He aha ka ʻuhane, no ke aha e hana ai, a he aha ka mea e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke hana e neʻe mua iā ia?

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• No ke aha e ʻuhane ai ka poʻe?
• Hoa pili aloha
• Hoa
• Ka mea hana
• Pehea e ʻike ai inā he ʻuhane ʻoe
• ʻO kēia hana maʻamau no lākou?
• Ua loli paha kekahi mea i ka pilina?
• Ua hele kekahi o ʻoukou i loko o nā hanana ola nui?
• He aha kaʻu e hana ai inā ua ʻuhane au?
• Pehea wau e neʻe ai?
• Lawe aku

ʻO Ghosting, a i ʻole nalo koke ʻana mai ke ola o kekahi me ka ʻole o ke kāhea ʻana, ka leka uila, a i ʻole ka leka uila, ua lilo ia i hanana maʻamau i loko o ka honua pili aloha o kēia ao, a me nā hoʻonohonoho kaiāulu a me nā ʻoihana ʻē aʻe.

Wahi a nā hualoaʻa mai nā noi 2018, ma kahi o 25 pākēneka o ka poʻe i ʻuhane i kekahi manawa.

ʻO ke ala ʻana o nā kamaʻilio uila a me nā polokalamu aloha e like me Grindr, Tinder, a me Bumble i maʻalahi e hana a haki i nā pilina wikiwiki me kahi mea āu i hui ai me kahi swipe.

Akā ʻoi aku ka paʻakikī o ka ghosting i kahi hanana ma mua o kou manaʻo. E heluhelu e aʻo ai i ke kumu o ka ʻuhane o ka poʻe, pehea e ʻike ai ke ʻuhane ʻia ʻoe, a me ka mea e hana ai ke ʻike ʻoe ua ʻuhane ʻoe.

No ke aha e ʻuhane ai ka poʻe?

ʻUhane ka poʻe no nā ʻano kumu āpau i hiki ke loli i ka paʻakikī. Eia kekahi o nā kumu he ʻuhane paha ka poʻe.

• Makau. ʻO ka makaʻu i ka mea ʻike ʻole ʻia i loko o ke kanaka. E hoʻoholo wale paha ʻoe e hoʻopau iā ia no ka makaʻu iā ʻoe e ʻike i kahi mea hou a makaʻu paha i kā lākou hopena i ka haki.
• Hōʻalo hakakā. Pili nā kānaka āpau i ke kaiāulu, a me ka hoʻohaunaele ʻana i ka pilina o kēlā me kēia ʻano, inā maikaʻi a maikaʻi ʻole paha, hiki ke hopena iā ʻoe. A ʻo kahi hopena, ʻoluʻolu ʻoe e ʻike hou ʻole i kekahi ma mua o ke kū ʻana i ka hakakā a kūʻē paha i hiki ke hana ʻia i ka wā o ka haki.
• Ka nele o nā hopena. Inā ʻaʻole ʻoe i hui wale me kekahi, manaʻo paha ʻoe ʻaʻohe mea e pili ana no ka mea ʻaʻole ʻoe e kaʻana like i nā hoaaloha a i ʻole nā ​​mea like like. ʻAʻole paha he mea nui inā hele ʻoe i waho o ko lākou ola.
• Mālama ponoʻī. Inā loaʻa ka hopena maikaʻi ʻole o ka pilina ma kou ʻano o ke ola, ʻo ka hōʻoki ʻana i ka launa ʻana i kekahi manawa ke ʻano like me ke ala hoʻokahi e ʻimi ai i kou pono ponoʻī me ka ʻole o ka haʻihaʻi a me ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻana o ke ala.

A eia kekahi mau hiʻohiʻona e ʻuhane ai ʻoe me kekahi mau manaʻo no ke aha:

Hoa pili aloha

Inā ʻoe ma nā lā pālua a nalowale koke kāu lā, no ka mea ʻaʻole lākou i ʻike i kahi huna aloha, ua hana nui loa e hoʻopaʻa i ka hoʻopili ʻana, a i ʻole mākaukau paha no nā ʻanuʻu aʻe.

Hoa

Inā he makamaka āu i kau pinepine ai a kamaʻilio pū paha me ka hōʻoki koke ʻana i ka pane ʻana i kāu mau leka uila a i ʻole kāhea, hiki paha iā lākou ke hoʻokipa iā ʻoe, a i ʻole he mea paha i loko o kā lākou ola e mālama nei iā lākou.

