E ʻoluʻolu e kōkua i ka hōʻoki ʻana i ka ʻeha mai ka hōʻino ʻana i kaʻu ola kolohe

ʻAʻole ʻae ʻia ka ʻeha i ka wā o ka moekolohe.

Na Alexis Lira i hoʻolālā

Q: ʻeha wale ka moekolohe iaʻu, ʻoiai wau e hele i kai ma ka lubricant. Ma luna o kēlā, ʻeha pū wau a ʻeha loa i laila. Pau kēia ʻano ʻōpala i nā mea āpau e pili ana i ka moekolohe, no ka mea ʻaʻole hiki iaʻu ke loaʻa he 100 pākēneka ʻoluʻolu. Kōkua, he aha kaʻu e hana ai?

Auē, ʻaʻole ʻae ʻia kēia - {textend} a i ʻole ʻae ʻia, ke ʻōlelo nei ʻoe ʻaʻole ʻoe e manaʻo e hōʻeha ka wahine a huhuki wale ʻoe i kou mau niho a hāpai ʻoe. ʻO ka ʻoluʻolu ʻole e pili ana i ka mea maikaʻi loa e hiki ke hana i ka wā o ka moekolohe, akā ʻaʻohe pono e weliweli.

ʻO ka mea mua ma mua. ʻAklelo, ʻoiai ʻoe e hopohopo a hilahila paha. ʻAʻohe ou kuleana no ka ʻeha. ʻO ka lua, e nānā me kāu kauka a i ʻole ka pelvic papahele hoʻoponopono kino e hōʻoia i ka loaʻa ʻole o kahi hihia maikaʻi ʻole o ka maʻi hū a i ʻole nā ​​maʻi ʻeha. I ka manawa e loaʻa ai iā ʻoe ke kukui ʻōmaʻomaʻo e maopopo ana nā mea āpau, ʻo ia ka mea aʻu e makemake ai e nānā: hoʻomaka hou i kāu huakaʻi moekolohe a wehewehe hou i ka mea e ʻike ai i ka ʻoluʻolu a me ka leʻaleʻa - {textend} nāu iho.

ʻIke wau i ka poʻe i hopu maoli ʻia me kahi wehewehe liʻiliʻi loa o ka moekolohe (ʻo ka hapanui o ka pilina penile-vaginal, ʻoiai ʻaʻole ʻoe e komo i kahi orgasm). Akā ʻokoʻa nā kānaka āpau, no laila e hoʻolei i kēlā mau mea i ka puka aniani. E loaʻa ai ka ʻoluʻolu, pono ʻoe e mākaukau e hoʻokolohua, e kaohi, a e hōʻoia i kāu ʻoiaʻiʻo.

Lawe i kāu kalena a mālama iā ʻoe iho i kahi koho no kēlā me kēia pule. E hāmama, pīhoihoi, a makaʻu ʻole hoʻi. No ka leʻaleʻa ponoʻī, e ʻike i ke ʻano o nā naʻau āu e hauʻoli nui ai, a aʻo i nā mea āpau āu e hiki ai e pili ana i kou kino. ʻIke i ka mea e pono ai i kahi e noʻonoʻo ai ʻoe ma ka home i kou kino a ʻoluʻolu hoʻi.

He aha kāu e pono ai e hōʻoluʻolu a palekana? Inā ʻike ʻoe he ʻano ʻē a he lapuwale paha ka ʻimi ʻana iā ʻoe iho i ka mua, e hoʻokipa i kēlā mau manaʻo a laila e hoʻokuʻu iā lākou. E hana hou i kēia iā ʻoe iho: Maikaʻi wau, he ʻano ʻoluʻolu wau, a maikaʻi ke ʻoluʻolu.

Ke piʻi aʻe kou hilinaʻi ponoʻī, hiki iā ʻoe ke kono i kāu hoa o kēia manawa e ʻimi pū me ʻoe. Mālama ʻia i 30 mau minuke i kēlā me kēia pule (ma ka liʻiliʻi) e kaʻana like i ka paʻi sensual a me nā massage erotic. E huli aʻe, me 15 mau minuke pākahi o ka hāʻawi ʻana a me ka loaʻa ʻana o ka hoʻopā, e hoʻomaka mua me ka nongenital touch. Hiki i kēia foray mālie ke alakaʻi i ka moekolohe, ke koho ʻoe.

Akā e hoʻomanaʻo, pili kēia i ka ʻimi maʻemaʻe, ka hoʻonui ʻana i ka ʻike o ke kino, a me ka nānā ʻana i ka leʻaleʻa. ʻAʻohe pahuhopu i ka hoʻokalakupua. Inā ʻoe e pono i kahi kōkua hou aʻe e hoʻomaka ai, i kekahi manawa kahi ʻauʻau wela, nā ihoiho aromatherapy, a i ʻole nā ​​mele hoʻomaha e hiki ke kōkua i ka hoʻokuʻu ʻana i ka haunaele. A ma ke ʻano holoʻokoʻa, paipai wau i ka hoʻomaha iki ʻana mai ka hana moekolohe e hoʻomau mau ai i ka ʻeha no ka mea, i ka wā lōʻihi, hiki i ka ʻike ke alakaʻi i ka nui o ka hōʻino.

Inā ʻoe e wehe ana e pili ana i kēia mau hoʻololi i kāu SO, mai kamaʻilio e pili ana i ka lumi moe i kou wā e hoʻāʻo nei. ʻOi aku ka maikaʻi loa o ke kamaʻilio ʻana i ke ahiahi a i ʻole ka hele wāwae ʻana. ʻO ke kuhi ma aneʻi e hana i kahi kaiapuni kahi i manaʻo ai kāu erotic iā ʻoe iho, ʻaʻole i kaomi ʻia e hana a i ʻole e mālama i ka wehewehe ʻē aʻe o ka moekolohe.

Ke hoʻololi iki nei i kāu noʻonoʻo e pili ana pehea ʻoe e ʻike ai i ka leʻaleʻa a pehea ʻoe e ʻike ai i ka hoʻokuʻu ʻana i kou kino e hiki ke kōkua iā ʻoe e hauʻoli hou i ka moekolohe.

ʻO Janet Brito kahi therapist wahine hōʻoiaʻiʻo AASECT a he laikini hoʻi kāna i ka psychology psychology a me ka hana kaiaulu. Ua hoʻopau ʻo ia i kāna pilina postdoctoral mai ke Kulanui Lapaʻau ʻo Minnesota, kekahi o nā papahana kulanui wale nō i ka honua i hoʻolaʻa ʻia no ka hoʻomaʻamaʻa moekolohe. I kēia manawa, noho ʻo ia ma Hawaii a ʻo ia ka mea hoʻokumu o ka Center for Health and Reproductive Health. Ua hōʻike ʻia ʻo Brito ma nā puka he nui, e like me The Huffington Post, Thrive, a me Healthline. E hele aku iā ia ma ona lā pūnaewele a i ʻole ʻO Twitter.