He aha pololei ia ʻo 'Micro-Cheating'?

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• He aha kēīa?
• He mea hou paha kēia?
• ʻO ka micro-cheating ka mea like me ka hoʻopunipuni ʻana i ka naʻau?
• He aha nā mea e like me ka micro-cheating?
• Pehea ke ʻano o ka hana ma ka hana?
• He aha inā ʻo ʻoe ka mea e hana ana, a ʻaʻole ʻoe i ʻike?
• He aha inā ʻaʻole ʻoe, akā ʻo kāu hoa?
• Pehea ʻoe e hoʻokau ai i nā palena a puni ia?
• Pehea ʻoe e neʻe ai ma mua?
• Ke laina lalo

He aha kēīa?

ʻOiaʻiʻo, maʻalahi e hoʻomaopopo i ka hoʻopunipuni ke loaʻa ka licking genital / stroking / paʻi e pili ana.

Akā pehea e pili ana i nā mea i maʻa iki aʻe - e like me ka winking, ma lalo o ka pākaukau e hoʻopili ana, a i ʻole ke kuli?

Aia kekahi huaʻōlelo no kēlā mau mea e pīpī ana i ka laina (lahilahi) ma waena o ka pono a me ka hilinaʻi ʻole: micro-cheating.

"Ke kuhikuhi nei ka micro-cheating i nā hana liʻiliʻi i ʻaneʻane hoʻopunipuni, "wahi a Tammy Shaklee, ka loea pili pili LGBTQ a me ka mea hoʻokumu o H4M Matchmaking.

ʻO ka mea i helu ʻia he "hoʻopunipuni" he ʻokoʻa i kēlā me kēia pilina, no laila ʻo ka mea i kūpono e like me ka micro-cheating hiki ke loli pū kekahi.

Ma ke ʻano he rula laulā, ʻo ka micro-cheating kekahi mea i ʻoi aku ka manaʻo, ke kino, a i ʻole ka moekolohe ma mua o ka mea i manaʻo ʻia he kosher i kāu pili.

"He paheʻe ia he paheʻe," i ʻōlelo ʻo ia. "He mea kēlā hiki alakaʻi i ka hoʻopunipuni piha ʻana i ka wā e hiki mai ana. ”

He mea hou paha kēia?

ʻAʻole! Mahalo i kā mākou pulakaumaka hou me ka kapa inoa ʻana i nā loina o ka launa pū ʻana a me nā pōpilikia, aia iā mākou i kēia manawa ka ʻōlelo e kāhea i kēia hana i waho.

Kākau ʻo Shaklee i nā ʻano maʻamau o ka micro-cheating e pili ana i ka leka ʻana i nā leka uila a me ka pāpaho ( * tale * DM pāheʻe * * kahe *), no laila inā hoʻopunipuni liʻiliʻi me he mea lā ʻoi aku ka maʻamau ma mua o ka manawa ma mua, no ka mea ua lilo mākou i mea ʻoi aku ka nui o Online.

ʻO ka micro-cheating ka mea like me ka hoʻopunipuni ʻana i ka naʻau?

ʻAʻole, akā ua kāwili kekahi i nā mea ʻelua.

E like me Gigi Engle, ka ʻelele o ka nohona condoms o Life, Condom, a ʻo ka mea kākau o "All the F * cking Mistakes: A Guide to Sex, Love, and Life," i ʻōlelo ʻia, "He hoahānau ka hoʻopunipuni aloha naʻau."

Me ka hoʻopunipuni ʻuhane aia kahi zero hanky panky, akā aia kahi hoʻokomo kālā kūpono ʻole.

ʻO ka Micro-cheating, ma ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe, ʻaʻole ia e kuhikuhi wale i ka hele ana i ka palena palena o ka naʻau.

He aha nā mea e like me ka micro-cheating?

Eia hou, pili ia i nā mea āpau e like me ka hoʻopunipuni ʻana i kāu pilina.

Kēia mea i kekahi mea mai ka hoʻoiho ʻana i ka polokalamu pili Lex hou "e nānā wale ia!" i ka pāʻani ʻana me ka lauoho o kou hoaaloha, pālua ʻana i ke kiʻi o kahi ex o Instagram, a i ʻole me ka maʻamau, ahem, hoʻolōʻihi ʻia hiki i ka ʻaina awakea me kahi hoa hana ke helu.

