.

Hiki i kēia huhū ke hoʻohilahila i nā mākua ke kū mākou i ka lehulehu a ke nānā mai nei nā mea āpau iā mākou.

ʻIke mākou i ka hoʻokolokolo mai kekahi e ʻōlelo ana, "ʻAʻole wau e ʻae i kaʻu keiki e hana pēlā."

A i ʻole ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi ʻole, manaʻo mākou e like me ka hōʻoia o kā mākou makaʻu hohonu loa: Manaʻo ka poʻe ke hāʻule nei mākou i kēia mea makua āpau.

ʻO ka manawa aʻe ʻike ʻoe iā ʻoe iho i kēia hōʻike lehulehu o ka haunaele, nānā ʻole i nā hiʻohiʻona hoʻokolokolo, a hoʻomaha mālie i kēlā leo makaʻu i loko e ʻōlelo ana ʻaʻole lawa ʻoe. E hoʻomanaʻo ʻo ke kanaka e hakakā nei a makemake nui i kāu kākoʻo ʻo kāu keiki ia.

5. E haki i kāu mea hana maʻalahi

E mālama i kekahi mau mea hana ʻike paha i kāu kaʻa a ʻeke paha. Hiki iā ʻoe ke hāʻawi i kēia mau mea i kāu keiki ke kaumaha nui lākou.

He mau punahele like ʻole kā nā kamaliʻi, akā ʻo kekahi o nā pono hana sensory e komo pū nā pale ʻūhā kaupaona ʻia, nā pēpē hoʻoliʻiliʻi leo, aniani aniani, a me nā mea pāʻani.

Mai hoʻoikaika i kēia mau mea i kāu keiki ke hoʻoheheʻe lākou i lalo, akā inā koho lākou e hoʻohana ia mau mea, hiki i kēia mau huahana ke kōkua pinepine iā lākou e mālie.

6. E aʻo iā lākou i ka hoʻoponopono ʻana i ka manawa ke mālie lākou

ʻAʻole nui nā mea e hiki iā mākou ke hana i ka wā o ka hoʻoheheʻe ʻana a hiki i ka hoʻāʻo ʻana e aʻo i kā mākou poʻe keiki i nā pono hana, akā ke hiki lākou i kahi ʻano maluhia a hoʻomaha hoʻi o ka manaʻo, hiki iā mākou ke hana pū i ka hoʻoponopono naʻau.

Pane maikaʻi kaʻu keiki i ka hele wāwae kūlohelohe, hoʻomaʻamaʻa i ka yoga i kēlā me kēia lā (ʻo kāna punahele ʻo Cosmic Kids Yoga), a me ka hanu hohonu.

E kōkua kēia mau hoʻolālā hoʻopaʻa iā lākou e hoʻomālie - ma mua paha o ka hoʻoheheʻe ʻana - ʻoiai ʻaʻole ʻoe ma kahi kokoke.

Aia ʻo Empathy ma ka puʻuwai o kēia mau ala i ka hana ʻana me kahi mel autown.

Ke nānā mākou i ka hana a kā mākou keiki e like me ke ʻano o ke kamaʻilio ʻana, kōkua ia iā mākou e ʻike iā lākou ma ke ʻano he paio ma kahi o ke kūpale.

Ma ka nānā ʻana i ke kumu o kā lākou hana, e ʻike ka mau mākua ke ʻōlelo nei paha nā keiki me ka autism: "ʻeha koʻu ʻōpū, akā ʻaʻole hiki iaʻu ke hoʻomaopopo i ka mea a koʻu kino e haʻi mai nei iaʻu; Minamina wau no ka mea ʻaʻole pāʻani nā keiki me aʻu; Makemake au i nā mea hoʻoulu hou aʻe; Makemake au i ka stimulate liʻiliʻi; Pono wau e ʻike ua palekana wau a e kōkua ʻoe iaʻu i loko o kēia ua nui o ka ua no ka makaʻu iaʻu hoʻi. "

I ka olelo hoʻowahāwahā hiki iā ia ke hāʻule mai kā mākou huaʻōlelo meltdown holoʻokoʻa, i panai ʻia e ka minamina a me ke aloha. A i ka hōʻike ʻana i ke aloha i kā mākou keiki, hiki iā mākou ke kākoʻo iā lākou ma o kā lākou hoʻoheheʻe ʻana.

He mea kākau manuahi ʻo Sam Milam, he mea paʻi kiʻi, he kākā'ōlelo no ka hoʻoponopono kaulike, a me ka makuahine o ʻelua. Ke hana ʻole ʻo ia, ʻike paha ʻoe iā ia ma kekahi o nā hanana cannabis ma ka Pākīpika ʻĀkau, ma kahi studio yoga, a i ʻole e ʻimi ana i nā kahakai a me nā wailele me kāna mau keiki. Ua paʻi ʻia ʻo ia me The Washington Post, Magazine Makahiki, ʻo Marie Claire AU, a me nā mea ʻē aʻe he nui. E kipa iā ia ma ʻO Twitter a ʻo ia paha pūnaewele.