ʻAʻole ka hoʻoholo i kāu radar: 11 mau ala e hoʻohui maoli ai i kēia makahiki

Anter

• Kākau i lalo
• Hahai
• E ʻōlelo maikaʻi ʻAʻole
• E hoʻokuʻu i ka huhū
• Nā Mea ʻEleʻele
• Kahaha kekahi
• E mālama i kahi mea hana i ka ʻaina awakea
• Lilo i Lala
• Kaʻana like i ka minoʻaka
• E hoʻohana i ka ʻenehana i kou pono
• E ho'ōla i ka Romance
• Nānā no

Loaʻa iā ʻoe nā haneli o nā pilina ma LinkedIn a me nā hoaaloha hou aʻe ma Facebook. Makemake ʻoe i kā lākou mau kiʻi ma Instagram a hoʻouna pinepine iā Snapchat selfies. Akā ʻo ka manawa hea ʻoe i kamaʻilio ai me kekahi o lākou he alo a he alo? Ua manao pela. A ʻo ka nele o ka hoʻopaʻa paʻa maoli hiki ke hana ʻoi aku ka pōʻino ma mua o kou manaʻo.

"ʻOiai he mea hoʻopōmaikaʻi nui ke kamaʻilio uila ʻana i ko mākou au, ua hoʻopilikia ʻia ia i ka mana o ka pilina kanaka ma o ka lawe ʻana i ka pili pilikino a me ke komo pū ʻana," wahi a Edward Hallowell, M.D., ka mea hoʻokumu o nā Hallowell Centers a me ka mea kākau o Hoʻohui: Nā pilina paʻa 12 e wehe i kou puʻuwai, hoʻolōʻihi i kou ola, a hoʻonui i kou ʻuhane. Ua lilo kēia hoʻokaʻawale ʻana i mea nui i ko mākou olakino a me ko mākou olakino. ʻO ka loaʻa ʻana o nā pilina pilikanaka nāwaliwali e like ia me ka puhipaka ʻana i nā puhaka he 15 i kēlā lā i kēia lā, ʻoi aku ka pōʻino ma mua o ka hana ʻole, a ʻelua mau manawa ʻoi aku ka weliweli ma mua o ka momona, e like me ka loiloi ʻana o ke Kulanui ʻo Brigham Young. Loaʻa i ka poʻe me nā pilina maikaʻi ʻole ka 50 pākēneka nui o ka make ma hope o ʻehiku a me ka hapa makahiki. Ma mua o kēia mau maʻi nui, ʻo ka poʻe me ka launa pū ʻana o ka pilina e hōʻike i ka manaʻo laulā e laulā i ko lākou ola. "Ke hoʻomau nei ʻoe i ka lā, akā ke noʻonoʻo nei ʻoe, 'ʻO kēia wale nō?'" wahi a Hallowell.

ʻOiai kāu papa hana paʻa, loaʻa iā ʻoe ka manawa e hoʻoikaika ai i kou pilina a hoʻonui i kou ola a puni-a he aha ka manawa maikaʻi ma mua o ka Makahiki Hou? "Paipai i ka hoʻoulu ʻana i nā pilina naʻau a me ke kamaʻilio maka ʻana he maka," wahi a Hallowell. Me kēia mau hana maʻalahi, ʻaʻole ʻoe e ʻohi wale i kahi ʻoihana kaiāulu ʻoi aku ka ikaika, he leʻaleʻa iki paha kāu.

Kākau i lalo

Kukahiko

Nui ka poʻe e hiki ke hoʻohui hou aku, no laila e hoʻomaka me ʻekolu, ʻōlelo ʻo Hallowell, e like me kāu hoa noho o ke kulanui, ka hoahānau mamao, a me kahi hoa hana. E papa inoa i ko lākou mau inoa a e kaha i nā mea hoʻomanaʻo ma kāu kalena e kelepona a leka uila iā lākou i kēlā me kēia mahina a i ʻole. [Tweet i kēia kihi!]

