11 mau hōʻailona e pili ana ʻoe me kahi Narcissist - a pehea e hele ai i waho

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• 9 kūlana kūmole no NPD
  
• 1. Nani lākou iā AF… ma ka mua
• 2. Hog lākou i ke kamaʻilio ʻana, e kamaʻilio ana no ka nui o lākou
• 3. Hānai lākou i kāu mau mahalo
• 4. Ua nele lākou i ke aloha
• 5. ʻAʻohe o lākou (a he nui paha) mau hoa lōʻihi
• Nā nīnau e nīnau iā ʻoe iho
  
• 6. Koho mau lākou iā ʻoe
• 7. Gaslight lākou iā ʻoe
• 8. Hula lākou a puni ka wehewehe ʻana i ka pilina
• 9. Manaʻo lākou he pololei lākou e pili ana i nā mea āpau ... a mai kala aku
• 10. Weliweli lākou ke hoʻāʻo ʻoe e haki me lākou
• 11.… a ke hōʻike ʻoe iā lākou ua hana ʻiʻo lākou, lash lākou
• OK, no laila ke launa nei ʻoe me kahi narcissist ... ʻānō he aha?
• Pehea e hoʻomākaukau ai no ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻana me kahi narcissist
  

ʻAʻole like ka maʻi pilikino Narcissistic me ka hilinaʻi iā ʻoe iho a i ʻole ke komo ʻana iā ʻoe iho.

Ke kau kekahi i kekahi mau selfies a i ʻole nā ​​kiʻi flex i kā lākou pili aloha a kamaʻilio paha e pili ana iā lākou iho i ka manawa o ka lā mua, hiki iā mākou ke kāhea iā lākou he narcissist.

Akā ʻo ka narcissist maoli kekahi me ka maʻi pilikino narcissistic (NPD). He kūlana olakino noʻonoʻo i hōʻike ʻia e:

• he manaʻo hoʻouluulu o ke koʻikoʻi
• he pono hohonu no ka nānā nui a mahalo
• nele i ke aloha no haʻi
• pinepine i nā pili pilikia

ʻO ka mea e paila ai, wahi a ka mea lapaʻau laikini ʻo Rebeka Weiler, LMHC, he manawaleʻa ia ma ka uku (maʻa mau) o nā mea ʻē aʻe, a me ka hiki ʻole ke noʻonoʻo pono i nā manaʻo o haʻi.

ʻO ka NPD, e like me ka nui o ke olakino noʻonoʻo a i ʻole nā ​​maʻi pilikino, ʻaʻole ʻeleʻele a keʻokeʻo. "Hāʻule ʻo Narcissism i kahi pae," wehewehe ʻo ka ʻohana Beverly Hills a me ka psychotherapist pilina ʻo Dr. Fran Walfish, ka mea kākau o "The Self-Aware Parent."

ʻO ka puke hou loa o ka Diagnostic and Statistics Manual of Mental Disorder e papa inoa ana he ʻeiwa mau pae hoʻohālikelike no ka NPD, akā hōʻike ʻia e pono i kekahi e hui me ʻelima o lākou e hiki ke loaʻa i ka lāʻau lapaʻau ma ke ʻano he narcissist.

9 kūlana kūmole no NPD

• ʻano nui o ka manaʻo nui
• ka pīhoihoi me nā moemoeā o ka kūleʻa ʻole, ka mana, ka ʻōlinolino, ka nani, a i ʻole ke aloha kūpono
• ka manaʻo he kūikawā a kū hoʻokahi lākou a hiki ke hoʻomaopopo wale ʻia e, a i ʻole pono e launa pū me, nā kānaka kūikawā a kiʻekiʻe paha
• pono no ka mahalo nui loa
• manaʻo o ke kuleana
• hana interpersonally exploitative
• nele o ke aloha
• lili i kekahi poʻe ʻē aʻe a i ʻole ka manaʻoʻiʻo i lili kekahi poʻe iā lākou
• hōʻike o ka haʻaheo a me ka hoʻokano a me nā ʻano

ʻO ka mea i ʻōlelo ʻia, ʻo ka ʻike ʻana i nā pae hoʻohālikelike "official" ʻaʻole ia he mea maʻalahi ke ʻike i kahi narcissist, keu hoʻi ke pili aloha ʻoe me kekahi. ʻAʻole hiki ke hoʻoholo inā loaʻa iā NPD kekahi me ka ʻole o ka hōʻailona o ka loea kūpono.

