He aha ka Cuckolding, a no ke aha i hoʻohuli ʻia ai nā kānaka e ia?

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• He aha ka Cuckolding? ʻO kahi haʻawina mōʻaukala wikiwiki
• No ke aha e komo ai ka poʻe i Cuckolding
• Pehea e hoʻomaka ai me Cuckolding
• E noa, nā ipo pīhoihoi!
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ʻO Cuckolding, ʻoiai ʻaʻole ia he kaulana a kamaʻilio ʻia paha, he moemoeā maʻamau loa ia i waena o nā kāne. I ka noiʻi ʻana no kāna puke E haʻi mai iaʻu i kāu mea e makemake ai, Justin J. Lehmiller, Ph.D., ana iā 4,175 ʻAmelika a ʻike he 26 pākēneka o nā wahine heterosexual, 52 pākēneka o nā kāne heterosexual, 42 pakeneka o nā wahine heterosexual ʻole, a me 66 pākēneka o nā kāne non-heterosexual i moemoeā e pili ana i ka cuckolding. Aia nā subreddits holoʻokoʻa ma Reddit i hoʻolaʻa ʻia i ka r / cuckoldcommunity, r / cuckholdstories, a me r / cuckoldpsychology kēlā me kēia me nā ʻumi tausani o nā lālā.

Akā he aha ke ʻano o ka cuckolding?

Maʻaneʻi, nā pane i kāu mau nīnau cuckolding āpau (a ʻo kekahi ʻaʻole paha ʻoe i ʻike iā ʻoe) a me nā ʻōlelo aʻo e pili ana pehea e kamaʻilio ai e pili ana i ka cuckolding me kāu (mau) hoa.

E noho i hope, e hoʻomaha, a e ʻae iā ʻoe iho e ʻimi i ka hiki ke loaʻa i kahi huakaʻi moe kolohe hou.

He aha ka Cuckolding? ʻO kahi haʻawina mōʻaukala wikiwiki

Hiki ke paʻakikī ka moʻolelo o ka cuckolding - akā ʻo ia ke kumu, ma ke ʻano he mea hoʻonaʻauao wahine a me ka hoʻoponopono pili, makemake nui wau i ke aʻo ʻana, ka uhaʻi ʻana i nā stigmas, a me ka hoʻoikaika ʻana i ka poʻe e apo i ko lākou ʻano. (ʻO nā ʻāpana ou āu e ʻike ʻole ai e pili ana.)

TBH, ʻaʻole wau he pā o ka wehewehe kūhelu o ka pūnaewele i ka cuckold. Akā, no ka pono o ka mōʻaukala a me ka hoʻomau ʻana e wāwahi i nā stereotypes heteronormitve i loko o ko mākou kaiāulu, e kamaʻilio e pili ana.

Wahi a Merriam-Webster, he kāne kahi cuckold kolohe kāna wahine. ʻO ka wahine a ke kāne moekolohe he cuckquean.

Eia kekahi laʻana: In Hamilton, ma hope o ka ʻike ʻia ʻana ua hiamoe ʻo Alexander Hamilton ponoʻī me kekahi wahine ʻē aʻe, ua kākau kāna kāne iā Hamilton e ʻōlelo ana "eh oh, ua hoʻolilo ʻoe i ka mea hānai hewa i ʻūpā."

I loko o nā makahiki (mahalo mahalo), ua kupu ka huaʻōlelo cuckolding e ʻōlelo i kekahi mea hou aʻe ma nā laina o kahi fetish a kink paha kahi kanaka (i kapa ʻia ʻo "cuck") e hoʻohuli ʻia e kā lākou hoa (i kapa ʻia ʻo "cuckoldress" ) ka moe ʻana me kekahi mea ʻē aʻe (kapa pinepine ʻia ʻo "ka bipi"). I nā hanana i kuhi ʻia, huli ʻia ka ʻūlū e ke nānā nei moekolohe kā lākou hoa me kekahi mea ʻē aʻe.

ʻOiaʻiʻo, e like me nā huaʻōlelo ʻē aʻe ma ke ʻano o ka moekolohe, hiki ke wehewehe pololei i ka wehewehe ʻana o kēlā me kēia kāne a me ka mea a kēlā me kēia kanaka e ʻae hauʻoli ai (ma hope paha o nā kūkākūkā lōʻihi e pili ana i nā pae hōʻoluʻolu).