Hahai

Kukahiko

ʻO ka hapa nui o mākou e ʻōlelo wikiwiki, "E ʻai kāua" a i ʻole "E kiʻi mākou i kahi mea inu" ke ʻike mākou i kahi hoaaloha kahiko a i ʻole hoa kamaʻāina, akā ʻaʻole mākou e hoʻokō maoli i kēlā mau lā. I kēia makahiki, e hoʻonohonoho i kahi manawa a me kahi no kāu hopu ʻana, a e hāhai pū me ia.

E ʻōlelo maikaʻi ʻAʻole

Kukahiko

ʻOiaʻiʻo, ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke "hana i ka ʻaina awakea" me kēlā me kēia kanaka āu i ʻike ai a i ʻole nā ​​​​mea a pau āu e hālāwai ai. "He mea nui ia e hoʻokahua i kāu mau pilina," wahi a Julie de Azevedo Hanks, ka luna hoʻomalu o Wasatch Family Therapy a me ka mea kākau o ʻO ka Burnout Cure: He alakaʻi ola no nā wāhine i hoʻopilikia ʻia. E noʻonoʻo i kāu mau pilina ma ke ʻano he concentric circles, me ʻoe ma ka waena, a laila kou mau pilina pili, nā ʻohana, nā hoaaloha, nā hoa pili, a pēlā aku. E hoʻolilo i ka nui o ka manawa a me ka ikaika e hoʻomaka i ke kikowaena, a attenuate i waho. No laila ke ʻike ʻoe i kekahi ma kahi pōʻai o waho, mai hana hoʻohiki e hui pū. "ʻO kēia kahi e maʻalahi ai ka pāpili kaiaulu a me ka kamaʻilio uila," wahi a Hanks. E haʻi iā lākou he mea maikaʻi ke ʻike iā lākou, a hoʻohana i ka Facebook a i ʻole Twitter e hoʻomau i ka pilina. [Tweet i kēia kihi!]

E hoʻokuʻu i ka huhū

Kukahiko

Loaʻa iā mākou ma ka liʻiliʻi hoʻokahi kanaka a mākou i manaʻo ai ua hewa mākou i ka wā i hala-make 2014 i ka makahiki āu e kala ai i kekahi o lākou. "ʻO ke kala ʻana he makana āu e hāʻawi ai iā ʻoe iho, no ka mea e hoʻokuʻu iā ʻoe mai nā toxins o ka huhū mau a me ka huhū," wahi a Hallowell, nāna i kākau i ka puke. Aa e kala mai. ʻAʻole ia manaʻo e hoʻopoina ʻoe-a ʻae paha i ka mea i hana ʻia, hoʻohui ʻo ia, ke hoʻokuʻu wale nei ʻoe i ka ikehu maikaʻi ʻole no kou pono ponoʻī. Inā pono ʻoe e hoʻomau i ka pilina mau me kēia kanaka, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ke kala ʻana i ke kino, akā no nā kūlana paʻa, ʻaʻole pono ka mea ʻē aʻe e ʻike-kala iā ia i loko o kou manaʻo, a neʻe aku.

Nā Mea ʻEleʻele

Kukahiko

E like me ka hapanui o mākou i ʻike maka, he mea maʻamau ka loaʻa ʻana o nā kuʻikahi ma waena o nā hoaaloha pili a me nā ʻohana. "Me ka pili pili loa e hiki mai ana nā hakakā, akā ʻo ka hakakā ka mea maʻamau-pehea ʻoe e hana ai me ia ka mea nui," wahi a Hallowell. ʻO nā pilikia koʻikoʻi e like me ka hoʻomāinoino, ka hoʻohui ʻana, a i ʻole nā ​​​​hana ʻē aʻe, ʻōlelo ʻo ia e hoʻopuka i kāu pilikia ma ke ākea i mea e hoʻoikaika ai i kāu pilina.

Inā ua huhū ʻoe me kou hoahānau nāna i hana i kahi ʻōlelo waha ʻole ma ka papa ʻaina Thanksgiving a i ʻole he hoa pili i kamaʻilio ma hope o kou kua, e kī a haʻi aku ua hala ʻoe iā lākou a makemake ʻoe e kamaʻilio e pili ana. ʻOi aku ka maikaʻi o ka hui ʻana he alo a he alo i hiki iā ʻoe ke komo i nā ʻōlelo waha ʻole, wahi a Hanks, akā inā ʻaʻole hiki, e hoʻāʻo i ke kelepona kelepona a i ʻole Skype, a laila leka uila, a laila kikokiko.