Hoʻohui, ke haʻohaʻo nei kekahi inā pili lākou i kahi narcissist, ʻaʻole lākou e noʻonoʻo, "Loaʻa iā lākou ka NPD?" Ke haʻohaʻo nei lākou inā pehea lākou e mālama ʻia ai ke olakino a hoʻomau i ka holo lōʻihi. E ʻoluʻolu e hōʻalo i ka diagnose i kāu hoa i ke kamaʻilio ʻana. Akā, e heluhelu e loaʻa i kahi ʻike i ke olakino o kāu pilina.

Aia ʻoe ma aneʻi no ka mea e hopohopo ʻoe, a pili kēlā hopohopo inā pilikia kāu olakino. Inā manaʻo ʻoe ua kūpono kēia mau ʻōuli, hāʻawi mākou iā ʻoe i nā ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo e pili ana i ka mālama ʻana i ke kūlana.

1. Nani lākou iā AF… ma ka mua

Ua hoʻomaka ʻia ma ke ʻano he moʻolelo kaʻao. Malia paha ua leka uila mau lākou iā ʻoe, a i ʻōlelo paha iā lākou ua aloha lākou iā ʻoe i loko o ka mahina mua - kahi mea a ka poʻe loea i kapa ʻia ʻo "love bombing."

ʻ Maybelelo paha lākou iā ʻoe i kou akamai a koʻikoʻi paha i kou kūlike ʻana, ʻoiai inā ua hoʻomaka ʻoe e ʻike i kekahi i kekahi.

"Manaʻo nā Narcissists pono lākou e launa me nā poʻe ʻē aʻe i kūikawā, a ʻo nā poʻe kūikawā wale nō ka poʻe e hiki ke mahalo piha iā lākou," wahi a Nedra Glover Tawwab, LCSW, ka mea hoʻokumu o Kaleidoscope Counselling ma Charlotte, North Carolina.

Akā ke hana koke ʻoe i kahi mea e hoʻohoka iā lākou, hiki iā lākou ke huli iā ʻoe.

A maʻamau ʻaʻohe ou manaʻo no ka mea āu i hana ai, wahi a Tawwab. "Pehea ka mālama ʻana o nā narcissists iā ʻoe, a i ka wā e huli lākou iā ʻoe, ʻaʻohe mea pili iā ʻoe a me nā mea āpau e pili ana i kā lākou iho.

ʻŌlelo aʻoaʻo a Weiler: Inā hele ikaika kekahi ma ka hoʻomaka, e makaʻala. ʻOiaʻiʻo, aloha mākou āpau i ka makemake ʻia. Akā pono e hānai a ulu i ke aloha maoli.

"Inā manaʻo ʻoe ua kakahiaka loa no lākou e aloha maoli ai iā ʻoe, ʻo ia paha. A i ʻole inā manaʻo ʻoe ʻaʻole lawa ka ʻike e pili ana iā ʻoe e aloha maoli iā ʻoe, ʻaʻole paha lākou, "wahi a Weiler. E hoʻāʻo ka poʻe me ka NPD e hana i nā pilina ma mua ma mua o kahi pilina.

2. Hog lākou i ke kamaʻilio ʻana, e kamaʻilio ana no ka nui o lākou

"Makemake nā Narcissists e kamaʻilio mau e pili ana i kā lākou mau hana ponoʻī a me nā mea i hoʻokō ʻia me ka moʻopuna," wahi a ka psychotherapist Jacklyn Krol, LCSW, o Mind Rejuvenation Therapy. "Hana lākou i kēia no ka mea ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi a me ke akamai ma mua o nā mea āpau, a no ka mea kōkua ia iā lākou e hana i kahi hiʻohiʻona o ka hilinaʻi iā ia iho."

