4 Hoʻokaʻawale Kūpono ʻo 4 ProDommes i ke ʻano o ka Dominatrix IRL

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• He aha ia ʻo Dominatrix?
• ʻO wai e hele i kahi Dominatrix ʻoihana?
• Nā Pōmaikaʻi o ka Hana ʻana me Dominatrix
• He aha ke kau me kahi Professional Dominatrix e like me?
• ʻO ka lilo ʻana i Dominatrix Lawe (Maikaʻi!) Hana
• He aha ke ʻano o ka lilo ʻana i Dominatrix?
• Nānā no

Ka kaulana oEuphoria aHoopaa, ʻelua mau hōʻike TV e hōʻike ana iā Dominatrix ma ke ʻano he mau mea nui-Kat Hernandez lāua ʻo Tiff Chester, ʻo ia hoʻi, e hōʻike ana i nā poʻe e pīhoihoi nui i ka manaʻo o kahi Dominatrix.

ʻO ka mea pōʻino, nui nā ʻōlelo hoʻohewa no nā hōʻike ʻelua o BDSM. Nui ka hopohopo o ka leo no ka mea ʻo Kat i lalo o ka makahiki, ʻo kāna kuleana ma ke ʻano Dominatrix e hana mana ʻole nei. ʻO nā poʻe ʻē aʻe e nānā i ka hewaHoopaaʻae ʻia ka hiʻohiʻona o ka ʻae a me nā palena i ka pilina D / s. A ua hoʻopiʻi ʻia nā hōʻike kīwī ʻelua no ka hoʻomau ʻana i ka trope puʻuhonua i nā mea hana wahine āpau i pakele i (trauma maʻamau) trauma.

ʻO ia ke kumu "ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke hilinaʻi nui i ka mea āu i ʻike ai ma ka pāpāho e pili ana iā Dominatrix e maopopo ai i kā mākou hana, no ke aha mākou e hana ai, ʻo wai mākou, a he aha ke ʻano o nā hana BDSM palekana," wahi a Andre Shakti, ʻoihana Dominatrix, hoʻonaʻauao wahine, a me ke kumu aʻo pili.

Me ka noʻonoʻo, Shakti a me ʻekolu mau Dominatrices ʻoihana e kaʻana like i ka mea maoli ʻo Dominatrix. Eia, wehewehe lākou i ka mea a Dominatrix maoli ʻo ia, he aha nā ʻano mea a lākou e hana ai me kahi mea kūʻai aku, pehea ke ʻano o kahi kau, a pehea e pili ai i ko lākou ola ʻoihana ʻole.

He aha ia ʻo Dominatrix?

ʻO kā mākou hoa maikaʻi ʻo Merriam Webster i wehewehe i kahi Dominatrix ma ke ʻano he "wahine i hoʻomalu i ke kino a i ʻole psychologically i kāna hoa ma kahi hālāwai sadomasochistic." (A, ʻae, ua hoʻonui mau ʻia ia, ma ke ʻano he noʻonoʻo ʻana i ka mana ikaika e pili ana.)

ʻOi aku ka pololei o kēia wehewehe ʻana, wehewehe ʻo Swell Cat, he wahine trans e hoʻomālamalama i ka mahina ma ke ʻano he mea hana wahine ma ka pūnaewele a me Dominatrix, me ka ʻike ʻana i ka nui o ka poʻe non-binary, wahine-queer, a i ʻole nā ​​​​poʻe i hoʻohālikelike ʻia i ka wahine i kapa ʻia ʻo Dominatrices pū kekahi.

Akā inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e ʻike i ke ʻano o ka "hālāwai sadomasochistic", pili like kēlā wehewehe ʻana e like me ke kōkua ʻana ma ke kuʻi ʻana iā Google e ʻike inā he STI kāu. ʻO kahi hālāwai sadomasochistic "kahi e hoʻokō ai kekahi i ka hana i ka wā e ʻimi ana i ka kink a me BDSM," wehewehe ʻo Shakti. (Inā ʻoe e pono i kahi mea hou ma BDSM, e heʻe ma o kēia BDSM Beginner Guide maoli, a laila hoʻi mai ma aneʻi.)