ʻO nā laʻana ʻē aʻe:

• ka pane mau ʻana i ka moʻolelo Instagram a kekahi kanaka kikoʻī
• ke nānā nui nei i kekahi nāna ʻaʻole ʻo kāu hoapili ma mua o kāu hoa maoli ma ka pāʻina
• muting i kekahi a i ʻole kāpae i kahi kuapo huaʻōlelo i ʻike ʻole kāu pakanā e kamaʻilio ana ʻoe
• kaʻana like i nā kikoʻī e pili ana i nā ʻono moekolohe, kinks, a me nā moemoeā me kekahi mea ʻaʻole kou hoapili

Kāhea ʻo Engle ʻaʻole pili ka micro-cheating i nā pilina monogamous wale nō.

"Inā loaʻa iā ʻoe kahi pilina hāmama kahi i ʻae ʻia ʻoe e moekolohe ma waho o ka pilina, akā ʻaʻohe manaʻo, ʻo ka loaʻa ʻana o kahi pilina ʻano huna me kekahi kanaka he ʻano mirco-cheating."

Hoʻohui hou ʻo ia ka mea like inā aia ʻoe i kahi pilina polyamorous a mai haʻi aku i kāu pakanā e pili ana i kahi mea hou āu e ʻike nei me ka ʻae pū.

Pehea ke ʻano o ka hana ma ka hana?

ʻO ka hoʻonui pinepine ʻana i ka manawa, ka ikehu, a i ʻole ke poʻo poʻo i kahi kanaka ʻaʻole kāu hoa, wahi a Shaklee.

ʻO ka manaʻo paha ia e hoʻopili iki i kahi hoa hana - e noʻonoʻo i nā pāʻina hana lōʻihi, e ʻohi maʻamau iā lākou i ke kope i ke kakahiaka, a i ʻole ke leka ʻana ma hope o nā hola.

ʻO ia paha he "launa" iki ma ka pāpili - makemake i nā kiʻi kahiko o kekahi, e kipa pinepine ana i kā lākou moʻolelo, a i ʻole ke heʻe ʻana i kā lākou DM.

Hiki paha ke kapa i ke kapa ʻokoʻa ke ʻike ʻoe e ʻike ana ʻoe i kekahi (#dresstoimpress), a i ʻole e haʻi ʻole i kāu Main i kahi mea āu e ʻike ai he nani.

"Inā haʻi aku kou ʻōpū iā ʻoe e ʻoluʻolu ʻole kāu pakanā e kāu mau hana a i ʻole nā ​​ʻōuli - a i ʻole ʻoluʻolu ʻole ʻoe - he hōʻailona maikaʻi loa ia e hoʻopunipuni nei ʻoe i ka micro," wahi a Engle.

He aha inā ʻo ʻoe ka mea e hana ana, a ʻaʻole ʻoe i ʻike?

ʻO ka hōʻailona helu ʻelua e hoʻopunipuni nei ʻoe i nā mea ʻē aʻe i kekahi mea ʻē aʻe - a me ko lākou mau manaʻo, ʻae ʻia, a i ʻole nānā - ma luna o kāu hoa.

"Ke hiki mai kahi mea maikaʻi, ke haʻi aku nei ʻoe i kekahi ma mua o kou haʻi ʻana aku i kāu pakanā?" i nīnau aku ai ʻo Shaklee. "Ke kamaʻilio nei kekahi mea ʻē aʻe, ʻike ʻoe iā ʻoe iho e hoʻokele kino ana iā lākou?"

Inā ʻo Y-E-S ka pane i kekahi o kēia mau mea, e hoʻomaka i ka noʻonoʻo ʻana no ke aha ʻo ʻoe e hana nei a i ʻole ke ʻano o kēia ʻano.

Ke nānā nei paha ʻoe i ka nānā liʻiliʻi mai, ka pilina me, a i ʻole ka pīhoihoi i kāu hoa ma mua o? Hōʻike paha kāu hana kānalua i ka hōʻoluʻolu ʻole ma waena o ka mokuʻāina o kou pili.

Inā pēlā - a manaʻo ʻoe he pono ke hoʻopakele i kou pili - ua hiki i ka manawa e hana pū me kāu pakanā e hoʻoponopono i kēlā.

Inā naʻe, ua ʻike ʻia kahi loli i kāu pilina me ka manaʻo ʻole ʻaʻole hiki ke loli, ʻo ka hopena paha e haki, wahi a Shaklee.

He aha inā ʻaʻole ʻoe, akā ʻo kāu hoa?

ʻO ka manawa kēia e kamaʻilio chit. "E hele mai i kāu hoa me nā laʻana kikoʻī o ka micro-cheating. E wehewehe pehea e hōʻeha ai kā lākou ʻano iā ʻoe, "wahi a Engle.