ʻO ka psychologist psychologist ʻo Ang Angela Grace, PhD, MEd, BFA, BEd, ke hoʻohui nei e hoʻonui pinepine nā mea narcissists i kā lākou mau hana a hoʻonani i kā lākou kālena i kēia mau moʻolelo i mea e hoʻonani ai nā poʻe ʻē aʻe.

Kūleʻa nui lākou i ke kamaʻilio ʻana iā lākou iho e hoʻolohe ai iā ʻoe.ʻO ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo he ʻāpana ʻelua ia, wahi a Grace. ʻO ka mea mua, ʻaʻole e hoʻōloli kāu hoa kamaʻilio e pili ana iā lākou iho, a ʻo ka lua, ʻaʻole e komo kāu hoa i ke kamaʻilio e pili ana iā ʻoe.

E nīnau iā ʻoe iho: He aha ka hana ke kamaʻilio ʻoe e pili ana iā ʻoe iho? Nīnau lākou i nā nīnau ukali a hōʻike i ka hoihoi e aʻo hou e pili ana iā ʻoe? A i ʻole hana lākou e pili ana iā lākou?

3. Hānai lākou i kāu mau mahalo

Nā Narcissists paha me he mea lā e like me ko lākou hilinaʻi nui iā lākou iho. Akā e like me kā Tawwab, ka hapa nui o ka poʻe me NPD nele i ka hilinaʻi iā ʻoe iho.

"Pono lākou i nā mahalo he nui, a inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e hāʻawi iā lākou, e lawaiʻa lākou na ia," i ʻōlelo ʻo ia. ʻO ia ke kumu e nānā mau nei lākou iā ʻoe e haʻi iā lākou i ka nui o lākou.

"Hoʻohana nā Narcissists i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe - ka poʻe i ʻike nui i ka empathic - e hoʻolako i ko lākou ʻano waiwai, a e manaʻo lākou he mana lākou. Akā ma muli o ko lākou haʻahaʻa haʻahaʻa, hiki ke hoʻoliʻiliʻi loa i kā lākou mau egos, kahi e hoʻonui ai i ko lākou pono no nā hoʻomaikaʻi, "hoʻohui ʻo Shirin Peykar, LMFT.

Manaʻo heluhelu o ka poʻe: ʻO wai ʻo ʻoiaʻiʻo ʻaʻole hilinaʻi wale ka hilinaʻi iā ʻoe iho, a i ʻole kekahi mea ʻē aʻe, e manaʻo maikaʻi iā lākou iho.

"ʻO ka ʻokoʻa nui ma waena o ka poʻe hilinaʻi a me ka poʻe me NPD e pono ai nā narcissists i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe e hāpai iā lākou, a hāpai iā lākou iho ma ke waiho wale ʻana i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe. ʻAʻole hana nā mea ʻelua me ka hilinaʻi iā ʻoe iho, "wahi a Peykar.

E like me kā Weiler e wehewehe ai, "hoʻopaʻi ka poʻe Narcissist i kēlā me kēia mea a puni lākou no ka hilinaʻi ʻole iā lākou iho."

4. Ua nele lākou i ke aloha

ʻO ka nele o ke aloha, a i ʻole ka hiki ke ʻike i ka manaʻo o kekahi kanaka ka nā hiʻohiʻona hiʻohiʻona o ka narcissist, wahi a Walfish.

"ʻAʻohe o ka poʻe Narcissist i ke akamai e ʻike ai iā ʻoe e ʻike ʻia ana, e hōʻoia ana, e hoʻomaopopo ai, a i ʻole e ʻae ʻia no ka mea ʻaʻole lākou e ʻike i ka manaʻo o nā manaʻo," i ʻōlelo ʻo ia.

Unuhi: ʻAʻole lākou hana manaʻo ʻino na haʻi.

Mālama paha kāu hoa ke loaʻa iā ʻoe kahi lā maikaʻi ʻole ma ka hana, hakakā me kāu hoa aloha, a i ʻole hakakā me kou mau mākua? A i ʻole e luhi paha lākou ke hōʻike ʻoe i nā mea e huhū ai a kanikau ai hoʻi?