He mea nui e haʻi aku he ʻokoʻa ma waena o ka nohona Dominatrix a me Dominatrix ʻoihana, wahi a Lola Jean, Dominatrix a me ka mea hoʻonaʻauao wahine. Makemake kekahi poʻe e lawe i kahi kūlana koʻikoʻi 24/7-ʻo ia hoʻi, loaʻa iā lākou kekahi i ka lawelawe iā lākou i nā manawa āpau, ʻoiai ma waho o ka lumi moe a hale paʻahao paha. ʻO kēia nā alakaʻi ola ola.

No nā poʻe ʻē aʻe, e like me ka poʻe i nīnau ʻia no kēia ʻatikala, ʻo ka Dominatrix kahi hana ʻoihana. "Inā he loea ʻoe, mākaukau i ka hoʻomalu ʻana ma waena o kahi kink a i ʻole BDSM pōʻaiapili," i wehewehe ai ʻo Shakti. "Hele mai nā kānaka iā ʻoe no kēlā mākaukau, a loaʻa kahi hana kālā. ʻO ka hana moekolohe."

Eia nō naʻe, ʻo "Dominatrix ka huaʻōlelo āu e ʻike pinepine ai i ka pāpāho, ʻaʻole ia ka ʻōlelo maʻamau a ka poʻe e hoʻohana ai," wahi a Jean. Ma kahi o ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana iā "Dominatrix," hoʻohana ka hapa nui o ka poʻe i ka huaʻōlelo ʻo Domme a i ʻole Dom. A i ʻole ProDomme / ProDomme inā he loea lākou. (ʻO ke koena o kēia ʻatikala e kau ʻia ma ProDommes.)

ʻO wai e hele i kahi Dominatrix ʻoihana?

E ʻike i kēia: ʻAʻole ekahi ʻano mea kūʻai aku. Hiki i nā kānaka o nā makahiki āpau, nā kāne, nā ʻano, a me nā lāhui ke koho e hoʻolimalima i kahi ProDomme. (ʻOiai he mea kūpono ke haʻi ʻana iā ia no ka mea ʻo ka hapa nui o ProDommes e hoʻouka nei ma waena o $ 200 a $ 400 i kēlā me kēia hola, ʻo ka hapa nui o nā mea kūʻai aku waena a papa kiʻekiʻe).

"Ke holo nei kaʻu mau mea kūʻai mai nā CEO kiʻekiʻe, nā kauka lapaʻau, a me nā loio i nā kāne, nā wahine queer, trans folks, a me nā poʻe polū polū e ʻimi wale ana e ʻimi a hoʻonui i kā lākou moe kolohe, hoʻohaʻahaʻa, a me ka pilina o ko lākou ʻoiaʻiʻo loa," wahi a Ashley Paige, he Dominatrix ʻoihana ma NYC.

Nā Pōmaikaʻi o ka Hana ʻana me Dominatrix

Ke noʻonoʻo nei no ke aha e hoʻolimalima ai kekahi iā Dominatrix? ʻO nā kumu like ʻole. "Ke ʻimi nei kekahi poʻe iā mākou no ka mea ua ʻike lākou i 'Fifty Shades of Grey" a hoihoi i ka hoʻokolohua ʻana me BDSM no ka manawa mua, "wahi a Shakti. I kona manaʻo, "ʻo ka hoʻolimalima ʻana i kahi ʻoihana kekahi o nā ala maikaʻi loa a palekana e hoʻomaka ai e ʻimi i ka BDSM, kinks, a i ʻole nā ​​​​fetishes." ʻO ia no ka mea he palekana (r) nā ala e hana ai i nā mea e like me ka hahau, ka hahau ʻana, ka palu, ka ʻāʻā, a me ka pā ʻana i kekahi kanaka - nā mea a ka poʻe loea i ʻike ai, akā ʻaʻole paha he hoa. Eia kekahi, hiki i kahi pro ke hana i ka mea a Jean i kapa ai, "he wahi palekana kino ʻole e ʻimi ai i kou mau makemake," ma ke ala e hiki ʻole ai i kahi hoa (ʻo ia hoʻi he hoa aloha ʻole) ke hana.

