7 Mea a ka poʻe me ka Borderline Personality Disorder makemake ʻoe e ʻike

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• 1. 'makaʻu mākou e haʻalele ʻoe, ʻoiai ke maikaʻi nā mea. A ʻino mākou pū kekahi. '
• 2. 'Āno me he mea lā e hele ana i ke ola me ke kunu naʻau kolu o ka naʻau; wela nā mea āpau a ʻeha hoʻi e hoʻopā. '
• 3. 'Oi aku ka ikaika o nā mea āpau: maikaʻi, maikaʻi ʻole, a i ʻole nā ​​mea ʻē aʻe. ʻO kā mākou pane ʻana i kēlā mau manaʻo e like paha me ka kaulike ʻole, akā kūpono ia i ko mākou manaʻo. '
• 4. 'Aʻohe oʻu mau pilikino he nui.'
• 5. 'Aʻole weliweli mākou a manipulative paha ... [pono] makou i kahi wahi keu o ke aloha keu.'
• 6. 'He luhi a hoʻonāukiuki hoʻi. A paʻakikī loa e loaʻa ka maikaʻi, mālama kūpono. '
• 7. 'ʻAʻole mākou he aloha ʻole a aloha nui mākou.'
• Inā pili ʻoe a i ʻole he mea aloha me BPD, he mea nui e hana i kāu noiʻi i ke ʻano, a e akahele hoʻi i nā stereotypes āu e ʻike ai.

Hoʻomaopopo pinepine ʻole ʻia ka maʻi pilikino. ʻO ka manawa kēia e hoʻololi ai i kēlā.

ʻO ka maʻi pilikino pilikino - {textend} ʻike ʻia i kekahi manawa ʻo ke ʻano kūlohelohe ʻole ʻano ʻole - ʻo {textend} kahi maʻi pilikino e pili ana i kou manaʻo a me kou manaʻo iā ʻoe iho a me nā poʻe ʻē aʻe.

ʻO ka poʻe me ka maʻi pilikino borderline (BPD) he makaʻu nui i ka haʻalele ʻana, hakakā e mālama i nā pilina olakino, loaʻa nā manaʻo ikaika loa, hana impulsively, a ʻike paha lākou i ka paranoia a me ka haʻalele.

Hiki iā ia ke lilo i maʻi weliweli e noho pū, no laila he mea nui ia e hoʻopuni ʻia ka poʻe me ka BPD e ka poʻe i hiki ke hoʻomaopopo a kākoʻo iā lākou. Akā he maʻi kūpilikiʻi ʻole ia.

Ma muli o ka nui o nā kuhi hewa a puni ia, hopohopo nā poʻe he nui me kēia maʻi e ʻōlelo e pili ana i ka noho pū ʻana me ia.

Akā makemake mākou e hoʻololi i kēlā.

ʻO ia ke kumu i kiʻi aku ai wau a nīnau aku i ka poʻe me BPD e haʻi iā mākou i ka mea a lākou e makemake ai e ʻike ka poʻe ʻē aʻe e pili ana i ka noho ʻana me ke ʻano. Eia ʻehiku o kā lākou pane ikaika.

1. 'makaʻu mākou e haʻalele ʻoe, ʻoiai ke maikaʻi nā mea. A ʻino mākou pū kekahi. '

ʻO kekahi o nā hōʻailona nui loa o ka BPD ka makaʻu i ka haʻalele ʻana a hiki i kēia ke hana ʻoiai ke holo pono nei nā mea i ka pilina.

Aia kēia makaʻu nui e haʻalele ka poʻe iā mākou, a i ʻole ʻaʻole lawa mākou no kēlā kanaka - {textend} a inā paha he manaʻo maikaʻi ʻole ia i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe, hiki ke ʻike maoli i ka mea e hakakā nei.

ʻO kekahi me ka BPD e hana i kekahi mea e hōʻoki i kēlā hana, ʻo ia ke kumu i ʻike ai lākou he "clingy" a "nele." ʻOiai he mea paʻakikī ke empathize me, e hoʻomanaʻo e hele mai ia mai kahi o ka makaʻu, kahi paʻakikī paʻakikī e noho pū me ia.