Wahi a Walfish ʻo kēia hiki ʻole ke empathize, a i ʻole ke minamina, ke kumu pinepine e hāʻule ai ka nui o nā pilina narcissists, inā he aloha a ʻaʻole paha.

5. ʻAʻohe o lākou (a he nui paha) mau hoa lōʻihi

ʻO ka hapa nui o nā narcissists ʻaʻohe o lākou wā lōʻihi, hoa aloha maoli. E ʻeli hohonu i kā lākou pili a ʻike paha ʻoe he mau hoa helehelena wale nō kā lākou, nā hoa aloha ʻōpala lākou, a me nā nemeses.

A ʻo kahi hopena, lash paha lākou i ka wā āu e makemake ai e kau pū me kāu. E koi paha lākou ʻaʻole ʻoe e hoʻolōʻihi i ka manawa me lākou, e hōʻino iā ʻoe no ka hoʻolilo manawa ʻana me kāu mau hoaaloha, a i ʻole hoʻowahāwahā iā ʻoe no nā ʻano hoaaloha āu.

Nā nīnau e nīnau iā ʻoe iho

• Pehea ka hana a kāu hoa i kekahi mea a lākou e makemake ʻole ai i kekahi mea?
• He mau hoa aloha lōʻihi paha kāu hoa?
• Loaʻa iā lākou a kamaʻilio paha e pili ana i ka makemake ʻana i kahi nemesis?

6. Koho mau lākou iā ʻoe

Maliʻa paha ua like ia me ka hoʻohenehene…. akā ua lilo ka manaʻo a lilo i mea mau.

Kahi manawa, nā mea āpau āu e hana ai, mai ka mea āu e ʻaʻa a ʻai ai a hiki i ka mea āu e kau pū ai a me nā mea āu e nānā ai ma ke kīwī, he pilikia ia no lākou.

"E hoʻokau lākou iā ʻoe i lalo, e kāhea iā ʻoe i nā inoa, e kuʻi iā ʻoe me nā liner ʻehaʻeha, a hana i nā mea hoʻomākeʻaka i hoʻomākeʻaka ʻole," wahi a Peykar. "ʻO kā lākou pahuhopu ke hoʻohaʻahaʻa i ka manaʻo pilikino o haʻi e hiki ai iā lākou ke hoʻonui i kā lākou iho, no ka mea he mea mana ia iā lākou."

He aha hou aʻe, ke hana nei i ka mea a lākou e ʻōlelo ai e hoʻokūpaʻa wale i kā lākou hana. "Aloha kahi narcissist i kahi hopena," wahi a Peykar. ʻO ia no ka mea e hōʻike ana iā lākou he mana ko lākou e hoʻohuli ai i ke kūlana manaʻo o kekahi.

Kahi hōʻailona: Inā kuʻi lākou iā ʻoe i lalo me nā ʻōlelo hōʻino ke hana ʻoe i kahi mea kūpono e hoʻolauleʻa ai, e haʻalele. "E ʻōlelo paha kahi mea narcissist 'Ua hiki iā ʻoe ke hana i kēlā no ka mea ʻaʻole wau i hiamoe maikaʻi' a i ʻole kekahi kala e hana ai me he mea lā he keu ka loaʻa ʻole iā lākou," wahi a Tawwab.

Makemake lākou e ʻike ʻoe ʻaʻole ʻoe ma mua o lākou. No ka mea, iā lākou, ʻaʻohe mea.

7. Gaslight lākou iā ʻoe

ʻO Gaslighting kahi ʻano manipule a me ka hoʻomāinoino ʻia o ka naʻau, a he hiʻohiʻona ia o ka narcissism. Hiki i nā Narcissists ke hoʻopuka i nā wahaheʻe wahaheʻe, hoʻopiʻi waha hewa ʻole i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe, wili i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, a hoʻololi loa i kāu ʻoiaʻiʻo.

