Ma ke ʻano he makua hoʻokahi, ʻaʻole i loaʻa iaʻu ka maikaʻi o ka hoʻoponopono ʻana me ke kaumaha

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• Ua pahu wau i loko o ke kaumaha no kaʻu kaikamahine
• ʻO kēia ka ikaika
• Laina lalo

Nā kiʻi na Alyssa Kiefer

Hoʻopili mākou i nā huahana a mākou e manaʻo nei he pono no kā mākou poʻe heluhelu. Inā kūʻai ʻoe ma o nā loulou i kēia ʻaoʻao, loaʻa iā mākou kahi kōmike liʻiliʻi. Eia kā mākou hana.

Ua hele pinepine mai iaʻu ma ka pō, ma hope o kaʻu kaikamahine liʻiliʻi i kahi moe. Ua hele mai ma hope o ka pani ʻana o kaʻu kamepiula, ma hope o ka waiho ʻana o kaʻu hana, a pio nā kukui.

ʻO ia ka manawa e pā ikaika loa ai nā nalu hoʻopīpī o ke kaumaha a me ka mehameha, e hele hou mai ana iaʻu i kēlā me kēia manawa, me ka hoʻoweliweli e huki iaʻu i lalo a luʻu iaʻu i kuʻu mau waimaka ponoʻī.

Ua hana wau me ke kaumaha ma mua. Akā i koʻu ola makua, ʻo ia nō ka bout hoʻomaha loa aʻu i ʻike ai.

ʻOiaʻiʻo, ua ʻike wau i ke kumu o ke kaumaha. Ua paʻakikī ke ola, huikau, a makaʻu hoʻi. Ua lawe aku kahi hoa aloha i kona ola, a lele nā ​​mea āpau āpau i lalo mai laila.

Ua wāwahi ʻia kaʻu mau pilina. E hele mai ana nā ʻeha kahiko me koʻu ʻohana i ka papa. ʻO kekahi mea i manaʻoʻiʻo ʻole wau e haʻalele iaʻu ua nalo wale. A kau ʻia nā mea āpau ma luna oʻu e like me kēia kaumaha ʻaʻole hiki iaʻu ke ʻauamo hou.

Inā ʻaʻole na kaʻu kaikamahine, e kū ana i ka ʻāina i mua oʻu e like me ka hoʻoweliweli ʻana o nā nalu e huki iaʻu i lalo, ʻaʻole wau i ʻike inā ua ola wau iā ia.

ʻAʻole nō naʻe ke ola i kahi koho. Ma ke ʻano he makuahine hoʻokahi, ʻaʻole i loaʻa iaʻu ka maikaʻi o ka haule ʻana. ʻAʻole i loaʻa iaʻu ke koho o ka haki.

Ua pahu wau i loko o ke kaumaha no kaʻu kaikamahine

ʻIke wau i laila ke kumu o ke kaumaha loa i ka pō.

I loko o ka lā, ua hilinaʻi nui wau iaʻu. ʻAʻohe makua ʻē aʻe e kali ana i nā ʻeheu e lawe i ka wā aʻu e hana nei i loko o koʻu kaumaha. ʻAʻohe mea ʻē aʻe e tag inā loaʻa iaʻu kahi lā maikaʻi ʻole.

Aia wale kēia kaikamahine liʻiliʻi, ka mea aʻu e aloha nui ai ma mua o nā mea āpau a mea ʻē aʻe paha i kēia ao, e hilinaʻi ana iaʻu e mālama pū.

No laila ua hana wau i ka mea hiki. He kaua kēlā me kēia lā. Ua kaupalena wau i ka ikehu no kekahi mea ʻē aʻe. Akā nona, ua pahu wau i kēlā me kēia auneke o ka ikaika i ka ʻili.

ʻAʻole wau i manaʻo ʻo wau ka makuahine ʻoi loa i kēlā mau mahina. ʻAʻole wau ka makuahine i kūpono iā ia. Akā ua hoʻoikaika wau iaʻu iho i waho o kahi moe i kēlā me kēia lā.

Ua hele au i ka papahele a pāʻani pū me ia. Ua lawe wau iā mākou i waho i nā hanana mommy-kaikamahine. Ua hakakā wau ma o ka noe e hōʻike hou, pinepine a hou. Hana wau i kēlā mau mea āpau nona.

I kekahi mau ala, manaʻo wau ʻo wau ka makuahine hoʻokahi i hoʻopakele ai iaʻu mai ka pouli.

ʻO kona kukui liʻiliʻi e ʻālohilohi a ʻōlinolino ana i kēlā me kēia lā, e hoʻomanaʻo mai ana iaʻu no ke aha he mea nui e hakakā me ka ʻeha aʻu e manaʻo nei.

