Kahi alakaʻi a Insider no ka hiamoe ʻana me kekahi wahine ʻē aʻe no ka manawa mua

Anter

• Fi(n)ger It Out
• Lawe Hema
• Paʻa Ma, Paʻa Paʻa
• Hoʻohui i ka pihi (Inā makemake ʻoe!)
• Hoao
• Pāʻani iā ​​palekana
• Mai noʻonoʻo nui iā ia
• ʻAnuʻu aʻe
• Nānā no

He aha ka "helu" i ka moekolohe me kekahi wahine? ʻO kēia ka nīnau maʻamau aʻu e ʻike ai inā ʻike ka poʻe hiamoe wau me nā poʻe ʻē aʻe me nā ʻōpala. He mea hōʻeuʻeu a kolohe ʻole hoʻi, akā loaʻa iaʻu. Noho mākou i loko o kahi hui e hoʻomāhuahua i ka moekolohe ma ke ʻano he "P-in-V".

ʻAʻole ia he 100-pākēneka wale nō e loaʻa ka moekolohe me kekahi wahine ʻē aʻe a mea ʻona vulva paha, akā aia kekahi ala ma mua o hoʻokahi ala e moe kolohe ai me kekahi wahine ʻē aʻe. "Aia ia i ka poʻe e komo nei i ka moekolohe e hoʻoholo inā he moekolohe paha ʻaʻole. No kekahi, he moekolohe waha paha ia, a ʻo kekahi paha he masturbation like paha ia," i wehewehe ai ʻo Megan Stubbs, ka mea ʻike maʻi kino. "ʻAʻohe pahu e pono ke nānā ʻia no kahi mea e pili ana i ka moekolohe. Akā, nui nā pahu e koho ai!"

A e ʻike ʻia, ʻoiai ʻo "moe wahine kāne wahine" e pili pono i ka moekolohe ma waena o nā wahine a i ʻole nā ​​kānaka me nā ʻōpala, ʻaʻole pono ʻoe e ʻike he wahine wahine e leʻaleʻa ai i ka wahine. Malia paha he bisexual ʻoe, malia paha pansexual ʻoe, a i ʻole ke ukali nei ʻoe i kahi vibe e manaʻo maikaʻi. (FYI: Ua hōʻike ʻia kahi haʻawina 2016 i ka nui o nā wahine i moe me nā wahine ma mua o ka wā ma mua.)

Me kēlā i ka noʻonoʻo, pili kēia alakaʻi i kekahi o nā hana moekolohe maʻamau i waena o nā kānaka ʻelua me nā ʻōpala. Pepa i lalo e aʻo ai i ka mea e pono ai ʻoe e ʻike e pili ana i ka moekolohe wahine wahine mua a pehea e hana ai me ka palekana.

Fi(n)ger It Out

E like me nā mea āpau i ka moekolohe, ʻokoʻa ka poʻe āpau. Makemake kekahi poʻe i nā flicks paʻakikī a wikiwiki hoʻi ma ka clitoris, ʻoiai makemake kekahi i ka ʻānai ʻana i ko lākou lehelehe waho a i ʻole G-spot. ʻO ia ke kumu, inā ʻo kēia kāu hālāwai mua loa me kahi vulva a me ka wahine a i ʻole kāu 2000th, pono ʻoe e komo i loko me ka noʻonoʻo o ka mea hoʻomaka. E nīnau i nā nīnau! Hōʻoiaʻiʻo! E nānā i ka pehea e pane ai kāu pakanā i kāu paʻi a hoʻomaʻa i kou kaomi a me ka ʻenehana e like me ia.

Inā (a inā wale nō) hōʻike kāu hoa makemake e hoʻokomo ʻia, mai makaʻu e kau i kou mau lima i laila. A me nā lima, ʻōlelo wau ekahi manamana lima. Hoʻomaka mālie. E hoʻoneʻe i hoʻokahi (ʻelua paha) manamana lima ma kona ʻāpana a hiki i ka lubricated, a laila e hoʻoneʻe mālie i loko, a laila wikiwiki. E kuapo ma waena o nā mele ʻelua a nīnau iā ia i kahi āna e makemake ai. "Mai hoʻokuʻu i kou ego inā ʻōlelo ʻia kāu hoa ʻaʻole lākou makemake i kāu mele," wahi a Stubbs. "E ho'āʻo wale i kahi mea ʻē aʻe." Inā ʻoe he haumāna ʻike, ʻike ʻoe iā lākou e hōʻike iā ʻoe pehea lākou e makemake ai e masturbate. (Pili: Nā ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo Masturbation no kahi Solo -esh-Blow Manaʻo Manaʻo)