Inā ʻike ʻia ua ʻuhane lākou iā ʻoe, hiki iā lākou ke hoʻoholo he paʻakikī a ʻeha paha ke wehewehe ʻana ʻaʻole makemake lākou e lilo i mau hoaaloha hou.

Ka mea hana

Hiki i ka Ghosting ke hana i ke keʻena. ʻIke pinepine ʻia kēia ke haʻalele kekahi i ka hui. ʻOiai ʻoe e kamaʻilio mau ana ma ke keʻena, a kakali paha i kekahi ma hope o ka hana, no kekahi poʻe, paʻakikī paha ka mālama ʻana i ka launa aloha ʻana me nā hoa hana ma mua ke hoʻāʻo nei e hoʻopili me nā mea hou.

Hiki i kēia ke hana i ke kuapo a kahi hoa hana i kahi kūlana a i ʻole loaʻa i kahi hoʻolaha.

Pehea e ʻike ai inā he ʻuhane ʻoe

Ke ʻuhane nei ʻoe? A i ʻole ʻo ke kanaka ma ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe e pīhoihoi wale ana a hoʻonāukiuki paha e hoʻi iā ʻoe?

Eia kekahi o nā hōʻailona hiki ke hōʻoki iā ʻoe ke ʻuhane ʻoe:

ʻO kēia hana maʻamau no lākou?

Hele paha kekahi poʻe mai ka makai no nā wā lōʻihi ma mua o ka hoʻi ʻana iā ʻoe, no laila ʻaʻole ia he mea nui inā ʻaʻole lākou e pane wikiwiki. Akā inā pane pinepine lākou a haʻalele koke i ke kāhea ʻana a i ʻole ke leka ʻana iā ʻoe no kekahi manawa lōʻihi lōʻihi, ua ʻuhane paha ʻoe.

Ua loli paha kekahi mea i ka pilina?

Ua ʻōlelo paha ʻoe i kekahi mea a lākou i pane ai i ka ikaika a i ʻole i hoʻouna ai i kahi leka i kuhi hewa ʻole ʻia? ʻO kahi laʻana, inā ʻoe i ʻōlelo "aloha au iā ʻoe" a ʻaʻole lākou i hoʻi hou, a kūpale lākou iā MIA, ua ʻuhane paha ʻoe.

Ua hele kekahi o ʻoukou i loko o nā hanana ola nui?

Ua neʻe lākou i kahi hou? Hoʻomaka i kahi hana hou? E hele i kahi hanana traumatic i haʻalele iā lākou e kaumaha?

ʻO ka mālama ʻana he mea hiki ʻole ke ulu ka mamao o ke kino a me ka naʻau, a ʻo ke ʻano o ka ghosting e like me ka koho maʻalahi, ʻoi aku ka paʻakikī. I kekahi mau hihia, he manawa pōkole paha ka noho mālie, e like me inā i lawe koke lākou i kahi papahana nui a hana paha a i loaʻa paha kahi hanana ola traumatic. Akā i nā hihia ʻē aʻe, hiki ke paʻa.

He aha kaʻu e hana ai inā ua ʻuhane au?

Hiki ke paʻakikī i ke kū ʻana i nā ʻano nalowale, ʻoiai inā ʻaʻole ʻoe i ʻike i ke kanaka me ka maikaʻi. Inā pili kokoke ʻoe me lākou, hiki ke kumu i ka pane a me ka pane i ka naʻau.

Hōʻike ka noiʻi i nā nuance hou aʻe ma hope o ka lilo ʻana i ʻuhane. ʻElua mau noiʻi mai a me 2011 e hōʻike ana i ka haʻihaʻi e like me kēia e hiki ai ke hōʻeha i ke kino, e like me ka ghosting, a me ka hōʻole ʻana i ka nui, ka hopena i ka hana lolo like me ka ʻeha o ke kino.

Hiki i ka Ghosting ke hoʻopili iā ʻoe a hopena maikaʻi ʻole i kāu pili o kēia wā a me ka wā e hiki mai ana, a me ke aloha a me nā ʻano ʻē aʻe.

A i loko o kahi makahiki kahi e ʻike nui ʻia ai nā pilina e hoʻomaka i ka pūnaewele, e ʻuhane ʻia e kekahi me ʻoe i mālama pono ai ma o ka ʻōlelo a i ʻole ka pāpili kaiapili hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻokau a hoʻokaʻawale ʻia mai kāu mau kaiāulu uila.