ʻO nā hōʻailona o ka hoʻomālamalama ʻana i kēia mau mea:

• ʻAʻole ʻoe makemake hou e like me ke kanaka āu i maʻa ai.
• ʻIke ʻoe i ka hopohopo a me ka hilinaʻi ʻole ma mua o ka wā ma mua.
• Manaʻo pinepine ʻoe inā e makaʻala loa ʻoe.
• Manaʻo ʻoe he hewa nā mea āpau āu e hana ai.
• Manaʻo mau ʻoe no kou hewa ke hewa nā mea.
• E kala mai pinepine ana ʻoe.
• He manaʻo kou i kekahi mea e hewa ana, akā ʻaʻole hiki ke hoʻomaopopo he aha ia.
• Nīnau pinepine ʻoe inā he kūpono kāu pane i kāu hoa.
• Hana ʻoe i nā kala no ka hana a kāu hoa.

"Hana lākou i kēia i mea e kānalua ai kekahi poʻe iā lākou iho ma ke ʻano he ala e loaʻa ai ke kiʻekiʻe. Kūleʻa ka poʻe Narcissist i ka hoʻomana ʻana, no laila hoʻohana lākou i nā hana manipulate e hoʻokau iā ʻoe e hana i kēlā, "wahi a Peykar.

8. Hula lākou a puni ka wehewehe ʻana i ka pilina

Aia he mau kaukani kumu e makemake ʻole ai kekahi e hōʻailona i kou pilina. Malia paha he polyamorous lākou, ua ʻae ʻolua i kahi kūlana hoaaloha-me-nā pōmaikaʻi, a i ʻole mālama maʻalahi ʻole ia.

Akā inā ke hōʻike nei kāu pakanā i kekahi o nā ʻōuli ʻē aʻe ma kēia papa inoa a ʻaʻole e hoʻokō, he hae ʻulaʻula paha ia.

Manaʻo kekahi mau narcissist iā ʻoe e mālama iā lākou e like me kāu pakanā i hiki ai iā lākou ke ʻohi i nā pono pili, naʻau, a me nā moe kolohe ʻoiai ke nānā nei i nā mea i manaʻo ʻia he poʻokela.

ʻO ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻike paha ʻoe e pili ana kāu hoa me ka nānā ʻana i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe i mua ou, kou ʻohana, a i ʻole kou mau hoaaloha, i ʻōlelo ʻia e ka mea lapaʻau ʻo April Kirkwood, LPC, ka mea kākau o "Working My Way Back to Me: A Frank Memoir of Self- Ka ʻike. ”

"Inā ʻoe e ʻōlelo a lilo i kou mau manaʻo e pili ana i ko lākou mahalo ʻole, e hoʻopiʻi lākou iā ʻoe no ka hana ʻana i kahi haunaele, kāhea iā ʻoe he pupule, a hoʻohana ia mea ma ke kumu he kumu no ka hoʻokō ʻole ʻana iā ʻoe. Inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e ʻōlelo i kahi huaʻōlelo, [hāʻawi ʻia ia i kahi] leka i haʻi ʻia ʻaʻole pono ʻoe e mahalo ʻia, "i ʻōlelo ʻo ia.

Inā he kani nalo ke eo, no ka mea ʻo ia. Akā e hoʻomanaʻo pono ʻoe i kekahi e kūpaʻa iā ʻoe e like me ʻoe iā lākou.

9. Manaʻo lākou he pololei lākou e pili ana i nā mea āpau ... a mai kala aku

ʻO ka hakakā me kahi narcissist manaʻo he hiki ʻole.

"ʻAʻohe hoʻopaʻapaʻa a hoʻopaʻapaʻa paha me kahi narcissist, no ka mea he pololei mau lākou," wahi a Tawwab. "ʻAʻole lākou e ʻike i ka ʻaelike ma ke ʻano he ʻaelike. E ʻike wale lākou ia e aʻo nei iā ʻoe i kekahi ʻoiaʻiʻo. "

Wahi a Peykar, pili paha ʻoe i kahi narcissist inā makemake ʻoe e like me kāu hoa.

