Pehea e ʻike ai inā ʻo ia ʻo "The One"

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• ʻO ka Chivalry Test
• ʻO ka hoʻāʻo aloha
• ʻO ka hoʻāʻo kālā
• ʻO ka hoʻāʻo waiwai ʻohana
• ʻO ka hoʻāʻo aloha "Titanic"
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Hiki iā ia ke waiho i kāna mau kākena lepo i ka papahele, akā ma ka liʻiliʻi wehe ʻo ia i ka puka nou. Ke pili i nā pilina, lawe ʻoe i ka maikaʻi me nā mea maikaʻi ʻole. Akā ke aloha ʻoe i kahi kāne āu e manaʻo ai ʻo Mr. Right paha ia, pehea ʻoe e hoʻoholo ai inā ʻo ia ka mea āu e makemake ai e hoʻolilo i kou koena o kou ola me?

Ua hele mākou i ka poʻe loea e ʻike pehea e ʻike ai inā ʻo Mr. Right-a ʻo Mr. Right Now paha. Eia nā ho'āʻo ʻelima e pono ai i kou hoa aloha ke hele.

ʻO ka Chivalry Test

ʻO Patti Stanger

, Milionare Matchmaker, ka mea kākau, a me ka hōkū ʻo Bravo TV, i ʻōlelo ʻo chivalry ʻaʻole ia i make-ma ka liʻiliʻi inā pili i nā 'maikaʻi'.

"ʻO nā mea e like me ka wehe ʻana i ka puka o ke kaʻa a hāʻawi koke paha iā ʻoe i kāu ʻāpana o ka meaʻai ke hoʻokaʻawale ʻoe i kahi pā ma kahi hale ʻaina-ʻo kēia nā hōʻailona nui a pau e nānā no ka ʻike inā e hoʻomaikaʻi maikaʻi ʻo ia iā ʻoe," wahi a Stanger.

A ma kēia kūlana hoʻi, ʻoi aku ka nui o ka hana ma mua o nā huaʻōlelo. "Hoʻohana pinepine ʻia nā huaʻōlelo i mea pani no nā hana aloha, akā hakahaka me ka ukali ʻole ʻia," i ʻōlelo ʻia e ka mea hana kaiaulu a me ka loea ʻo Andrew D. Spanswick.

ʻO ka hoʻāʻo aloha

Pono kahi pilina maikaʻi i ka noʻonoʻo ikaika a me ka pilina o ke kino. "E makemake paha ʻoe e launa pū me kēia kanaka inā ʻaʻole lākou e hoihoi i ka moekolohe iā ʻoe?" Nīnau ʻo Lindsay Kriger i ka pilina ʻaoʻao.

A pono ʻoe e lawe i kāu hoa ma mua o ka waiwai o ke alo. "Ua mae ka maikaʻi, akā mau loa ke ʻano kino," wahi āna. Ua ʻae ʻo Colleen Long psychologist i Kaleponi. "Hiki iā ʻoe ke leʻaleʻa e kali wale ma ka laina me ia ma DMV?" Nīnau ʻo ia. "ʻO nā pilina maikaʻi loa ka poʻe i hiki ke lilo i mau hoaaloha maikaʻi," wahi a Stanger.

ʻO ka hoʻāʻo kālā

ʻAʻole ia he mea kupanaha ka hōʻike ʻana o nā ʻikepili i nā hoʻopaʻapaʻa no ke kālā he mea hoʻokaʻawale i nā male he nui. No laila, ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo ʻo Stanger e ʻike ma hea ʻoe e kū ai ma mua o kou lawe ʻana i kēlā mau hoʻohiki. "Pehea ʻoe e hoʻolilo ai i kāu kālā? Pehea ʻo ia e hoʻolilo ai i kāna? He ʻokoʻa paha ʻoe? Ke ʻae nei ʻoe a hoʻololi paha inā ʻo ia ka mea mālama a ʻo ʻoe ka mea hoʻolimalima? ," wahi a Stanger.

"ʻO ke kuleana ʻole o ke kālā e hoʻokumu i ke koʻikoʻi o ke ola a me ka nele," wahi a Tina Tessina, ka psychotherapist ma Kaleponi Hema. "Inā piliwaiwai ʻo ia i ke kālā a i ʻole hoʻohana wale paha ia ma nā mea pāʻani ʻenehana hou ke nānā nei ʻoe e hoʻopaʻa i kāu wā e hiki mai ana i ke kālā, ʻaʻole holo ka pilina."

ʻO ka hoʻāʻo waiwai ʻohana

Makemake ʻolua i ka helu like o nā keiki, inā he mea paha? Ke manaʻo nei ʻo ia e hoʻohuli ʻoe mai ka Katolika i ka Iudaio? "Mai ka hoʻomana a hiki i ka mālama ʻana i ka home, ka wahine, a me nā keiki, pono ʻoe e kaʻana like i nā waiwai a me nā manaʻoʻiʻo e pili ana i ka hoʻokō ʻana," wahi a ka loea pili pilikana ʻo Kailen Rosenberg.

"ʻO ka nui o nā mea e hakakā ai i ka pilina ke loaʻa nā kānaka i nā waiwai nui ma nā pilikia nui a ʻaʻole kūkākūkā ʻia ma mua," i ʻōlelo ʻo Kriger.

ʻO ka hoʻāʻo aloha "Titanic"

ʻ sayslelo ʻo Stanger e nānā i kēia hanana manaʻo: iho i lalo ka moku a aia ʻoe i loko o ka wai, e paʻa ana i ka hau. Hāʻawi ʻo ia iā ʻoe i ka ʻāpana wahie e mālama i kou ola? He kaumaha kaumaha ke kani akā akā ʻo "Titanic Love" e like me kā Stanger i kāhea ai, ʻo ia ka mea e mālama ai i kahi hui ola holoʻokoʻa. "Ke aloha nui ʻo ia iā ʻoe a ʻo ʻoe wale nō kāna e mālama ai, ʻo ia ka hōʻoia ʻana ʻo ʻoe kāna mea mua," wahi āna.

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