ʻImi nā poʻe ʻē aʻe iā ProDommes e pāʻani i kahi noʻonoʻo kikoʻī. "I kekahi manawa ua kākau nā mea kūʻai aku i kahi script piha me nā laina kikoʻī loa a lākou e makemake ai iaʻu e ʻōlelo i ka wā o kahi hanana," wahi a Shakti. A i ʻole, hiki iā lākou ke noi i kahi hana moe kolohe. I ka hihia o ka mea hope, e hoʻolimalima nā mea kūʻai aku i kahi loea me kahi loea i kēlā hana (yep, he mau loea kā ProDommes). ʻO Paige, no ka laʻana, loea i ka "sadomasochism, ka hoʻololi ʻana i ka lawena, ke ʻano koʻikoʻi o ke kino, ka pāʻani ʻana, a me ka hoʻopaʻi kino, ka pāʻani electro, ka pāʻani kino kino, ka pā ʻana i lalo, ka pā mua ʻana, ka hoʻomaʻamaʻa pono ʻana i ka lua , a me ke kink tantric me ka nānā i ka hana hanu a me ka catharsis ... e inoa i kekahi. " ʻO nā mea laʻa ʻē aʻe e pili ana i ka poop, nā meaʻai, ka lūlū ʻana, ka ʻino-hoʻomāinoino, pāʻani pāʻani, hoʻohaʻahaʻa, nipple-torture, pāʻani pāʻani, ka moa a me ka hoʻomāinoino poepoe, ka nipple torture, ka pāʻani ʻana i ka hopena, a me ka hoʻopaʻa ʻana. (No ka mea hou aku e pili ana i kēia ~ a pau ~, makemake paha ʻoe e nānā Alakaʻi hope loa iā Kink na Tristan Taormino lāua ʻo Barbara Carrellas a i ʻole Hoʻololi i kāu Kink na Galen Fous.)

ICYWW, ʻaʻole pono nā mea kūʻai aku e ʻike pono i ka mea a lākou e makemake ai e hoʻāʻo ma mua o ka hiki ʻana aku i kahi ProDomme—hiki i ka ʻoihana ke kōkua iā ʻoe e noʻonoʻo i kēlā. "Inā ʻaʻole ʻike kekahi i ka mea a lākou e makemake ai e hoʻāʻo, e kamaʻilio mākou e pili ana i ka mea hope a lākou i masturbated ai, he aha ka porn a lākou e hauʻoli ai, nā mea a lākou e noʻonoʻo ai, a me nā mea a lākou e makemake ai e manaʻo i ka wā / ma hope o kahi hālāwai," wahi a Jean. . "E hoʻohana wau i kēlā ʻikepili a hōʻike i nā hana aʻu i manaʻo ai e kūlike me kēlā, a laila e kamaʻilio hou kāua." (FYI, ʻo kēia nā moe kolohe maʻamau.)

He aha ke kau me kahi Professional Dominatrix e like me?

ʻO ka maʻamau, e hoʻomaka kahi hoʻololi ma waena o kahi ProDomme a me ka mea kūʻai aku i ka wā e googles kahi mea kūʻai aku iā Dominatrix ma ko lākou wahi a hoʻopili i kahi Domme a lākou e manaʻo ai he kūpono kūpono. A laila, e kamaʻilio pū lāua (ma o ka leka uila, kelepona, a i ʻole ka pāpaho) e pili ana i ka mea a ka mea kūʻai aku e ʻimi nei; inā he kūpono, e hana lākou i kahi manawa. Inā ʻaʻole, hiki i ka Domme ke hoʻopili i ka mea kūʻai aku me kahi loea i ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi, wahi a Shakti.

Ma hope o kēlā, ʻae ʻae lākou i kahi a me ka hālāwai. "He nui nā kau i loko o kahi lumi hōkele a i ʻole i loko o kahi hale paʻahao kahi i nui ai nā lumi liʻiliʻi," wahi a Jean. E hele aku kekahi mau Dommes i ka hale o ka mea kūʻai aku no kahi uku, akā ʻo ka mea maʻamau inā ua hana pū lākou ma mua, "i ʻōlelo ʻo ia (no ka mea, palekana).

