E kali ʻoe a hiki i ka hala o nā lā nui e haki me kāu S.O?

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Ua paʻi mua ʻia kēia moʻolelo ma Dekemaba 17, 2014.

Hānai i nā breakup, ʻaʻohe mea o ka manawa o ka makahiki. Eia nō naʻe, ʻo ka wā hoʻomaha, he ʻano ʻano kupaianaha ponoʻī nō ia e hana ai i kahi āpau ʻinoʻino he makaʻu ʻole.E hōʻino i nā kukui twinkly a me mistletoe a hauʻoli hoʻi, nā kāne paʻa lima-ʻo ke kumu, inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e kūʻai ʻia aku ma kāu S.O., hiki ke lilo i mea hoʻowalewale e ʻokiʻoki i nā pili a hoʻopau i ka makahiki wale nō.

Inā hopohopo ʻoe i ka nānā ʻana i ka loko ʻino a hōʻeha paha i ka mea ʻē aʻe, mai makaʻu, wahi a Sofi Papamarko o ka Hoa o kahi Hoa Matchmaking ma Toronto. "ʻIke nō, noʻonoʻo ʻole ka hoʻolei ʻana i kekahi ma ka lā Kalikimaka a i ʻole Eve Makahiki Hou," i ʻōlelo ai ʻo ia. "Pēlā no ka lā Valentine, ko lākou lā hānau, a i ʻole ka lā i waiho ai i kā lākou pōpoki." Eia nō naʻe, wehewehe ʻo ia, "he lapuwale a he ʻano ʻino loa ke noho ʻana me kekahi no ka lōʻihi o kou pono no ka lā hoʻomaha e hiki mai ana." Eia kekahi, inā ʻoe e noho pū ana, "he mea maikaʻi ka haʻihaʻi ʻana ma mua o ka wā hoʻomaha - e hāʻawi iā ʻoe i manawa e haʻalele ai i kāu wahi kaʻana no nā home ʻohana a e ʻae iā ʻoe e noʻonoʻo i nā hana aʻe."

Inā maopopo ʻole iā ʻoe i waho a i waho e pili ana i ka manawa o ka haki, hana i nā mea āu e hana ai i kekahi manawa ʻē aʻe o ka makahiki: E kamaʻilio e pili ana i kāu mau hopohopo me kāu hoa. ʻOiaʻiʻo, hiki ke hōʻoluʻolu ʻia kēlā mau kūkākūkā mokuʻāina o ka uniona, akā pono lākou no ka maopopo (no ʻolua). "Inā manaʻo ʻoe ua kuʻikuʻi kou pilina i kahi palahalaha a i ʻole pono i kāu nānā, e kamaʻilio ākea e pili ana i ia mea," ʻōlelo aʻo ʻo Marni Battista, he kumu aʻo huikau mai Dating me Dignity. "ʻAʻohe pono e noho i kahi pilina kūpono ʻole iā ʻoe. Akā, inā manaʻo ia he mea pono ia, e hoʻokau i ka manawa a me ka ikaika i loko o ka wā hoʻomaha a ʻaʻole paha."

He aha e pili ana i kēlā mau kāne a ʻike ʻoluʻolu ʻole lākou, e pili naʻe a hiki i ka makahiki hou? He mea ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka pilina pili ʻole ma mua o ka hoʻoponopono ʻana i nā lā hoʻomaha. "He mea maʻalahi loa ka lilo ʻana i ka hoahānau hoʻokahi wale nō ma kahi ʻaha hoʻomaha e piha ana me nā kāne, nā wahine, nā hoa pili, a me nā pēpē - e hāpai i kou lima inā ʻoe i kou mau makahiki he 30 a ke noho mau nei i ka papaʻaina o nā keiki!" Hoʻohui ʻo Papamarko. I kekahi mau makahiki i hala aku nei, aia ʻo Leann, 30, i loko o "kahi pilina ʻehiku mau mahina crappy" me kāna ipo aloha, ʻo Jeff. "Ma mua o ka lā hoʻomaha, kānalua loa wau i ka pilina a hoʻokahi wāwae i waho o ka puka," i hoʻomanaʻo ai ʻo ia. Akā naʻe, ua koho ʻo ia e noho pū me kāna hoa noho maikaʻi ʻole ma mua o ka hoʻoikaika ʻana i kahi Kalikimaka anuanu iā ia iho. "Ma mua o koʻu hālāwai ʻana me ia, ua noho kaʻawale au no nā makahiki, a hoʻomanaʻo wau i koʻu noho mehameha," wahi āna. "No laila, ua pau wau i ka kali ʻana e hoʻolei iā Jeff a hiki i ka pau ʻana o ka pupule hoʻomaha.

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