He aha e hana ai ke hopu ʻia ʻoe i kahi Romance maikaʻi ʻole

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• Hoʻopiʻi ʻia e ke aloha
• Ke hele nei i waho
• Pehea e hōʻola ai mai kahi haʻihaʻi nui
• 1. Pale i kā lākou helu
• 2. E hele no kekahi mau lā
• 3. E ʻae iā ʻoe iho e uē a ʻike i ka pōʻino
• 4. Hana i kahi papa inoa
• 5. E hoʻohoka iā ʻoe iho.

Makemake wau i ka hapanui o mākou i loko o hoʻokahi pilina maikaʻi ʻole i ko mākou ola. A i ʻole loaʻa i kahi ʻike maikaʻi ʻole.

No kaʻu ʻāpana, ua hala wau i ʻekolu mau makahiki me kahi kāne aʻu i ʻike ai ua hewa iaʻu ka hohonu. He moʻolelo aloha aloha maʻamau ia. He uʻi ʻo ia, papalina, a aloha nui. Ua kākau ʻo ia i mau mele naʻu, no ke Akua! (Ma ke ʻano he makua, makemake wau e luaʻi i kēlā manaʻo, akā i kēlā manawa ʻo ia ka mea aloha nui loa aʻu i ʻike ai.)

Ma ke ʻano he kaikamahine hilahila a palekana ʻole, mahalo wau iā ia.

Aia ʻo ia i kahi pāʻina, makemake i nā mele, a kahaha ʻo ia iaʻu me ka hele wale a me nā makana. Ma ka 19, ua manaʻo wau e lilo ʻo ia i hōkū pōhaku kaulana a e hoʻolilo mākou i ko mākou manawa e pāʻina ma kahi kaʻa huakaʻi, me aʻu e komo ana i kahi kapa huluhulu 70s a me nā pua i koʻu lauoho. (ʻAe, ʻo wau a he mea aloha nui wau no "ʻAneʻane Kaulana.")

ʻAʻole wau i aloha ma mua, a ʻoi aku ka hopena o ka hopena ma mua o kekahi lāʻau. Kūleʻa mākou kekahi i kekahi. Ua manaʻo wau e noho mau mākou. ʻO kēia ke kiʻi aʻu i hoʻopili aku ai a kau nui i ka wā i maikaʻi ʻole nā ​​mea.

Ua hana aku wau i mau kumu kala nona. Ke hui ʻole ʻo ia iaʻu no nā lā ma hope, no ka mea "waiwai ʻo ia i kona kūʻokoʻa." I kona kū ʻana iaʻu i ka lua o kā mākou makahiki hoʻomanaʻo e hele ai i kahi hoʻomaha hoʻomaha i ʻAigupita, ua haʻi wau iaʻu ʻaʻole pono mākou i nā makahiki hoʻomanaʻo e hōʻike ai i ko mākou aloha.

I ka wā i hoʻopunipuni ʻo ia iaʻu i ka manawa mua, makemake wau e ʻōlelo ua ʻoki au iā ia mai koʻu ola, ua loaʻa kahi lauoho lauoho hou, a neʻe aku i koʻu ola (me "Hoʻohanohano" na Aretha Franklin ke mele mele).

Auē, ʻo ka ʻoiaʻiʻo ua ʻehaʻeha koʻu naʻau, luku maoli ʻia. Akā ua hoʻihoʻi wau iā ia ma hope o ka ʻelua ʻelua pule. Aloha ʻino, maʻemaʻe a maʻalahi hoʻi.

Hoʻopiʻi ʻia e ke aloha

No ke aha wau i hana ai i kēia ala? Simple. ʻO wau ke poʻo i ke aloha. Ua kāʻili ʻia koʻu lolo e ia.

Ma ke ʻano he makua (manaʻo ʻia), ʻike wau i kēia hijacking e hana ʻia i nā manawa āpau me nā kaikamahine ʻōpio a me nā keikikāne. Noho pinepine lākou me kekahi ma waho o ka hana maʻamau a makaʻu paha a ʻae i ka lāʻau maʻi no ka mea ke manaʻoʻiʻo nei lākou ke kumukūʻai o ke aloha. ʻO ia ka mea e alakaʻi ai ka moʻomeheu kaulana iā mākou e manaʻoʻiʻo. A hewa ia.