Hele aku i kahi kumuhana pili e like me ka pāʻani tennis, ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo ʻo Hanks: "E mālama i ka kinipōpō ma kou ʻaoʻao o ka pā. ʻ Saylelo, Ua ʻeha wau i ka wā i hele ʻole aku ai ʻoe i ka make ʻana o koʻu makuahine i ka makahiki i hala. ʻIke wau he nui kāu. e hele ana i loko o kou ola ponoʻī, akā naʻe, ke kaumaha nei au ʻaʻole wau i lohe mai iā ʻoe.'" ʻOiai ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke pale i kekahi kanaka mai ka manaʻo e hoʻouka ana ʻoe iā lākou, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka haʻi ʻana i nā kumuhana paʻakikī inā ʻoe mua. kaʻana like i kou mau manaʻo palupalu-ʻeha, kaumaha, makaʻu, mehameha, wehewehe ʻo Hanks. Inā ʻaʻole lākou makemake e kamaʻilio, e wehe i ka puka me ka ʻōlelo ʻana aia ʻoe ma laila inā manaʻo lākou e mākaukau e launa hou, a i ʻole e nīnau inā hiki iā ʻoe ke nānā hou me lākou i loko o kekahi mau mahina.

Kahaha kekahi

Kukahiko

Inā makemake ka pilina i kahi TLC liʻiliʻi akā ʻaʻole he puʻuwai piha piha i ka puʻuwai, e hōʻike i kou makemake e launa hou ma ka hōʻike ʻana iā ʻoe e mālama. E kiʻi aku i nā ala liʻiliʻi, ʻike ʻole, ʻōlelo ʻo Hallowell. E hoʻouna i kahi mea i manaʻo ʻole ʻia-he hīnaʻi hua, puke hoihoi, a i ʻole kāleka hoʻonāukiuki e ʻakaʻaka iā ia-e kōkua i ka haki ʻana i ka hau.

"E noʻonoʻo ʻoiai no ka ʻano o ka hana a kekahi poʻe, hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻoholo i ke ʻano o ke kaikamahine, kaikuahine, a me nā hoa aloha, a i ʻole nā ​​limahana e oe makemake e lilo, "wahi a Hanks. No laila inā ʻaʻole makemake kou haku iā ʻoe i kahi lā hānau hauʻoli, e waiho wale i kahi kāleka ma kāna pākaukau. Inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e lohe pinepine mai kou ʻanakē Sally, e hoʻolālā i kahi kipa kahaha. A i ʻole e hoʻouna wale i kahi maʻalahi 'ōlelo leka i kāu mau hoa hele a mamao aku e ʻōlelo, "Ke noʻonoʻo nei iā ʻoe. Lana ka manaʻo he wiki maikaʻi kāu! "

E mālama i kahi mea hana i ka ʻaina awakea

Kukahiko

Hoʻokaʻawale ʻia ka hapa nui o nā wahi hana i kēia mau lā, a hiki i nā wahi hana kaumaha ke alakaʻi i nā pilikia olakino a me ka noʻonoʻo. Hoʻokahi mea hiki ke kōkua i ka loaʻa ʻana o kahi hoaaloha ma ke keʻena - inā he hoa hana āu e makemake nui ai, e hauʻoli nui paha ʻoe i kāu hana, wehewehe ʻo Hallowell. Hāʻawi e kūʻai i ka kofe cubemate a i ʻole ka ʻaina awakea, a e ʻike maikaʻi iā ia, a i ʻole e hahai i ka laʻana o Hanks a hoʻomaka i nā hālāwai limahana me kahi kamaʻilio liʻiliʻi e pili ana i ke ola o kēlā me kēia kanaka. "He mea nui ia e ʻike a mahalo i kāu mau hoa hana a me nā limahana ma ke ʻano he kanaka, ʻaʻole wale nā ​​mea hana i ka keʻena," wahi a Hanks. "Hana ka poʻe i ka hana ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi a hauʻoli hoʻi ke ʻike ʻia ka ʻike ʻia, lohe ʻia, a me ka waiwai nui."