Malia paha ua lohe ʻoe-a ʻike paha mai ka ʻike-hiki i ka G-spot ke ʻoluʻolu loa i kekahi mau wahine. ʻO ka wahine kamaʻāina ʻo Logan Levkoff Ph.D. haʻi ʻia ma mua Kinohi aia paha ka G-Spot ma kahi o ʻelua iniha ma ka paia mua o ka ʻōpū; E ʻike ʻoe i kahi wahi e hoʻololi ai ka ʻili mai ka maʻemaʻe a i ʻole ka puʻupuʻu. Inā ʻoe e ʻike i kēia i kāu pakanā, e hele a hana i kahi ʻano "come-hither". E ʻike pehea e pane ai kāu pakanā.

PSA: E ʻoki i kou mau kui. He ʻokoʻa nā makemake a kēlā me kēia no kā lākou kui, akā inā ʻoe e ʻimi kikoho ana i kahi kanaka me kahi ʻōpala, a laila makemake ʻia ka ʻoluʻolu, non craggy, a me nā kui pōkole. Hoʻomaʻamaʻa ka puʻupaʻa a me ka ʻōpala a ʻaʻohe mea e hōʻino i ke ʻano e like me kahi ʻōpala. Auwe.

Lawe Hema

No nā wahine he nui, ʻo ka mea makaʻu nui o ka hiamoe ʻana me kekahi wahine ʻē aʻe ka moe waha. Nūhou maikaʻi: "ʻAʻole ia he paʻakikī," wahi a Jess Melendez, he mea aʻo moekolohe no O.school. "ʻOi aku ka intuitive ma mua o kou manaʻo, a kōkua ke kamaʻilio ʻana."

ʻO kāu pili maikaʻi ʻo ka hoʻomaka lohi. Honi i kou ala i ka hema. Honi a palu i nā ʻūhā, pūhaka, ma nā wahi a pau. Ke mākaukau kāu pakanā (kahi āu e ʻike ai ma ka nīnau ʻana, "Hiki iaʻu ke ʻono iā ʻoe i kēia manawa?" A i ʻole "He aha kāu makemake?"), Me ka hoʻohana ʻana i kou alelo a i ʻole nā ​​manamana lima hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻokaʻawale i ka labia waho. Kaukaʻi ʻia i ka anatomy o kāu hoa, kōkua paha kēia iā ʻoe e ʻike i ko lākou kala. (E pili ana: Penei ke kamaʻilio haumia me ka manaʻo ʻole ʻole)

Mākaukau? Lick i kou ala i luna a me ka lalo o ka labia."I ka wā mua, e pale i ka pili pono ʻana me ka clit no ka mea paʻakikī loa ia, a ma kahi o ka lick a puni," wahi a Stubbs.

I kēia manawa, leʻaleʻa. Hoʻololi i ke kaomi. E pela i kou inoa i ka cursive me kou alelo (koʻikoʻi, hana ia). E hoʻoneʻe i kou alelo i nā pōʻai. A laila neʻe i kahi ʻaoʻao a i luna a i lalo paha. I kou hoʻāʻo ʻana, e noʻonoʻo i ke ʻano o kāu hoa pili. A nīnau iā lākou i kā lākou makemake. "Makemake ʻoe i kēia a i ʻole kēia?" a i ʻole "Wikiwiki a lohi paha?" Ke hoʻomaka ka maikaʻi, ʻike ʻoe.

Paʻa Ma, Paʻa Paʻa

ʻAʻole pili ka moe kolohe a pau, a ʻo ka hoʻokomo ʻana i kahi kaula i kāu pāʻani ʻaʻole he pono. ʻO ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, "ʻaʻole ʻoluʻolu nā mea ʻona ʻona āpau i ka moekolohe a i ʻole e ʻoluʻolu e hoʻokolohua me kahi kaula," wahi a Melendez. "A maikaʻi kēlā! ʻO ia ke kumu e pono ai ʻoe e kūkā kamaʻilio me kāu hoa."