I kēlā me kēia lā, he hakakā kēlā. Mai kanalua: aia he hakakā.

Ua koi ʻia wau iaʻu e hoʻi i ka lāʻau maʻamau, ʻoiai ke ʻike nei i nā hola e hana pēlā ʻaʻole hiki. Aia kekahi kaua me aʻu iho i kēlā me kēia lā e kiʻi i ka treadmill, kahi mea hiki mau loa ke hoʻomaʻemaʻe i koʻu noʻonoʻo - ʻoiai ʻo ka mea aʻu e makemake ai e hūnā ma lalo o kaʻu mau pale. Aia kahi hana luʻuluʻu o ke kiʻi ʻana i nā hoaaloha, e ʻae nei i ka nui o koʻu hāʻule ʻana, a me ke kūkulu mālie ʻana i ka ʻōnaehana kākoʻo aʻu i hoʻopau ʻole ai i loko o kuʻu haze.

ʻO kēia ka ikaika

Aia nā ʻanuʻu pēpē, a paʻakikī. Ma nā ʻano he nui ua paʻakikī no ka mea he makuahine wau.

ʻO ka manawa no ka mālama pilikino ʻana he mea ʻoi aku ka palena ma mua o ka wā ma mua. Akā aia kekahi leo e hāwanawana nei i loko o koʻu poʻo, e hoʻomanaʻo mai iaʻu ʻo kēia kaikamahine liʻiliʻi ua hoʻopōmaikaʻi ʻia wau e kāhea aku i kaʻu ponoʻī ke hilinaʻi nei iaʻu.

ʻAʻole maikaʻi kēlā leo i kēlā me kēia manawa. Aia kekahi mau manawa ke pulu koʻu helehelena i ka waimaka a nānā wau i ke aniani e lohe wale ai i kēlā leo e ʻōlelo ana, "ʻAʻole kēia ka ikaika. ʻAʻole kēia ka wahine āu e makemake ai i kāu kaikamahine e ʻike. "

ʻO Logical, ua ʻike wau ua hewa kēlā leo. Ua ʻike wau i ka hāʻule ʻana o nā makuahine ʻoi loa i kekahi manawa, a ua maikaʻi no kā mākou poʻe keiki ke ʻike mai iā mākou e hakakā nei.

I koʻu puʻuwai, eia naʻe, makemake wau e ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi.

Ua makemake wau e ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi no kaʻu kaikamahine, no ka mea ʻaʻohe waiwai o ka haki nā mākuahine hoʻokahi. ʻO kēlā leo i loko o koʻu poʻo e wikiwiki mau e hoʻomanaʻo iaʻu i ka hohonu o koʻu hemahema i kaʻu kuleana i kēlā me kēia manawa ke ʻae wau e heleleʻi kēlā mau waimaka. E maopopo: Ua hoʻohana wau i kahi manawa kūpono i ka therapy e kamaʻilio wale ana no kēlā leo.

Laina lalo

Paʻa ke ola. Inā ʻoe i nīnau mai iaʻu i hoʻokahi makahiki i hala, e haʻi wau iā ʻoe ua loaʻa wau i nā mea āpau. E haʻi wau iā ʻoe ua ʻākoakoa nā ʻāpana o koʻu ola e like me nā ʻāpana o kahi puzzle, a like ka maikaʻi o nā mea āpau me kaʻu e noʻonoʻo ai.

Akā ʻaʻole wau i hemolele. ʻAʻole wau e hiki. Ua ʻike wau i ka hopohopo a me ke kaumaha. Hāʻule wau ke paʻakikī nā mea.

ʻO ka mea pōmaikaʻi, hiki iaʻu ke huki iaʻu iho i kēlā mau pahele. Ua hana au ma mua. ʻIke wau inā e kauō ʻia wau ma lalo hou, e hana hou nō wau.

E huki wau iaʻu iho no kaʻu kaikamahine - na mākou ʻelua. E hana wau ia no ko mākou ʻohana. Ke laina lalo: He makuahine hoʻokahi wau, a ʻaʻohe oʻu waiwai o ka haki.

ʻO Leah Campbell kahi mea kākau a me ka hoʻoponopono e noho ana ma Anchorage, Alaska. He makuahine hoʻokahi ʻo ia ma ke koho ma hope o ka serendipitous series o nā hanana i alakaʻi ʻia i ka hānai ʻia o kāna kaikamahine. ʻO Leah nō hoʻi ka mea kākau o ka puke “Wahine Hoʻokele Hoʻokahi”A ua kākau nui i nā kumuhana o ka infertility, adoption, a me nā mākua. Hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻohui me Leah Facebook, ʻo ia pūnaewele, a ʻO Twitter.