ʻO ka pilikia nui loa ʻaʻohe kanaka e kamaʻilio nei

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• He aha ka hana ʻino o ka wahine?
• ʻO nā hōʻailona Telltale
• ʻO ka Fallout mai HSDD
• No ke aha la kapu loa
• Akā He aha inā ʻoluʻolu ʻoe me ka loaʻa ʻole o ka moekolohe?
• Pehea e hana ai inā manaʻo ʻoe he HSDD paha kāu
• Nānā no

I ka pili ʻana i ka moekolohe, heluhelu a lohe paha ʻoe e pili ana i nā kūlana hou e hoʻāʻo ai, ka ʻenehana pāʻani moe kolohe hou loa, a pehea e loaʻa ai kahi ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi. Hoʻokahi mea āu e lohe ʻole ai *? ʻO nā wahine-ʻo ka wahine ʻōpio hoʻi-ʻaʻole hoihoi i ka hoihoi i ka moekolohe. Ua ʻike ka hapa nui o ka poʻe he mea maʻamau ia no ka hoʻololi ʻana i ka hormonal i ka hana ʻana i ka wahine i ka wā menopause, akā ua ʻike anei ʻoe he mea maʻamau ka hoʻohaʻahaʻa haʻahaʻa i nā wahine premenopausal? I kahi ana i hala iho nei i alakaʻi ʻia e ka American Sexual Health Association (ASHA) me ke kākoʻo mai Valeant, kahi hui lāʻau lapaʻau, 48 pākēneka o nā wahine premenopausal (mau makahiki 21 a 49) i ʻōlelo ʻoi aku ka haʻahaʻa o kā lākou moekolohe ma mua o ka wā i hala. pupule, pololei? ʻAʻole kēia mau wahine i loaʻa ʻole ka hoʻokamakama kolohe. He poʻe lākou i loaʻa nalowale ia. A inā ʻaneʻane kokoke ka hapalua o nā wahine i kēia makahiki i kēia hanana, no ke aha mākou e kamaʻilio hou ʻole ai e pili ana? E hoʻomaka kāua i ka convo i kēia manawa.

He aha ka hana ʻino o ka wahine?

ʻAʻole like me ka hana erectile, ka mea a ka poʻe āpau i ʻike ai e pili ana (mahalo, nā hoʻolaha ʻo Viagra), ʻaʻole kūkākūkā nui ʻia ka moe kolohe wahine (FSD). Eia nō naʻe 40 pākēneka o nā wahine e ʻehaʻeha iā ia i kekahi ʻano i ko lākou ola, e like me kahi noiʻi i paʻi ʻia i loko o ka American Journal of Obstetrics and Gynecology. Nui a hewahewa nā ʻano like ʻole o ka FSD, e like me nā pilikia me ka ʻiʻini, ka hoʻāla ʻana, ka hoʻowahāwahā ʻana, a me ka ʻeha, e like me ka pilina a me ka moekolohe moekolohe ʻo Pepper Schwartz, Ph.D., ka mea kākau a me ka polofesa o ka sociology ma ke Kulanui o Wakinekona. ʻOiai he koʻikoʻi kēia mau pilikia āpau ke kū aʻe i ka wā e ala aʻe ai, ka nele o ka makemake moekolohe, i kapa ʻia hoʻi ʻo hypoactive sex makemake maʻi (HSDD), ʻo ia ka mea maʻamau, e pili ana i ka ʻehā miliona mau wahine ma ʻAmelika.

ʻO nā hōʻailona Telltale

Inā ʻoe e haʻohaʻo nei he aha ka mea e ʻokoʻa ai ka HSDD mai ka hana ʻole "i ke ʻano," aia kahi ala akāka e haʻi aku ai. "ʻO ke kuhi nui ʻo ia ka hoʻomau ʻana," i wehewehe ai ʻo Schwartz. ʻOiai ke piʻi aʻe nei ka manaʻo o ka poʻe āpau a ʻaʻole nui loa-ʻoiai no ka manawa o ʻelua mau mahina-e hele ana no nā mahina a me nā mahina i ka manawa me ka makemake ʻole e moe kolohe he hōʻailona maikaʻi loa ia e piʻi ana kekahi mea, wahi āna. ʻOiaʻiʻo, ʻo nā mea e like me ke koʻikoʻi, nā pilikia pili, nā pilikia hana, nā maʻi, a me nā lāʻau i hiki ke hopena i kāu moe kolohe, no laila ke kāpae nei i kēlā mau mea he ʻāpana nui ia o ka loaʻa ʻana o kahi hōʻailona. Akā wehewehe ʻo Schwartz "inā ʻoe e ʻike i ke ala aʻe a makemake iā ʻoe hoʻohana ʻia ke manaʻo nei ua hala wale a hoʻomau ʻia kēia a ke hoʻomau nei ʻoe i ke kaumaha e pili ana iā ia, a laila ua hiki i ka manawa e hele e kamaʻilio me kahi mea olakino a e hana lākou i kahi papa inoa hōʻoia e ʻike i ka hewa. "