Inā makemake ʻolua e hoʻāʻo i ka moekolohe strap-on, e nānā iki ana ia no ka mea pono ʻoe i kahi pale kaua a me dildo (a me ka lube!) Ma ka lima. Inā ʻaʻole ʻoe i hele hele i kahi kūʻai dildo: E like me nā vibrator, hele mai lākou i nā ʻano a me nā nui like ʻole. ʻOi aku kekahi o nā phallic a loaʻa nā aʻa a ʻili-ʻili ʻoiai ʻo kekahi e ʻālohilohi a ānuenue hoʻi a emi ka hoʻomanaʻo ʻana o kahi peni. (ʻOi aku ma aneʻi: ʻO nā mea pāʻani wahine maikaʻi loa no nā wahine ma Amazon)

"E hoʻomaka me kahi silild dildo (ʻokoʻa i ke kīʻaha) no ka mea e neʻe ia me kou kino," paipai iā Melendez. "Inā hiki iā ʻoe, e hele i kahi hale kūʻai wahine no ka mea ʻo ka hapa nui o nā hale kūʻai e ʻae iā ʻoe e hoʻopā a ʻike iā lākou ma mua o kou kūʻai ʻana iā lākou." A hoʻomaka liʻiliʻi. Mai hoʻokuʻu i kou mau maka iʻoi aku ka nui ma mua o, maikaʻi, i kāu ʻōpala. "E kia pono i ka girth a noʻonoʻo e pili ana inā ʻaʻole ʻoe makemake i ka piha ʻana, a i ʻole ke kūiki ʻana," ʻōlelo ʻo ia.

Loaʻa nā ʻano ʻāpana like ʻole. "No kāu pale mua, paipai wau i kekahi i hiki ke hoʻoliʻiliʻi a hiki i nā ʻano kino like ʻole ke hoʻohana," wahi a Melendez. (ʻO kahi laʻana, hiki iā ʻoe ke kiʻi hou aʻe me ka mea e hoʻohana ai i ka boxer-style, akā e ʻike paha ʻoe i ka nui o kāu kaohi ke hoʻohana ʻoe i kahi kāʻei kāʻei.)

Loaʻa iā ʻoe kāu pono pono. Ano, pehea? Inā ʻo ʻoe ke kanaka e komo ana i ka pale kaua a i ka penetrator, hāʻawi ʻo Stubbs i ka ʻōlelo aʻo aʻe: "E hoʻomaʻamaʻa i ka hana ʻana i kekahi mau hana i mua o ka manawa. ʻAʻole ia he mea lapuwale. E hoʻomaʻamaʻa wale i ka manaʻo, ke kaupaona. E hoʻāʻo paha i ka masturbating me ia. "

Eia kekahi: E hele mālie, e hoʻohana i ka lube, a hāʻawi i kou hoa i ka manawa e maʻa iā ʻoe. "E mākaukau e kū a hoʻomaʻamaʻa inā hōʻike kāu pakanā ʻaʻole lākou ʻoluʻolu a kamaʻilio paha i nā pono like ʻole," wahi a Stubbs. (Eia: ʻO nā mea āpau āu e ʻike ai e pili ana iā Lube).

Inā pili ʻoe i ka pakanā, e hāʻawi i ka pane. "Mai makaʻu e ʻōlelo i nā huaʻōlelo i ka wā o ka moekolohe. E launa me kāu pakanā. Maikaʻi paha? Maikaʻi paha ʻoe i ka hohonu? Ke kihi?" wahi a Stubbs.

ʻO kou manawa mua e moe ai i ka wahine me ke kaula ʻo ia paha ka mea maikaʻi loa ma ka honua. Akā manaʻo paha paha ia i kahi clumsy a pīhoihoi paha (e like me ka aneane o nā kāne o ka manawa mua, wahine kāne a ʻaʻole ʻole). He maʻamau kēlā; aia kekahi hāmeʻa aʻo.

Hoʻohui i ka pihi (Inā makemake ʻoe!)

ʻAe, pili ka puʻupuʻu no (ahem) pū kekahi. ʻO ka pāʻani anal ʻaʻole ia he mea i loaʻa i ka poʻe a pau a makemake paha e hoʻohauʻoli, no laila he mea nui e hōʻoia i kāu hoa pili i luna me ia ma mua o ka luʻu ʻana, wahi a Alicia Sinclair Sex Educator & CEO o b-Vibe.

