No ke aha ka manawa e wāwahi ai i ka moʻolelo o ka makuahine hemolele

ʻAʻohe mea e like me ka maikaʻi loa ma ka makuahine. ʻAʻohe makuahine hemolele e like me ʻaʻohe keiki maikaʻi ʻole kāne ʻole a ʻohana hemolele paha a male maikaʻi ʻole.

Hoʻopā ka olakino a me ke olakino i kēlā me kēia o mākou. ʻO kēia ka moʻolelo a kekahi kanaka.

Piha kā mākou kaiāulu i nā leka, ka huna a me ka hūnā, i manaʻo ai nā makuahine i ka lawa ʻole - {textend} no ka nui o kā mākou hana nui. He ʻoiaʻiʻo loa kēia i loko o ka ʻāina kamepiula o kēia lā kahi i hoʻopuehu mau ʻia me nā kiʻi e hoʻoulu ai i ka "maikaʻi" ma nā wahi āpau o ke ola - {textend} home, work, body.

ʻO wau paha ke kuleana no kekahi o ia mau kiʻi. Ma ke ʻano he blog manawa piha a me ka mea hana ʻike ʻike, he ʻāpana wau o kahi hanauna e hana i nā kiʻi hauʻoli e hōʻike wale ana i nā wili koʻikoʻi o ko mākou ola. Eia naʻe wau ka mea mua e ʻae i ka wā ʻaʻole hoʻopunipuni ka pāpili kaiaulu, akā piha ia mālama ʻia. A ʻo ke kaomi nui e hana ai i "makuahine hemolele" e hōʻino ai i ko mākou olakino a me ka hauʻoli.

ʻAʻohe mea e like me ka maikaʻi loa ma ka makuahine. ʻAʻohe makuahine hemolele e like me ʻaʻohe keiki maikaʻi ʻole kāne ʻole a ʻohana hemolele paha a male maikaʻi ʻole. Ke ʻike koke mākou a ʻapo i kēia ʻoiaʻiʻo nui loa, ʻo ka wikiwiki nō ia o ko mākou hoʻokuʻu ʻana iā mākou iho mai nā manaʻo kūpono ʻole e hiki ai ke hōʻemi i ko mākou hauʻoli a lawe i ko mākou ʻano waiwai.

I ka wā i lilo ai wau i makuahine 13 mau makahiki i hala, ua hoʻoikaika wau e lilo i makuahine maikaʻi loa aʻu i ʻike ai ma ke kīwī i ka wā e ulu ana i nā '80s a me' 90s. Ua makemake wau e lilo i makuahine nani, lokomaikaʻi, hoʻomanawanui mau nāna e hana maikaʻi i nā mea āpau me ka ʻole o ka mōhai ʻana i kāna wahine.

Ua ʻike wau i ka makuahine makuahine maikaʻi e like me kahi mea āu e hoʻokō ai ma ka hana ʻana, e like me ke komo ʻana i kahi koleke maikaʻi a i ʻole ke hoʻolimalima ʻia no kāu hana moemoeā.

Akā i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, mamao loa ka makuahine mai ka mea aʻu i manaʻo ai he kaikamahine ʻōpio.

I ʻelua mau makahiki i ka wā makuahine ua ʻike wau i ke kaumaha, kaawale, ka mehameha a me ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻana iaʻu iho a me nā poʻe ʻē aʻe. He mau pēpē kaʻu ma lalo o ʻelua a ʻaʻole wau i hiamoe ma mua o ʻelua a ʻekolu mau hola i ka pō i nā mahina.

Ua hoʻomaka kaʻu kaikamahine mua e hōʻike i nā ʻōuli o ka lohi o ka hoʻomohala (ua ʻike ʻia ʻo ia me ka maʻi maʻi) a ua makemake kaʻu kaikamahine pēpē iaʻu a puni ka uaki.

Ua makaʻu loa wau e noi i ke kōkua no ka mea ua kūʻai lapuwale wau i ka manaʻo ʻo ka noi ʻana i ke kōkua he kumu maikaʻi ʻole wau a hemahema hoʻi. Ua hoʻāʻo wau e lilo i mea āpau i nā mea āpau a hūnā ma hope o ka pale maka o kahi makuahine kūpau nāna i hui pū. ʻO ka hope ua pā wau i ka pōhaku i lalo a ua ʻike ʻia me ke kaumaha postpartum.

I kēia manawa, ua koi ʻia wau e hoʻomaka hou a aʻo hou i ka mea a ka makuahine e pili maoli ai. Ua pono nō wau e kiʻi hou i koʻu ʻano he makuahine - {textend} ʻaʻole e like me ka mea a haʻi e ʻōlelo ai, akā e like me ka mea maikaʻi a kūpono hoʻi naʻu a me kaʻu mau keiki.