ʻO ka 5 i ka 15 mau minuke mua o ke kau e pili ana i ke kamaʻilio ʻana a me ka ʻoluʻolu ʻana me kekahi, e like me kā Shakti. "ʻOiai inā ua kamaʻilio mua mākou e pili ana i nā mea e hiki mai ana, e hele ana mākou i ka lua o ka manawa. A laila e kamaʻilio mākou e pili ana i ko lākou kino i nā kīnā ʻole, ʻeha muscular, a i ʻole nā ​​ʻeha e hoʻopilikia paha i ka mea a mākou e hoʻolālā nei. e hana, "i ʻōlelo ʻo ia. "A laila, e uku mai ka mea kūʻai mai iaʻu, a e hoʻopaʻa mākou i ke kahua." Pehea ka lōʻihi o ka lōʻihi o kahi hanana e loli ai, akā nona, he 45 a 50 mau minuke ka lōʻihi o lākou.

ʻO kahi mea e kahaha paha ʻoe e aʻo ai, ma ka maʻamau, ʻaʻole hoʻokomo nā hiʻohiʻona i ka moekolohe. "ʻOiai he nui nā hana i loaʻa i ke ʻano moe kolohe e like me ka pāʻani lima a i ʻole ka pāʻani prostate, nui nā Dominatrices ʻoihana ʻaʻole moe kolohe me kā lākou mea kūʻai aku," wahi a Paige.

Ma hope, "e hoʻolōʻihi mākou i mau minuke e nānā ana i ko lākou ʻano," wahi a Shakti. A laila, inā he ʻauʻau ka wahi, hiki i ka mea kūʻai ke koho e hoʻohana. "A laila lulu lima mākou a hoʻokaʻawale i nā ala," wahi āna.

He noʻonoʻo ko kekahi poʻe kūʻai aku "pono" wale lākou e noho i waho i hoʻokahi manawa. "ʻO nā poʻe hou i ka BDSM makemake e puke iaʻu no kekahi mau kau i hiki ai iā mākou ke maʻalahi i loko," wahi a Shakti. Loaʻa i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe nā koho kū maʻamau me kā lākou ProDommes. (Pili: Ua hoʻopakele ʻo BDSM i kaʻu male male ʻole mai ka male male)

ʻO ka lilo ʻana i Dominatrix Lawe (Maikaʻi!) Hana

Aia kahi kuhi hewa ʻole ka hana moekolohe i ka hana "maoli" ( * ʻōwili maka *), akā ʻaʻole hiki ke hele i kahi mamao loa mai ka ʻoiaʻiʻo. "ʻO ka lilo ʻana i Dominatrix e pili ana i ke ala ʻoi aku ma mua o ka ʻohi ʻana i ka hahau a me ka uē ʻana i kekahi," wahi a Paige. ʻO ka hiki ke komo i ka BDSM me ka palekana, ʻo ia hoʻi ka ʻike ʻana i ka hahau ʻana, ka hahau ʻana, ka ʻoki ʻana, a pēlā aku. "ʻO ka poʻe o mākou e noʻonoʻo nui nei i kā mākou hana e hele i nā hale aʻo, heluhelu i nā puke, hana noiʻi, a me nā hola a me nā hola o ka hoʻomaʻamaʻa e hōʻoia ai i kēlā me kēia e hiki ke hele holoʻokoʻa a ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi ma mua o ka wā. ) ʻeha a ʻelua paha," wahi āna.

Pono nā Dominatrices i ka mākau interpersonal ikaika loa. "He paʻakikī e huki i ka ʻike mai kekahi mau mea kūʻai aku, a pono ʻoe e hiki i lalo o ka mea a lākou e makemake ai a makemake me ka hana ʻole e like me ka huki ʻana i nā niho," wahi a Shakti. Pono ʻoe i kahi intuition ikaika a hiki ke ana i ka ikehu o ka poʻe, "i hiki ai iā lākou ke hōʻoia iā lākou e kākoʻo, hōʻoia, a palekana i loko o ka wā holoʻokoʻa holoʻokoʻa," i ʻōlelo ʻo ia. Hele mai ka hapa nui o nā mea kūʻai aku i kahi kau me ka hilahila nui e pili ana i kā lākou makemake i ka moekolohe a i ʻole nā ​​loina, a me kahi ProDomme e kōkua iā lākou i ka nāhelehele i loko o kēlā mau manaʻo, wahi a Shakti. (ʻO ia ke kumu e hoʻohana ai ka nui o nā wahine i ka BDSM ma ke ʻano o ka lāʻau lapaʻau.)