• lohe ʻole iā ʻoe
• ʻaʻole maopopo iaʻu
• ʻaʻole e lawe i ke kuleana no kā lākou ʻāpana i ka hoʻopuka
• ʻaʻole hoʻāʻo e hoʻokau

ʻOiai ke hoʻopau nei i ka pilina ka hoʻolālā pāʻani maikaʻi loa me kahi narcissist, ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo ʻo Weiler e pale i ke kūkā ʻana a me nā hoʻopaʻapaʻa. “E hoʻomālule ʻoe iā ʻoe. ʻO ka mea e hoʻohoka ai i ka narcissist ka nele o ka kaohi a me ka ʻole o ka hakakā. ʻO ka liʻiliʻi o kou hakakā ʻana, ʻo ka liʻiliʻi o ka mana hiki iā ʻoe ke hāʻawi iā lākou ma luna ou, ʻo ka ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi, "i ʻōlelo ʻo ia.

A no ka mea ʻaʻole lākou i manaʻo he hewa lākou, ʻaʻole lākou e kala aku. E pili ana i kekahi mea.

Hiki i kēia hiki ʻole ke kala aku ke hōʻike iā ia iho i nā hanana kahi i maopopo ai ka hewa o kāu hoa, e like me:

• e hōʻike nei no kahi mālama ʻāina ahiahi
• kāhea ʻole i kā lākou i ʻōlelo ai
• hoʻopau i nā hoʻolālā nui i ka minuke hope loa, e like me ka hui ʻana i kou mau mākua a i ʻole nā ​​hoa aloha

Hiki i nā hoa hana maikaʻi ke hoʻomaopopo ke hana hewa lākou a kala aku no ia.

10. Weliweli lākou ke hoʻāʻo ʻoe e haki me lākou

Ke hoʻi hope ʻoe, e hoʻāʻo kahi narcissist kēlā ʻoi aku ka paʻakikī e mālama iā ʻoe i ko lākou ola.

“I ka wā mua, aloha paha lākou e pōpō iā ʻoe. E ʻōlelo lākou i nā mea kūpono āpau e noʻonoʻo ai ua hoʻololi lākou, "wahi a Peykar.

Akā hiki koke, hōʻike lākou iā ʻoe ʻaʻole lākou i loli. A ma muli o kēia, ʻike nā mea narcissist he nui iā lākou iho i nā pili aloha a hoʻi a hiki i ka wā e loaʻa ai iā lākou kahi mea ʻē aʻe e lā.

11.… a ke hōʻike ʻoe iā lākou ua hana ʻiʻo lākou, lash lākou

Inā koi ʻoe ua hana ʻoe me ka pilina, e hoʻolilo lākou iā lākou i mea e hōʻeha ai iā ʻoe no ka haʻalele ʻana iā lākou, wahi a Peykar.

"Ua ʻehaʻeha loa kā lākou ego a lilo ia i mea e huhū ai a me ka inaina i kēlā me kēia mea i hana ʻino iā lākou. ʻO ia no ka hewa o nā mea āpau. Me ka hoʻokaʻawale, "i ʻōlelo ʻo ia.

Ka hopena? Hiki iā lākou ke waha-waha iā ʻoe e mālama i ka maka. A i ʻole hoʻomaka paha lākou i ka pili aloha ʻana me kekahi mea ʻē aʻe e lili ai ʻoe a kōkua i ka hoʻōla i kā lākou kālā. A i ʻole e hoʻāʻo lākou e ʻaihue i kāu mau hoaaloha.

ʻO ke kumu, wahi a Tawwab, no ka mea ʻo ka inoa maikaʻi ke ʻano o nā mea āpau iā lākou, a ʻaʻole lākou e ʻae i kekahi a i ʻole kekahi mea e hoʻopilikia iā ia.

OK, no laila ke launa nei ʻoe me kahi narcissist ... ʻānō he aha?

Inā ʻoe i loko o kahi pilina me kekahi me NPD, ua ʻike mua ʻoe i kahi liʻiliʻi.