2. 'Āno me he mea lā e hele ana i ke ola me ke kunu naʻau kolu o ka naʻau; wela nā mea āpau a ʻeha hoʻi e hoʻopā. '

Wahi a kēia kanaka pololei pololei - {textend} ʻo ka poʻe me BPD he naʻau ikaika loa ka mea hiki ke hala mai kekahi mau hola a i kekahi mau lā, a hiki ke loli me ka wikiwiki.

ʻO kahi laʻana, hiki iā mākou ke hele mai ka hauʻoli loa i ka haʻahaʻa a kaumaha loa. ʻO ka loaʻa ʻana o ka BPD e like me ka hele ʻana ma nā ʻāpana manu a puni ʻoe - {textend} ʻaʻole mākou i ʻike i ke ala hea e hele ai ko mākou naʻau, a i kekahi manawa paʻakikī e kaohi.

ʻOiai inā mākou he "over-sensitive", e hoʻomanaʻo ʻaʻole ia ma loko o kā mākou kaohi.

3. 'Oi aku ka ikaika o nā mea āpau: maikaʻi, maikaʻi ʻole, a i ʻole nā ​​mea ʻē aʻe. ʻO kā mākou pane ʻana i kēlā mau manaʻo e like paha me ka kaulike ʻole, akā kūpono ia i ko mākou manaʻo. '

ʻO ka loaʻa ʻana o ka BPD hiki ke ikaika loa, me he mea lā ke hoʻomaha nei mākou ma waena o nā mea ʻoi loa. Hiki i kēia ke luhi no mākou a no nā poʻe a puni mākou.

Akā he mea nui e hoʻomanaʻo i nā mea āpau a ka mea me ka BPD e noʻonoʻo nei ma mua o ke kūpono i ko lākou manaʻo i kēlā manawa. No laila e ʻoluʻolu mai haʻi mai iā mākou e lapuwale a e hoʻokau iā mākou me he mea ʻole ʻole ko mākou mau manaʻo.

Lōʻihi paha lākou i ka manawa e noʻonoʻo ai i ko mākou mau manaʻo - {textend} akā i kēia manawa hiki i nā mea ke makaʻu e like me gehena. ʻO kēia ka hoʻopaʻi ʻole ʻana a me ka hāʻawi ʻana i kahi a me ka manawa kahi e pono ai.

4. 'Aʻohe oʻu mau pilikino he nui.'

Ma muli o ia ʻano maʻi pilikino, huikau pinepine ʻo BPD me kekahi e loaʻa ʻole ka maʻi pilikino dissociative, kahi e hoʻomohala ai ka poʻe i nā ʻano pilikino he nui.

Akā ʻaʻole kēia ka hihia. ʻAʻole i ʻoi aku ka ʻano o ka poʻe me ka BPD. ʻO ka BPD kahi maʻi pilikino kahi e loaʻa ai nā pilikia me kou manaʻo a me kou manaʻo e pili ana iā ʻoe iho a me nā poʻe ʻē aʻe, a ke loaʻa nei nā pilikia i kou ola ma muli o kēia.

ʻAʻole ia he kumu e stigmatized ʻia ka maʻi ʻokoʻa dissociative, a ʻoiaʻiʻo ʻaʻole naʻe e huikau ʻia me kahi maʻi ʻē aʻe.

5. 'Aʻole weliweli mākou a manipulative paha ... [pono] makou i kahi wahi keu o ke aloha keu.'

Aia kekahi stigma nui e pili ana iā BPD. Manaʻo nui ka poʻe he hiki i nā poʻe e noho pū me ia ke manipulative a weliweli paha ma muli o kā lākou mau ʻōuli.

ʻOiai hiki i kēia ke hihia i kahi hapa liʻiliʻi loa o ka poʻe, ʻo ka hapa nui o ka poʻe me BPD e hakakā wale nei me ko lākou ʻano iho a me kā lākou mau pilina.

He mea nui e hoʻomaopopo ʻaʻole mākou he poʻe weliweli. ʻO ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻoi aku ka poʻe i loaʻa i ka maʻi noʻonoʻo e hōʻeha iā lākou iho ma mua o kekahi.