Auē, a "pono ​​ʻoe e lilo i agena nou, luna hoʻomalu, hoʻolālā pūnaewele, hoʻolaha, mea hoʻomohala inoa, luna hoʻomalu nohona, mea kākau kope, a me ka mea paʻi kiʻi / paʻi wikiō," hoʻohui ʻo ia. Yep, aia kekahi kumu i kapa ʻia ai ka hana moekolohe ka wahinehana.

Mai heluhelu hewa ʻoe: ʻAʻole ia manaʻo e holo nā Dominatrices i ka palaoa. "Aia kekahi manaʻo kuhihewa ʻaʻole home ʻole a e kīloi paha mākou i mau haneli, akā ʻaʻole ia he ʻoiaʻiʻo," wahi a Shakti. "He nui ka poʻe hana wahine i waena o ka papa waena."

He aha ke ʻano o ka lilo ʻana i Dominatrix?

He ʻokoʻa maoli nōHoopaa a i ʻoleEuphoria manaʻoʻiʻo paha ʻoe. No ka poʻe hoʻomaka, hōʻike paha kēia mau hōʻike iā ProDommes ʻaʻole hiki ke noho i nā pilina olakino / aloha. ʻOiaʻiʻo, he wahaheʻe kēlā. "Hiki i ka hapanui o mākou ke mālama i nā pilina ma waho o kā mākou hana!" wahi a Jean. "ʻAe, i kekahi manawa ʻoi aku ka paʻakikī o kā mākou hana no ka mea makemake mākou i nā hoa e hoʻomaopopo a kākoʻo i kā mākou hana, akā hiki nō." ʻOiai kekahi manawa ʻo ProDommes he Dommes hoʻi i kā lākou pili aloha / moe kolohe IRL, "ʻo nā mea kuapo, hoʻolohe, a i ʻole vanilla i ko lākou ola maoli," hoʻohui ʻo Shakti. (ʻO ia hoʻi, makemake paha lākou e haʻalele i ka mana i kekahi manawa a i ʻole i nā manawa āpau, a makemake paha i kahi ola pilikino pilikino me ka ʻole o ka kink a i ʻole BDSM.)

Ma waho aʻe o kēlā, kaʻana ʻo Paige i ka lilo ʻana i ʻoihana ʻOihana Dominatrix i waiwai nui i kona ola."Ua kōkua iaʻu e ʻike i koʻu mana a loaʻa iaʻu iho ma nā ʻano ʻē aʻe ma mua o kaʻu hiki ke helu," wahi āna. "A no ka nui o nā mākau a me nā ʻike i loaʻa iaʻu mai ka lilo ʻana i Dominatrix, ua hiki iaʻu ke hoʻohana iā lākou i nā ʻano āpau o koʻu ola ... ke ola ma ke ʻano he Dominatrix. " (He ʻoiaʻiʻo: Hiki iā Kinky Sex ke hoʻonui iā ʻoe i ka noʻonoʻo.)

ʻO ka laina lalo: "ʻAʻole kuleana ka poʻe he nui e lilo i mea maoli a maoli me ko lākou makemake ma nā wahi ʻē aʻe o ko lākou ola," wahi a Paige. "ʻOiai, ʻae, hiki i ka Dominatrix ke hoʻokomo i nā hana keaka a pau o nā huita a me nā kaulahao āu e ʻike ai ma ke kīwī, ʻoi aku ka ʻoiaʻiʻo e pili ana i ka pili, ʻae, a me ka hoʻokumu ʻana i catharsis. ʻO kahi mea e pono hou ai i kēia ao pupule," i ʻōlelo ʻo ia. ʻOiaʻiʻo.

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