ʻO ka pilina me kahi mea e hōʻino mau ana, hoʻowahāwahā, hoʻomālamalama, a me ka hana ʻole ʻana iā ʻoe ke luhi ka naʻau. ʻO ia ke kumu, no kou noʻonoʻo ponoʻī, ʻōlelo ka poʻe loea iā GTFO.

Pehea e hoʻomākaukau ai no ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻana me kahi narcissist

• Hoʻomaopopo mau iā ʻoe iho i kou pono i ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi.
• E hoʻoikaika i kou pilina me kāu mau hoa aloha.
• E kūkulu i kahi pūnaewele kākoʻo me nā hoaaloha a me ka ʻohana i hiki ke kōkua iā ʻoe e hoʻomanaʻo iā ʻoe i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo.
• Koi aku i kāu hoa e hele i ka therapy.
• E kiʻi i kahi hoʻoponopono iā ʻoe iho.

"ʻAʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻololi i kahi kanaka me ke ʻano pilikino narcissistic a i ʻole hoʻohauʻoli iā lākou ma ke aloha ʻana iā lākou a i ʻole ka hoʻololi ʻana iā ʻoe iho e hālāwai me kā lākou makemake. ʻAʻole loa lākou e launa me ʻoe, mai empathic i kāu mau ʻike, a ʻike mau ʻoe i ka hakahaka ma hope o ka launa pū ʻana me lākou, "wahi a Grace.

"ʻAʻole hiki i nā Narcissists ke manaʻo he hoʻokō i loko o nā pilina, a i ʻole ma kēlā me kēia wahi o ko lākou ola, no ka mea ʻaʻohe mea i lawa kūpono loa no lākou," i hoʻohui ʻo ia.

ʻO ka mea nui, ʻaʻole ʻoe e lawa no lākou, no ka mea ʻaʻole lawa lākou no lākou iho.

"ʻO ka mea ʻoi loa i hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻokiʻoki i nā pili. Mai hāʻawi iā lākou i ka wehewehe. Mai hāʻawi i ka manawa hou. E haki me lākou a hāʻawi ʻole i ka manawa ʻelua, ʻekolu, a ʻehā paha, ”i ʻōlelo ʻo Grace.

Ma muli o ka hoʻāʻo ʻana o kahi narcissist e kāhea iā ʻoe a hoʻopilikia iā ʻoe me nā kāhea a i ʻole nā ​​leka i ka manawa a lākou e hoʻopihapiha ai i ka hōʻole, ua paipai ʻo Krol iā lākou e pāpā iā lākou e kōkua iā ʻoe e pili me kāu hoʻoholo.

E hoʻomanaʻo: ʻaʻole kēia manaʻo e kuhikuhi i kāu hoa. ʻO ia ke kuhikuhi i nā ʻano hana ʻae ʻole a me nā hopena i loko o ka pōʻaiapili o ke aloha, ke kaulike kaulike. ʻAʻole kekahi o kēia mau hōʻailona e kuhikuhi i kahi pilina olakino, NPD ʻaʻole paha.

A ʻo ka loaʻa ʻana o hoʻokahi a ʻeono paha o kēia mau hōʻailona ʻaʻole ia e hoʻolilo i kāu hoa i mea narcissist. Akā, he kumu maikaʻi ia no ka loiloi hou inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e ulu ana i kāu pilina. ʻAʻole ʻoe kuleana no kā lākou hana, akā kuleana ʻoe no ka mālama ʻana iā ʻoe iho.

ʻO Gabrielle Kassel a Pāʻani kinipōpō, holo-lepo, protein-smoothie-blending, ʻai-prepping, CrossFitting, ʻO ka mea kākau olakino ma Nu Ioka. ʻO ia lilo i kanaka kakahiaka, hoʻāʻo i ka ʻaʻa a Whole30, a ʻai, ʻona, palaki, holoi ʻia, a ʻauʻau ʻia me ka lanahu, nā mea āpau ma ka inoa o ka puke pai. I kona manawa kaʻawale, hiki ke loaʻa ʻo ia i ka heluhelu ʻana iā ia iho i nā puke kōkua, kaomi kī, a me ka hoʻomaʻamaʻa ʻana i ka hygge. Hahai iā ia ma Instagram.