6. 'He luhi a hoʻonāukiuki hoʻi. A paʻakikī loa e loaʻa ka maikaʻi, mālama kūpono. '

ʻAʻole mālama ʻia nā poʻe he nui me ka BPD, akā ʻaʻole no ka makemake ʻole. No ka mea ʻaʻole mālama ʻia kēia maʻi noʻonoʻo e like me nā mea ʻē aʻe.

No hoʻokahi, ʻaʻole mālama ʻia ʻo BPD me ka lāʻau. Hiki ke mālama wale ʻia me ka lāʻau, e like me ka dialectical behavioral therapy (DBT) a me ka cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT). ʻAʻohe lāʻau i ʻike ʻia he maikaʻi no ka mālama ʻana iā BPD (ʻoiai i kekahi manawa hoʻohana ʻia nā lāʻau i ka lepili e hōʻoluʻolu i nā ʻōuli).

He ʻoiaʻiʻo hoʻi ma muli o ka stigma, manaʻo kekahi mau kauka lapaʻau he poʻe maʻi paʻakikī ka poʻe me ka BPD, a ʻoiai, paʻakikī e loaʻa ka lāʻau maikaʻi.

Hiki i nā poʻe he nui me ka BPD ke pōmaikaʻi mai nā polokalamu DBT ikaika, akā ʻaʻole kēia ka maʻalahi e komo ai. ʻO ka mea e ʻōlelo nei, inā ʻaʻole ʻo "me ka maikaʻi o ka maikaʻi" o kekahi me BPD, mai wikiwiki e hōʻino iā lākou - {textend} paʻakikī ka loaʻa ʻana o ke kōkua nona iho.

7. 'ʻAʻole mākou he aloha ʻole a aloha nui mākou.'

Nui ke aloha o ka poʻe me ka BPD, no laila hiki ke loli.

Hiki i nā pilina ke like me kahi puahiohio i kekahi manawa, no ka mea ke loaʻa kekahi me BPD - {textend} ʻo ia mau mea e ʻumeʻume nei me nā manaʻo mau o ka ʻole a me ka mehameha - {textend} hana i kahi pilina maoli, hiki i ka wikiwiki ke like ka ikaika me nā manaʻo ʻē aʻe a lākou e ʻike ai. .

Hiki i kēia ke hana i ka pilina me kekahi me BPD paʻakikī, akā ʻo ia hoʻi he kanaka kēia e aloha nui e hāʻawi. Makemake wale lākou e ʻike i ka hoʻihoʻi ʻia mai o ko lākou mau manaʻo, a pono paha i kahi hōʻoia hou aʻe e hōʻoia i ka hoʻokō ʻana o ka pili no ʻolua.

Inā pili ʻoe a i ʻole he mea aloha me BPD, he mea nui e hana i kāu noiʻi i ke ʻano, a e akahele hoʻi i nā stereotypes āu e ʻike ai.

ʻO nā manawa kūpono, inā heluhelu ʻoe i kekahi mea e pili ana i ka maʻi pilikino palena ʻole āu e makemake ai e ʻōlelo ʻo ʻoe, ʻaʻole pōmaikaʻi kahi kanaka me BPD mai ka noʻonoʻo ʻana e pili ana iā lākou.

Ke hana nei i loaʻa ka ʻike aloha i ka mea a lākou e hele nei, a pehea e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke kōkua i kāu mea aloha a me ʻoe iho e kū, hiki ke hana a haki paha i kahi pilina.

Inā makemake ʻoe e pono i kahi kākoʻo keu, e wehe aʻe i kekahi e pili ana i kou ʻano - {textend} bonus puan inā he mea hoʻoponopono a mea lapaʻau paha. - {textend} no laila hiki iā lākou ke hāʻawi iā ʻoe i kekahi kākoʻo a me nā ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo e pili ana i ka hoʻomaikaʻi ʻana i kou pono noʻonoʻo ponoʻī.

E hoʻomanaʻo, ʻo ke kākoʻo ʻoi loa no kāu mea aloha e hele mai ana mai ka lawe ʻana i kahi mālama kūpono maikaʻi loa iā ʻoe.

ʻO Hattie Gladwell kahi mea kākau olakino olakino, mea kākau, a mea kākoʻo. Kākau ʻo ia e pili ana i ka maʻi noʻonoʻo me ka lana o ka manaʻo e hōʻemi i ka stigma a paipai i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe e ʻōlelo.