Ua pōmaikaʻi wau i ka loaʻa ʻana o ka mālama olakino koke a lanakila i kēia maʻi nāwaliwali me ke kōkua o nā antidepressants, kākoʻo ʻohana, a me ka mālama pilikino. Ua hala he mau mahina o ke kūkā kamaʻilio ʻana, ka heluhelu ʻana, ka noiʻi ʻana, ka puke pai ʻana, ka noʻonoʻo ʻana, a me ka noʻonoʻo ʻana e ʻike hope loa ai he manaʻo kaʻao ka manaʻo o ka makuahine hemolele. Pono wau e haʻalele i kēia kūlana luku inā makemake wau e lilo i makuahine i hoʻokō maoli ʻia a kū i mua no kaʻu mau keiki.

ʻO ka hoʻokuʻu ʻana i ka maikaʻi e hiki ke hoʻolōʻihi no kekahi ma mua o nā mea ʻē aʻe. Pili maoli ia i ko mākou ʻano, ka ʻohana, a me ka makemake e loli. Hoʻokahi mea i koe paʻa, eia naʻe, ʻo ka ʻoiaʻiʻo ke haʻalele ʻoe i ka maikaʻi, hoʻomaka maoli ʻoe e mahalo i ka haunaele a me ka maʻaleʻale o ka makuahine. E hāmama hope loa kou mau maka i nā nani āpau e moe ana i ka hemahema a hoʻomaka ʻoe i kahi huakaʻi hou o ka makua noʻonoʻo.

ʻOi aku ka maʻalahi o ka makua noʻonoʻo ma mua o kā mākou e noʻonoʻo ai. ʻO ia hoʻi ke ʻike piha nei mākou i nā mea a mākou e hana nei i kēlā manawa. Hele a piha a ʻike piha i nā manawa o kēlā me kēia lā ma kahi o ka hoʻopili ʻana iā mākou iho me kēlā hana a kuleana hou paha. Kōkua kēia iā mākou e mahalo a komo i nā leʻaleʻa maʻalahi o ka makuahine e like me ka pāʻani ʻana i nā pāʻani, ke nānā ʻana i kahi kiʻi ʻoniʻoni, a i ʻole ke kuke ʻana i ʻohana ma kahi o ka hoʻomaʻemaʻe a hoʻomākaukau ʻana paha i kahi papa ʻaina Pinterest.

ʻOiai he makua noʻonoʻo ʻaʻole mākou e hoʻolilo i kā mākou manawa i ke koʻikoʻi ʻana i ka mea i hana ʻole ʻia a hoʻololi i kā mākou nānā i ka mea e hiki iā mākou ke hana no mākou iho a me kā mākou poʻe i aloha i kēlā manawa, ma hea kēlā wahi.

Ma ke ʻano he mākua, waiwai nui ia e hoʻonohonoho i nā mea i manaʻo ʻia a me nā pahuhopu no mākou iho a me kā mākou poʻe keiki. ʻO ke apo ʻana i ka maʻaleʻale a me nā haunaele o ke ola e pōmaikaʻi ai i ko mākou ʻohana holoʻokoʻa ma ke aʻo ʻana iā lākou i ke kaʻina hana i ka wā a mākou e ʻae ai iā mākou iho a me kā mākou poʻe aloha me ka naʻau āpau. Lilo mākou i mea aloha, empati, ʻae, a kala hou aku. He mea nui e kuleana no kā mākou hana o kēlā me kēia lā o ka papa, akā pono mākou e hoʻomanaʻo mua e ʻapo i nā ʻaoʻao āpau o ka makuahine, me nā mea maikaʻi ʻole a me nā mea maikaʻi ʻole.

ʻO Angela ka mea nāna i hana a me ka mea kākau o ka blog nohona kaulana ʻo Mommy Diary. He MA a me kāna BA ma ka ʻōlelo Pelekania a me nā ʻike kiʻi a ma kahi o 15 mau makahiki o ke aʻo ʻana a me ke kākau ʻana. I kona ʻike ʻana iā ia iho he makuahine hoʻokaʻawale a kaumaha hoʻi o ʻelua, ua ʻimi ʻo ia i ka pilina maoli me nā makuahine ʻē aʻe a huli i nā blog. Mai ia manawa, ua lilo kāna blog pilikino i kahi wahi nohona e makemake nui ʻia kahi e hoʻoulu ai a hoʻoulu ai i nā mākua a puni ka honua me kāna moʻolelo haʻi moʻolelo a me ka ʻike noʻeau. He mea hāʻawi maʻamau ʻo ia no TODAY, Nā Mākua, a me The Huffington Post, a ua launa pū me nā pēpē pēpē, ʻohana, a me nā ʻano nohona lehulehu. Noho ʻo ia ma Kaleponi Hema me kāna kāne, ʻekolu mau keiki, a ke hana nei i kāna puke mua.