"E hoʻāʻo e hoʻomākeʻaka i nā papalina o kāu hoa a haki mua me ka mālie i ka holo ʻana o kou mau lima ma luna o lākou a hoʻokuʻu iā lākou e leʻaleʻa i loko o ka leʻaleʻa hou a me nā erogenous zones a me ke ʻano o ka stimulate," wahi a Sinclair. "E like me ka vulva, aia nā tona o nā aʻalolo nerve koʻikoʻi ma waho o ke kino." (E heluhelu i kēia inā e noʻonoʻo paha ʻoe inā ʻeha ka wahine anal.)

Inā makemake kāu pakanā i ke ʻano o kou manamana lima, e noi paha ʻoe iā lākou inā makemake lākou e ʻike i kou alelo, a i ʻole hoʻohana i ka plug luʻu. "ʻO ka hōʻuluʻulu ʻana, ka honi ʻana, a i ʻole ke kuhi ʻana i ka anus, hiki ke ʻoluʻolu maoli," wahi a Sinclair. E ho'āʻo e hoʻoneʻe i kou manamana lima a i ʻole kou alelo ma nā ʻaoʻao like ʻole a me nā mele (pulsing, circular, etc.) a nānā pū me kāu hoa e pili ana i ka maikaʻi. (Pili: 12 Anal Sex Facts mai kahi Insider)

Ma ka hopena, puka a puka paha ʻoe a me kāu hoa i ka hoʻohana ʻana i kahi plug-plug (ʻo kā Sinclair punahele ka Novice Plug) akā maikaʻi inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e hele i laila i kāu manawa mua e hiamoe pū ana (a i ʻole a ma mua).

Hoao

ʻAʻole ʻo nā mea ma luna wale nō nā mea hiki iā ʻoe a me kāu hoa ke hana. Hiki paha iā ʻoe ke hoʻāʻo i ka ʻoki ʻana, ka humping maloʻo, ka pāʻani nipple, ka palu ʻana a me ka BDSM, ka lomilomi erotic, ke kuʻi ʻana, a i ʻole ke kuʻi ʻana i ka ʻaoʻao aʻe. "Nui a keu nā ʻano pāʻani," wahi a Melendez.

"E hana i ka mea i manaʻo pono, mai hana i ka mea i manaʻo ʻole ʻia," ʻōlelo ʻo LGBTQ+ loea a me ka mea hana kaiaulu ʻo Kryss Shane, L.M.S.W. He mea maʻalahi ke nīnau inā ʻoe e "hana" paha i kekahi mea i ka manawa mua e moe kolohe ai ʻoe me kekahi wahine ʻē aʻe, a i ʻole inā "helu" ʻaʻole paha kekahi mea e like me ka moekolohe, akā hiki i kēia ke lawe iā ʻoe mai ka manawa a i kou noʻonoʻo , ka mea hiki ke lawe aku mai kāu (a me kāu hoa!) ʻO ka leʻaleʻa wahine.

"E hana i ka mea hiki e hiki mai a e hāmama e pili ana i nā mea e hana nei i hiki ai iā ʻoe ke mākaʻikaʻi maoli i nā mea hou a me kēia kanaka," wahi a Shane.

Pāʻani iā ​​palekana

Aia kekahi kuhi hewa ʻo ka moekolohe me ka wahine ʻē aʻe ka palekana wahine. "Oe loa hiki e kiʻi i kahi STI mai ka hiamoe ʻana me kekahi wahine ʻē aʻe. Hiki iā ʻoe ke kiʻi i kahi STI mai ka hiamoe ʻana me kekahi, "wahi a Stubbs." I kēlā me kēia manawa ke kūʻai ʻia o ka wai a i ʻole ka pili o ka ʻili i ka ʻili i ka ʻili, aia kahi pilikia no ka maʻi. "

ʻO ia ke kumu-e like me ʻoe e hiamoe ai me nā poʻe mawaho mea nui - hana koʻikoʻi i ka wahine palekana. "ʻO ke kamaʻilio ʻana e pili ana i ke kūlana STI a me ka hoʻāʻo ʻana e hoʻohuli i kāu hoʻoholo e hoʻohana i ka pā niho a i ʻole condom, no laila ke paipai nei wau e kamaʻilio i mua o ka manawa," wahi a Melendez. Nā ʻōlelo e like me "Ua hoʻāʻo ʻia ʻoe i kēia manawa?" a i ʻole "Ua hoʻāʻo ʻia ʻoe ma hope o kāu hoa hope loa?" He komo nui i loko o kēlā kamaʻilio, i ʻōlelo ʻo ia.