ʻO ka Fallout mai HSDD

ʻIke loa, pili ka HSDD i kou ola wahine, akā hiki ke komo i loko o nā wahi ʻē aʻe o ke ola o nā wahine, ʻo ia ke kumu he mea nui e hoʻonui i ka ʻike e pili ana iā ia, wahi a Schwartz. "ʻAʻole kūpono kā mākou moekolohe i loko o kahi pahu ʻeleʻele liʻiliʻi āu i hoʻokomo ai i kahi drawer a lawe i loko a puka i waho. He ʻāpana ia o ko mākou ʻano a he ʻāpana ia o ko mākou manaʻo iā mākou iho," i ʻōlelo ʻo ia. Aia kekahi mau mea nui i ka wā he HSDD ka wahine, e like me kā Schwartz. ʻO ka mea mua, hiki ke hāʻule kona manaʻo ponoʻī no ka mea, manaʻo paha ʻo ia aia kekahi hewa iā ia a ʻo ka mea āna e ʻike nei he mea ʻino loa, a ʻoi aku paha ka hewa. ʻO ka lua, hiki ke hoʻopili i ka pilina o ka wahine (inā aia ʻo ia i hoʻokahi), a e nīnau paha i kāna hoa i kāna makemake ponoʻī. Ke kūpaʻa ʻole kou manaʻo pilikino a me kou pilina, hiki iā ia ke hoʻopili i nā mea āpau mai ka hana a i nā hoaaloha, e hoʻonui ana i ke ala ma mua o ka moekolohe pinepine ʻole. (FYI, maʻamau, ʻoluʻolu nā wahine i ka hola ʻokoʻa ma mua o nā kāne.)

No ke aha la kapu loa

Ua ʻike ʻo ka noiʻi ASHA he 82 pākēneka o nā wahine kū i ke ana no FSD ke manaʻo nei he pono lākou e ʻike i kahi mea mālama ola, akā he 4 wale nō pākēneka i hele maoli a kamaʻilio i kahi loea e pili ana iā ia. Ina wahine paulele makemake lākou i kōkua, no ke aha lākou e kiʻi ʻole ai?

ʻĀ, he mea paha e pili ana i ke ʻano o ka moekolohe a me ka ʻike ʻia i loko o kēia kaiāulu. "ʻOi aku ka paʻakikī o ka moe i kekahi manawa ma mua o ka hāʻawi ʻana iā mākou i ka hōʻaiʻē, ʻoiai i kēia manawa ua loaʻa iā mākou ka ʻae e moe kolohe," wahi a Schwartz. He mea weliweli ka hāmama o ka poʻe e pili ana i kā lākou moekolohe ma mua o ka wā ma mua, akā hiki i kēia ke haʻalele i nā wahine me ka hana pilikino e ʻano ʻē. "Hōʻike mākou i ka poʻe he mea kupaianaha ka moekolohe a maʻalahi ke nānā aku. Loaʻa iā mākou kēia mau hiʻohiʻona e like me 50 Na Malu o Kahinahina, kahi e kūleʻa nui ai kekahi me kā lākou leʻaleʻa moe kolohe a ʻoiaʻiʻo hoʻi, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o nā wahine e pili ana i kēia pilikia inā ʻaʻole ʻo ia ka mea e hana nei iā lākou, "wahi āna.

He aha hou aʻe, no nā wahine i nā pilina koʻikoʻi, hiki ke ʻokoʻa i ke kamaʻilio ʻana e pili ana i kā lākou moekolohe ʻana mai ke kamaʻilio ʻana e pili ana i nā moekolohe ke pili aloha. "ʻAʻole lākou i kamaʻilio me kā lākou ipo wahine e pili ana i ka moekolohe e like me ka maʻa ma mua no ka mea hopohopo lākou e ʻike ʻole ʻia lākou he" maʻamau "a pale pū lākou i kā lākou pakanā," wahi a Schwartz. "ʻAʻole lākou makemake e ʻike ʻia kā lākou ʻoihana noʻonoʻo a me ka moekolohe no ka mea ʻike lākou he hoʻopono ʻole." ʻO ia kahi ʻāpana o ke kumu a Schwartz me ASHA i hana ai ʻo FindMySpark, kahi pūnaewele e ʻae i nā wahine e aʻo ʻole e pili ana i nā hōʻailona, ​​nā ʻōuli, a me nā mālama ʻana no FSD akā e hoʻopili pū me a heluhelu i nā moʻolelo mai nā poʻe ʻē aʻe e hele nei i ka mea like. "ʻO ka nui o kā mākou kamaʻilio e pili ana i ia, ʻo ka ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi," i ʻōlelo ʻo ia. "Aia kahi stigma, a pono mākou e hana kūʻē iā ia."