I kēia mau lā, hiki iā ʻoe ke nīnauele i nā kāne a pau i komo pū i ka cuckold a hiki i kēlā me kēia manaʻo o ke ʻano o ke ʻano o ka cuckolding - ʻo ia ke kilokilo o ke kamaʻilio, hoʻokolohua ʻana, a me ka honua e ulu mau nei o ka moekolohe.

No ke aha e komo ai ka poʻe i Cuckolding

Inā ʻaʻole ʻoe i lohe i ka cuckolding a ʻaʻole ʻoe i ʻoluʻolu i ka manaʻo o ka hoʻāʻo ʻana, e noʻonoʻo paha ʻoe no ke aha i ʻike ai ka nui o nā kāne he nani loa.

No nā poʻe he nui, ka manaʻo o ka nānā ʻana i kā lākou hoa e hana nei i nā mea leʻaleʻa me kekahi kanaka ʻē aʻe ma mua o ka pīhoihoi. E ʻae ʻoe iaʻu e pena i kahi kiʻi iā ʻoe: E moe kolohe ʻoe me kāu pakanā ma kahi maʻa mau a maopopo leʻa, wela kēlā! Akā, ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻike i kona ʻano mai nā kihi ʻē aʻe a me ko lākou ʻano maoli i ka wā e moe ai. ʻO wau e ʻōlelo nei, he porn hana ola ia, i mua o kou alo, a ʻo kou hoa ka hōkū. (Pili: Pehea e pili ai i ka wahine maoli i ka wahine a me nā pilina?)

No kekahi poʻe leʻaleʻa i ka voyeurism (leʻaleʻa i ka nānā ʻana i ka poʻe i ka moe kolohe), ʻoi aku ka hauʻoli o ka nānā ʻana e like me ka hana ʻana (ʻoi aku paha). A no nā mea hōʻikeʻike (nā mea e leʻaleʻa i ka moekolohe ʻana i mua o nā poʻe ʻē aʻe), he ala leʻaleʻa kēia e ʻimi ai i kēlā.

Hoʻohui, hiki i kekahi o ka ikaika ikaika i ka pāʻani ʻana i kahi kūlana cuckold. ʻO ka manawa pinepine, aia ka bipi i ka hana nui, e hana ana i kahi hiʻohiʻona a i ʻole ke kūlana e hiki ai i nā mea ʻelua a i ʻole kekahi o nā poʻe ʻē aʻe ke hoʻolohe.

Kaukaʻi ʻia i ka wahine o ka poʻe i pili, hiki i ka cuckolding ke lilo i ala maikaʻi loa e ʻimi ai i kāu moekolohe ʻoiai e noho ana i loko o kahi pilina e noho nei. ʻOiaʻiʻo leʻaleʻa: Ma mua o 12,000 poʻe e ʻimi nei iā Google no "bi cuckold" i kēlā me kēia mahina. (E pili ana: He aha ke ʻano o ka Bisexuality, ʻaʻole manaʻo, a pehea e ʻike ai inā ʻoe ʻo Bi)

A no kekahi poʻe, ʻo ka hoʻohaʻahaʻa cuckold ke kiʻi nui; maʻamau, ʻo ka manaʻo o ka hoʻopunipuni ʻia (consensually) e hāpai i nā manaʻo lili a me ka hoʻohaʻahaʻa i hiki ke lilo i huli nui. ʻO ka hoʻohaʻahaʻa he mea noʻonoʻo maʻamau a pili kokoke i ka pāʻani hoʻohaʻahaʻa.

He ipu maoli ʻo Cuckolding kahi e hiki ai i nā dynamics pīhoihoi like ʻole ke hiki mai: compersion (ka hana o ka ʻike ʻana i ka hauʻoli i ka leʻaleʻa a me ka ulu ʻana o kāu hoa), lili (ʻaʻole ia he mea maikaʻi ʻole), e hoʻokō ana i kahi moemoeā, pāʻani mana - ka Kūpono nā kūlana.

Pehea e hoʻomaka ai me Cuckolding

I kēia manawa, ua aʻo ʻoe e pili ana i ka cuckolding, pehea ʻoe e hoʻomaka ai? (Inā hoihoi ʻoe a me kāu pakanā i ka hoʻokolohua.)