Hiki ke hoʻoili ʻia nā STI he nui e like me ka herpes, HPV, chlamydia, gonorrhea, a me syphilis ma o ka moekolohe ʻana, no laila inā ʻoe e iho ana i kāu hoa, e hoʻohana i kahi pāpale niho (kahi ʻāpana lahilahi o ka latike i hoʻohana ʻia e hana i kahi pale palekana i ka wā waha), manaʻo iā Stubbs. Maʻalahi lākou e hoʻohana: Mālama wale ʻoe iā lākou ma luna o ka wahi i palu ʻia. Aia pū kekahi mau mea hoʻopaʻa niho-i hoʻolālā ʻia no ka hoʻopaʻa ʻana i nā pale niho ma mua a i hope paha no ka pāʻani waha a i ʻole ka pā-inā makemake ʻoe e loaʻa nā lima ʻelua. Kūkala Pro: "Lubricate i kekahi ʻaoʻao o ka dam niho, ma ke kau ʻana i ka lube ma luna o ka vulva a laila kau i ka dam ma luna o ka puʻupuʻu e mālama ai i ka maloʻo a me ka plasticky i kou kino," wahi a Melendez. (Pili: ʻO nā mea āpau āu e ʻike ai e pili ana i ka wahine waha a me STI akā ʻaʻole paha)

Inā ʻoe e hoʻohana a kaʻana like ana i nā mea pāʻani-e like me ka vibrator a i ʻole dildo-Melendez paipai e holoi pono i ka mea pāʻani wahine ma waena o ka hoʻohana a hoʻohana ʻana paha i kahi condom hou no kēlā me kēia hoa. "Inā i loko ou ka dildo a he maʻi kou, a laila kau wau i ka dildo i loko oʻu, hiki iaʻu ke loaʻa i kou maʻi," wehewehe ʻo ia.

Mai noʻonoʻo nui iā ia

Inā ua moe ʻoe i ka wahine P-in-V a i ʻole ʻoe i moe ma mua, hiki paha iā ʻoe ke kānalua i ke ʻano o ke ʻano o ka moe wahine mua no kāu ʻano moe. "ʻAʻole pono ia e manaʻo i kekahi mea e pili ana i kou ʻike !," wahi a Stubbs. "Inā hana ʻoe i hoʻokahi manawa, ʻelua, ʻelima mau manawa, a i ʻole i kēlā me kēia lā hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻike akā makemake ʻoe."

ʻAe ʻo Melendez: "ʻO kāu moe kolohe e pili ana i kēlā me kēia kanaka āu e makemake ai e komo pū me ke ʻano o ka moekolohe āu e ʻike nei. ʻO ʻoe wale nō ke hoʻoholo i kou ʻike." (Pili: He aha ke ʻano o ka lilo ʻana i ka wai āpau a i ʻole ʻole Binary)

Ma ka ʻaoʻao hoʻohuli, e like me Erica Hahn mai ʻO Grey's Anatomy ua loaa he a-ha! manawa ma hope o ka manawa mua o kona hiamoe ʻana me Callie, hiki paha iā ʻoe ke ʻike i kahi mea ~ kaomi ~. A maikaʻi nō hoʻi. (Inā hana ia, eia kaʻu ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo: E hele i ka wati kiaʻi Ka L Olelo. Noʻu ka hauʻoli).

ʻAnuʻu aʻe

E hoʻomanaʻo: He kumu hoʻomaka maikaʻi kēia alakaʻi ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo moe wahine mua, akā ʻaʻole hiki i kekahi ke haʻi iā ʻoe e pili ana i ke kino o kāu hoa a me nā mea a lākou e hauʻoli ai ma mua o kāu hoa. A, ma ka ʻaoʻao hoʻohuli, ʻike ʻoe i kou leʻaleʻa maikaʻi loa. No laila ʻo kāu pili pono ke kamaʻilio. (Hele kēia āpau no ka moekolohe me kahi kanaka o nā ʻano wahine, ke kāne, a i ʻole ka orientation.)

A inā hiki iā ʻoe ke kōkua iā ia, mai hou ʻole. ʻO ka liʻiliʻi o kou koʻikoʻi, ʻo ka hiki ke leʻaleʻa iā ʻoe iho. Hauʻoli i ka wahine wela, hauʻoli, a olakino.

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