Ke kikokiko ʻana ma aneʻi ma kaʻu kamepiula, ʻaʻole hiki iaʻu ke ʻōlelo inā he pilina maikaʻi, waena, a ʻawahia paha ka pilina āu i loko. Eia naʻe, hiki iaʻu ke kuhikuhi i nā mea e nānā ai:

1. ʻAʻole makemake kou mau hoaaloha a ʻohana iā lākou? ʻ speaklelo pinepine ka poʻe kokoke iā ʻoe mai kahi hopohopo maoli a i ʻole hōʻike o ka mālama maʻi. ʻAʻole paha pololei lākou i nā mea āpau, akā pono e noʻonoʻo i kā lākou hopohopo.
2. Noho ʻoe ma kahi o 50 pākēneka o kou manawa e huhū nei e pili ana i kāu pili? ʻO ke hopohopo, noʻonoʻo nui, nalo ʻana o ka hiamoe, a i ʻole ka uē pinepine ʻana ʻaʻole ia he hōʻailona o ka pilina olakino.
3. ʻAʻole ʻoe hilinaʻi i kāu hoa ke haʻalele lākou i kou ʻaoʻao. Kūkulu nā pilina ma ka hilinaʻi.
4. Kolohe a kolohe paha kāu hoa. Inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e maopopo he pili kolohe ʻoe, aia nā hōʻailona e nānā ai a me nā ala e loaʻa ai ke kōkua.

Ke hele nei i waho

He maikaʻi loa ka hopena o kaʻu moʻolelo. ʻAʻohe mea nui i hana ʻia. ʻAkahi wale nō wau ipukukui kukui.

Ua ʻike wau i ke ʻano o ka pilina o kaʻu hoaaloha a ʻike koke i ka ʻokoʻa o kaʻu. Ua mahalo ʻia a mālama ʻia me ka mālama. ʻO kēia kekahi mea i kūpono iaʻu, akā ʻaʻole i loaʻa mai kaʻu ipo aloha.

ʻAʻole wau e ʻōlelo he maʻalahi ka haʻihaʻi, ma ke ʻano like he maʻalahi ʻole keʻoki ʻana i kahi lālā. (ʻO ke kiʻi ʻoniʻoni "127 Nā hola" i ʻikea ai kēia). Aia nā waimaka, nā manawa kānalua, a me ka makaʻu nui o ka hālāwai hou ʻole ʻana me kekahi.

Akā ua hana wau. A ke nānā aku i hope, ʻo ia kekahi o nā hoʻoholo maikaʻi loa aʻu i hoʻoholo ai.

Pehea e hōʻola ai mai kahi haʻihaʻi nui

1. Pale i kā lākou helu

A i ʻole hana i ka mea a Dua Lipa e hana ai a mai koho wale i ke kelepona. Inā hopohopo ʻoe e pili ana i ka lilo ʻana o ka kāohi iho, a laila hāʻawi i kāu kelepona i kahi hoaaloha hilinaʻi a ʻohana paha o ka ʻohana. Ua maikaʻi loa kēia hana iaʻu - ua hemo ia ka hoʻowalewale.

2. E hele no kekahi mau lā

Inā hiki, kōkua ia e pakele, ʻoiai ke kipa wale ʻana i nā hoaaloha a ʻohana paha. E ʻimi no hoʻokahi pule holoʻokoʻa inā hiki iā ʻoe. Pono ʻoe i kākoʻo ma kēia pae mua.

3. E ʻae iā ʻoe iho e uē a ʻike i ka pōʻino

ʻAʻole ʻoe nāwaliwali, he kanaka ʻoe. ʻO Stockpile ma nā mea hōʻoluʻolu e like me nā pūnaewele, nā meaʻai hōʻoluʻolu, a me kahi kau inoa ʻo Netflix. ʻO Cliché ʻike wau, akā kōkua ia.

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4. Hana i kahi papa inoa

E kākau i nā kumu noʻonoʻo āpau no ke aha e hui pū ʻole ai a waiho i kahi e ʻike pinepine ai ʻoe.

5. E hoʻohoka iā ʻoe iho.

Ua hōʻano hou wau i koʻu lumi moe i ka wā i hele ai wau i loko o kēlā breakup. Ke hoʻomau nei i ka lolo a me ka lima o kaʻu mau lima (a me ka hoʻololi ʻana i ke ʻano o koʻu ʻano.)

He pōkole loa ke ola me kahi kanaka e mālama ʻole iā ʻoe me ke aloha a me ka mahalo. E akamai, e koa, a e ʻoluʻolu iā ʻoe iho.

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