Lilo i Lala

Kukahiko

Hōʻike nā haʻawina ʻo ke komo ʻana i kahi hui a hui paha e hoʻonui ai i ka manaʻo o ka maikaʻi a me ke ʻano o ke ola, wahi a Hallowell. Hui pū me kekahi mea - he hale pule paha ia, ka hui holo, ke aloha, a i ʻole ka papa civic e hui ana ma ka liʻiliʻi i hoʻokahi manawa i ka mahina. Nā helu bonus inā komo ʻoe i kahi mea āu e makemake nui ai. "E hoʻopili aku paha ʻoe me nā poʻe ʻē aʻe a kamaʻilio a ʻike hou iā lākou inā he mea āu e hoihoi ai," wahi a Hanks.

Kaʻana like i ka minoʻaka

Kukahiko

Hiki i nā pilina liʻiliʻi ke hoʻonui i kou pilina pili kaiaulu, wahi a Hallowell. E ʻakaʻaka i ka makua kāne āu e hele ai ma ke alanui waiu o ka hale kūʻai, a waiho i kāu kelepona i loko o kāu ʻeke a aloha aku i ka malihini i loko o ka elevator. "Ke hāʻawi nei kēia mau manawa liʻiliʻi iā ʻoe i ka hoʻoikaika ʻana i ka maikaʻi e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke hauʻoli i ke ola ʻana-a ʻoi aku ka manaʻo o ke ola," wahi a Hallowell. ʻO kekahi pilina o kēlā me kēia lā e hiki ke hoʻololi: E kū ma ka hale kūʻai kofe a i ʻole deli kūloko, a e ʻike i nā mea nona ka inoa. Hiki i kēlā mau minuke ʻekolu o ke kamaʻilio aloha ke hoʻoikaika nui i kou ʻano no ke koena o ka lā. "Ke hoʻopili aku mākou me nā poʻe ʻē aʻe i ko mākou ola o kēlā me kēia lā, ʻike mākou i kahi ʻoi aku o ka nui a me ka hana ma mua o ka wā e noho ai mākou ma ka pailaka holoʻokoʻa," wahi a Hallowell.

E hoʻohana i ka ʻenehana i kou pono

Kukahiko

Hiki i nā pāpili kaiaulu ke lilo i mea hana pono e pili mau i kēlā mau poʻe āu i hui ai i nā makahiki i hala a i ʻole ʻike pinepine pinepine-a he manawa liʻiliʻi a me ka hana. "Aloha au i ka ʻenehana no ka mea hāʻawi iā ʻoe i ka hiki ke hoʻouna i kahi leka uila a i ʻole ka manaʻo ma ke kiʻi i ka manawa koke, e hōʻike i kekahi e noʻonoʻo nei ʻoe iā lākou," wahi a Hanks. E haʻi aku i kahi hoaaloha he nani ʻo ia ma kāna pou Instagram hou, e hoʻouna i kahi leka uila, a i ʻole leka uila i kahi loulou i kahi ʻatikala e hoʻomanaʻo iā ʻoe i kahi intern mua.

E ho'ōla i ka Romance

Kukahiko

Inā ua mamao loa ʻoe mai kāu kāne a i ʻole kāu hoa kāne i kēia mau lā, maʻalahi hoolaha iā ia, wahi a Hallowell. A laila e hōʻike iā ia me ka "Nice tie;" "Aloha au i kou honi ʻana iaʻu;" a i ʻole "Me he mea lā ua haʻahaʻa iki ʻoe. He mea i kou manaʻo?" ʻO ke kamaʻilio ka kī, no laila mai makaʻu e nīnau no nā mea āu e pono ai āu e kiʻi nei, a me nā mea āna e pono ai. He mea koʻikoʻi ka hoʻolilo ʻana i ka manawa ma ke ʻano he kāne e hoʻoikaika hou i kahi pilina. "ʻEkolu mau minuke paha ka lōʻihi o ke kīʻaha kope, ʻekolu mau hola ma mua o ka ʻaina awakea a me kahi kiʻi ʻoniʻoni, a i ʻole ʻekolu mau lā ma kahi huakaʻi hopena pule, akā ʻaʻohe mea pani no ka manawa pū," wahi a Hallowell.

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