Pehea wau e neʻe ai?

ʻAʻole like ka neʻe ʻana mai ka ghosting no nā mea āpau, a pehea e neʻe ai i hiki ke ʻokoʻa inā he hoa aloha kēlā kanaka, hoa aloha, a hoa hana paha.

Eia kekahi mau ala hiki iā ʻoe ke kōkua iā ʻoe iho e kūʻē a ʻae i kou mau manaʻo e pili ana i ka ʻuhane.

• E hoʻonoho i nā palena ma mua. Makemake wale i kahi fling? Makemake i kahi mea hou aku? Kuhi lākou e nānā i kēlā me kēia lā? Pule? Mahina? Hiki i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo a me ka transparency ke kōkua iā ʻoe a me ka mea ʻē aʻe e hōʻoia i ka hele ʻole o nā laina me ka ʻike ʻole.
• E hāʻawi i ke kanaka i kahi palena manawa. ʻAʻole paha lākou i lohe mai iā lākou no kekahi mau pule a mau mahina paha a luhi ke kali? Hāʻawi iā lākou i kahi ultimatum. ʻO kahi laʻana, hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻouna iā lākou i kahi leka e noi ana iā lākou e kāhea a leka paha i ka pule e hiki mai ana, a i ʻole e kuhi ʻoe ua hala ka pilina. He paʻakikī paha kēia, akā hiki iā ia ke hāʻawi iā ʻoe i ka pani a hoʻihoʻi i nā manaʻo nalowale o ka kaohi a i ʻole ka mana.
• Mai hōʻino hewa iā ʻoe iho. ʻAʻohe āu hōʻike a i ʻole ka pōʻaiapili no ka hoʻopau ʻana i ke kumu o ka haʻalele ʻana o ka mea ʻē aʻe i ka pilina, no laila mai iho i lalo iā ʻoe iho a hoʻomāinoino hou iā ʻoe iho.
• Mai "mālama" i kou mau manaʻo me ka hōʻino ʻana i ka lāʻau. Mai hoʻopau i ka ʻeha me nā lāʻau, ka waiʻona, a i ʻole nā ​​kiʻekiʻe kiʻekiʻe ʻē aʻe. He manawa pōkole kēia mau "hoʻoponopono", a ʻike paha ʻoe iā ʻoe iho i ke alo ʻana i nā manaʻo paʻakikī ma hope i kahi manawa kūpono ʻole, e like me kāu pili aʻe.
• Noho manawa me nā hoaaloha a ʻohana paha. E ʻimi i ka launa o nā poʻe āu e hilinaʻi ai a me nā mea āu e kaʻana like ai i ka manaʻo o ke aloha a me ka mahalo. ʻO ka ʻike ʻana i nā pilina maikaʻi, olakino hiki ke waiho i kāu kūlana ghosting i ka kuanaʻike.
• E ʻimi i ke kōkua ʻoihana. Mai makaʻu e kiʻi i kahi mea hoʻoponopono a mea aʻoaʻo paha e hiki ke kōkua iā ʻoe e haʻi i nā manaʻo paʻakikī i loaʻa iā ʻoe. Hiki iā lākou ke hāʻawi iā ʻoe i nā hoʻolālā coping hou e hōʻoia i kou puka ʻana i kēlā ʻaoʻao me ka ikaika, inā ʻaʻole ikaika, ma mua o ka wā ma mua.

Lawe aku

ʻAʻole kahi ʻano o Ghosting, akā ʻo ka pili pili hyper o ka pūnaewele 21st kenekulia i mea maʻalahi ke hoʻomau i ka pili, a, ma ke ʻano hemo, ua ʻikea ka maopopo ke hoʻopau koke kahi pilina.

ʻO ka mea mua āu e hoʻomanaʻo ai, inā he ʻuhane ʻoe a i ʻole he ʻuhane e nīnau ʻia nei, ʻo ia ka lula gula i kapa ʻia: mālama i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe pehea ʻoe e makemake ai e mālama ʻia.

ʻO ke kāhea ʻana aku iā ia a me ka loaʻa ʻana o ka panina hiki ke paʻakikī a i kekahi manawa ʻeha, akā ʻo ka mālama ʻana i ka poʻe me ka ʻoluʻolu a me ka mahalo ke hele lōʻihi i kēia pilina a me ka wā aʻe.