Akā He aha inā ʻoluʻolu ʻoe me ka loaʻa ʻole o ka moekolohe?

No laila e haʻohaʻo ana ʻoe, "Pehea e pili ana i nā wahine makemake ʻole e moekolohe a maikaʻi maikaʻi me ia?" No ka maopopo ʻana, ʻo ka hoʻokalakupua a i ʻole ka hoʻomaha ʻana mai ka hana moe kolohe ʻaʻole ʻo ia ka mea like me HSDD. ʻO nā hiʻohiʻona ʻelua o ka maʻi e loaʻa ana ka liʻiliʻi o ka makemake moekolohe ma mua o (ʻo ia hoʻi ua hoʻohana ʻoe i kahi kime kolohe) a ke huhū a luʻuluʻu paha e pili ana. No laila inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e moe kolohe a hauʻoli loa ʻoe no ia mea, ʻaʻohe kumu e hopohopo ai no ka hewa.

He aha hou aʻe, pono e hoʻomaopopo ʻia ʻaʻole ia he ʻano ʻē inā ʻaʻole ʻoe makemake e loaʻa ka moekolohe e like me kāu hoa, ʻoiai inā he kāne kāu hoa. Nui a hewahewa nā ala koʻikoʻi a ʻokoʻa nā wahine a me nā moekolohe kāne. Manaʻo pinepine ʻia e makemake nā wahine a me nā kāne e moe me ka like pinepine, akā ma muli o nā ʻano like ʻole o ke ʻano noʻonoʻo a me ka physiological, ʻaʻole ia ka hihia. Hōʻike ka ʻepekema ʻoiai ʻoi aku ka liʻiliʻi o ka mana o ka wahine a me ka kāne ma muli o ke kanaka, i ka hapanui o nā hihia, manaʻo nā kāne e pili ana i ka moekolohe, ʻoi aku ka maʻalahi o ka wahine i ka wahine, a ʻo ke kaʻina hana psychological e hele nei nā wahine e ala aʻe e ala aʻe he ʻokoʻa ia mai ka hele ke kanaka i ka hana. Hoʻokumu maoli kēia mau ʻokoʻa i nā ʻokoʻa i loko o ka wahine a me nā kāne, no laila ʻoiai ʻo ka hoʻohālikelike ʻana iā lākou he mea hoʻowalewale, ʻaʻole ia he kōkua.

ʻO ia kahi ʻāpana o ke kumu e koʻikoʻi ai ʻo Schwartz i ka manawa pinepine i ka moekolohe, "ʻAʻohe helu maʻamau no nā mea āpau. Nānā ka poʻe i kēia mau awelika o ka nui o nā manawa a ka poʻe e moekolohe ai no kahi hōʻoia a i ʻole kekahi ana e pili ana i ko lākou ola wahine a ʻAʻole au i manaʻo he kōkua nui kēlā, "i ʻōlelo ʻo ia. Akā i ka ʻike ʻana ua hāʻule ʻoe i ka hopena haʻahaʻa loa o ka spectrum a ka manaʻo e hoʻopulapula ʻia e pili ana he hōʻailona ia e hana nei kekahi mea.

Pehea e hana ai inā manaʻo ʻoe he HSDD paha kāu

ʻOi aku ma mua o nā mea a pau, ʻo ke kamaʻilio ʻana me ke kauka a i ʻole nā ​​​​mea lapaʻau ʻē aʻe āu e ʻoluʻolu ai he hana mua maikaʻi loa ia e hoʻihoʻi i kāu hoʻomakeʻa wahine. Aia kekahi o nā koho lapaʻau mai ka hoʻololi ʻana i kāu mau lāʻau i kēia manawa, i ka lawe ʻana i nā mea hou, i ka hoʻāʻo ʻana i ka hoʻōla wahine. I ka hopena o ka lā, ʻo ka mea nui ka normalizing FSD a hiki i ka manaʻo e ʻoluʻolu maoli nā wahine e lawe pū me kā lākou poʻe lawelawe olakino. Ma hope o nā mea a pau, pili kou olakino pili i nā wahi āpau o kou ola, ʻaʻole like me kou olakino noʻonoʻo a me ke olakino kino holoʻokoʻa. Mai makaʻu e hoʻolohe iā ia.

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