ʻO kaʻu manaʻo mua e kamaʻilio. Akaka paha kēia, akā e ʻae wau e wehewehe.

ʻO ka mea mua, e kamaʻilio e pili ana i ka mea e loaʻa i kēlā me kēia o ʻoukou i ka moekolohe e pili ana i ka manaʻo o cuckolding a no ke aha. A laila e wehewehe i nā kuleana a kēlā me kēia kanaka e komo ai inā/i ka wā e hana ʻia ai ka cuckolding. ʻO kēia ala ʻolua ma ka ʻaoʻao like a hiki ke hoʻomaka i ke kuhi ʻana i ka moemoeā like.

A laila, lawe i loko o ka lumi moe - akā e like me ʻolua. ʻOiai ʻoe e moe kolohe ana, e kamaʻilio pū me ʻoe e pili ana i nā mea e hiki mai ana i kēia manawa inā ʻoe i loko o kahi kūlana cuckolding. E hāʻawi kēlā me kēia kanaka i ka mea a lākou e hana nei, i ka mea a lākou e makemake ai i kā lākou hoa, a me ka mea a ke kolu o ka poʻe e hana ana. E noʻonoʻo paha ʻoe i ka nānā ʻana i kekahi porn cuckolding pono e hōʻoluʻolu me ka manaʻo a ʻike pehea e pāʻani ai. (E aʻe ma aneʻi: Pehea e loaʻa ai kahi ʻekolu olakino olakino)

He mea nui kēia no ka mea he mea kūpono ia a ʻae iā ʻoe e pāʻani pū i kēia moemoeā ma mua o ka lele ʻana i loko o kekahi mea.

A laila, hoʻomaka e nānā! Nui nā polokalamu pili i ka moekolohe e hiki ai i nā kāne ke hoʻohana e ʻimi i kahi mea aloha ʻekolu e komo i ka leʻaleʻa. Hāʻawi ʻo Hashtag Open i nā kāne e hana i kahi pilikino e pili ana iā lākou iho, nā mea a lākou e ʻimi nei, a me nā mea a lākou e ʻoluʻolu ai e pili ana i nā hoʻonohonoho. Mālama kēia i hiki i nā poʻe ke hōʻemi i kā lākou hulina e ʻike i ka poʻe ʻae ʻae kūpono no ka leʻaleʻa cuckolding. ʻO Feeld kekahi polokalamu hoʻopaneʻe wahine no nā kāne a me nā kāne male e ʻimi nei i "ka launa ma mua o ka maʻamau."

He huaʻōlelo i ka poʻe naʻauao: Mai "pīhoihoi" i kekahi me ka cuckold (a i ʻole kekahi mea e moekolohe ai no ia mea). Inā ʻae kekahi e moekolohe me ʻoe akā ke manaʻo nei ʻoe e hoʻihoʻi iā lākou i ka home i kāu hoa ... ʻaʻole ia ʻo ke ala maikaʻi loa. Pono ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, ke kamaʻilio nui ʻana, a me ka hoʻolālā ʻana no ka hapa nui o nā ʻike moe kolohe - a hilinaʻi iaʻu, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka manawa sexy i ka wā hopohopo ʻole a wehe ʻia nā palena / palena o kēlā me kēia kanaka! (Pili: Pehea e hoʻonohonoho ai i nā palena me kekahi i kou ola)

E noa, nā ipo pīhoihoi!

Inā loaʻa kahi mea āu e lawe ai mai kēia, e ʻae: kamaʻilio, kamaʻilio, kamaʻilio. Paʻakikī ka moekolohe, akā hiki ke ʻoi aku ka paʻakikī (a ʻoi aku ka leʻaleʻa) inā ʻoe e lawe mai i nā mea āpau a me nā palena ma ke ākea i hiki i nā ʻaoʻao āpau ke ʻike iā lākou. A laila, e leʻaleʻa i kahi cuckolding.

ʻO Rachel Wright, M.A., L.M.F.T., (ʻo ia) he mea lapaʻau psychotherapist, hoʻonaʻauao wahine, a me ka loea pili i hoʻokumu ʻia ma New York City.He ʻōlelo akamai ʻo ia, he mea hoʻoponopono hui, a he mea kākau. Ua hana ʻo ia me nā kaukani mau kānaka ma ka honua holoʻokoʻa e kōkua iā lākou e uē liʻiliʻi a hoʻonui hou.

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