Pehea kou nānā ʻana i ka male male i kāu pilina

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Nei, ʻO Angelina Jolie ua ʻae ʻo ia ma kahi nīnauele ʻaʻole ʻo ia i manaʻo e hāʻule i ke aloha.

"Ua hele mai wau mai kahi home haki-ʻano ʻae ʻoe i kekahi mau mea e like me he moʻolelo kaʻao, a ʻaʻole ʻoe e nānā no lākou," wehewehe ʻo ia. A laila, ʻoiaʻiʻo, ua hui ʻo ia ʻO Brad Pitt, a ʻo nā mea ʻē aʻe e hana ana, hana makua, a me ka mōʻaukala pilina. Akā, ua kōkua a hōʻeha paha kāna manaʻo kūʻē i ke aloha i kona manawa hauʻoli?

Inā hele mai ʻoe mai kahi home haʻihaʻi a loaʻa paha kekahi mau puʻupuʻu i kāu mōʻaukala pili, he mea maʻamau ka palaka e pili ana i ka hoʻokō, wahi a Danielle Dowling, Ph.D., he kumu aʻoaʻo pilina ma Los Angeles. "Inā hoʻokuʻu ʻoe i kou makaʻu a ʻaʻole ʻoe e noʻonoʻo iā ia, hiki iā ia ke hopohopo iā ʻoe."

Akā inā lawe wale ka pilina i kahi noho i hope i nā mea ʻē aʻe i kou ola, a i ʻole iā ʻoe ke ʻano "ʻAʻole wau he kāne male" (a he ʻoiaʻiʻo kou mau manaʻo), hiki i kou noʻonoʻo ke kōkua maoli e lawe mai i ke ʻano o ka pili āu e makemake ai. , wahi a Vicky Barrios, kahi mea hoʻoponopono pilina ma New York. Inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e kia ana i kahi pahuhopu hopena, hoʻopau ʻoe i ka pili ʻana me kekahi ma muli o kou makemake e noho pū me lākou, wehewehe ʻo Barrios. ʻO ka launa pū ʻana i nā kāne ʻokoʻa, e ʻimi ana i ke ʻano o ka noho male ʻole ʻana, a i ʻole ke loaʻa ʻana i kahi keikikāne lōʻihi i mau ala āpau e ʻike ai i nā mea e pono ai iā ʻoe ma mua o ka hana ʻana i ka mea āu e manaʻo ai. "I kēia mau manawa wale nō i nānā nā kānaka i ka male ma ke ʻano he kaʻa no ka ulu ʻana o ka nohona a me ka hoʻonui ʻana i ka ʻuhane. Ma ke ʻano he kenekulia i hala, ʻo ka male ka mea nui o ka ʻoihana a me ka hoʻokele waiwai," wehewehe ʻo Dowling.

ʻOiaʻiʻo, e like me kā Jolie i hōʻike ai, hiki ke loli nā manaʻo-a me nā hoʻolālā me ka manawa. E ʻae mau i ka hiki-ʻoiai inā manaʻo ʻoe ua maopopo ʻoe i kahi āu e kū nei.

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