ʻO ka pahuhopu e waiho i ke kamaʻilio me kahi hoʻolālā pāʻani no ka neʻe ʻana i mua (ʻaʻole paha ...).

Pehea e komo ai i ke kamaʻilio:

• "Ke ʻike nei wau i kou keu i ke aloha kino me X; Makemake au e kamaʻilio e pili ana inā paha he mea āu e ʻike ai, no ke aha ʻo ia ka hihia, a pehea e ʻike ai iaʻu. "
• "Ua hopohopo wau e lawe i kēia, akā ua ʻike wau ua ʻōlelo ʻoe i kahi aho o ka puʻuwai emojis ma kāu kiʻi o kāu ex, a hoʻonāukiuki wau iaʻu. E hāmama ʻoe i kahi kamaʻilio e pili ana i nā pāpili a me nā palena? "
• "Ke ʻike nei mākou i kekahi i kekahi no kekahi mau mahina i kēia manawa, a makemake wau e kamaʻilio e pili ana i ka holoi ʻana i nā polokalamu aloha mai kā mākou kelepona a ʻaʻole hoʻi e 'swiping no nā kī ʻana' wale nō."

E hoʻomanaʻo: pololei kāu mau manaʻo.

"Inā puhi lākou iā ʻoe e ʻōlelo ana 'ʻaʻole ia he hana nui,' a i ʻole e hōʻoluʻolu ʻole iā ʻoe, ʻo ia kahi ʻano gaslighting," wahi a Engle. A ʻo ia ke kumu kūpono e noʻonoʻo hou ai i kou pili.

Akā, inā pane mai kāu pakanā me ka mālama, a hāmama i ka hoʻololi ʻana i kā lākou ʻano a me ka hoʻonohonoho ʻana i nā palena, hiki i kou pilina ke ulu ikaika.

Pehea ʻoe e hoʻokau ai i nā palena a puni ia?

ʻO ke kūkulu ʻana i nā palena kahi i noho ʻole ai kekahi ma mua ke paʻakikī. Hiki ke kōkua i kēia mau ʻanuʻu.

E kamaʻilio kūkā. ʻO ke poʻo i ka ʻāina kūlike ʻole (manaʻo: paka, kaʻa i hoʻokū ʻia, ka hale kope), a laila, loaʻa realll ʻae, ʻoiaʻiʻo, e pili ana i ka mea āu e manaʻo nei a ma hea ʻoe e manaʻo ai e kupu mai ana kēlā manaʻo. (A e ʻike pono i ka manawa o kāu hoa e kaʻana like i ko lākou mau manaʻo.).

E hana i nā hana e hoʻoikaika ai i kou pilina. Ma muli o ka hōʻike pinepine ʻana o ka micro-cheating i nā pilikia ma waena o ka pilina, e hana pū me kāu pakanā e hoʻoponopono i kēlā. Pono paha ia i ka manawa mua o ka manawa maikaʻi, e hoʻomaka ana e hoʻonohonoho i ka moekolohe, a i ʻole ke komo ʻana i PDA hou aʻe.

E kamaʻilio e pili ana i ka mea e helu ʻia me ka hoʻopunipuni a me ka hoʻopunipuni liʻiliʻi. A kikoʻī! ʻO DMing kekahi a me nā mea āpau ma Instagram kahi no-no? A i ʻole nā ​​poʻe āu i launa ai a i ʻole hoihoi iā ʻoe? Kūpono ʻole paha ke aloha kino, a i ʻole ke kuhikuhi wale ʻia i nā hoa aloha? Ke kamaʻilio nei paha me kahi hoa hana ma hope o nā hola i kūpono ʻole, a i ʻole ke hana ʻia ma o ka leka (i kū ʻole i ka leka uila)?

E hana pinepine hou i kēia kamaʻilio ʻana. Ke komo nei nā hoa hana hou, nā hoaaloha, a me nā makamaka i kou ola a me nā hānai kaiāulu, e hiki mai nā manawa hou no ka micro-cheating. No laila e hoʻomau i ka nānā ʻana me kāu hoa e pili ana i ka mea ʻoluʻolu i loko o ke ʻano o kou pilina.

Pehea ʻoe e neʻe ai ma mua?

ʻO ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, e like me ka ʻōlelo a Engle, ʻaʻole "ʻaʻole nā ​​kāne āpau makemake hiki ke neʻe i mua o ka micro-cheating. ”

Akā, inā ʻo ka neʻe i mua ka pahuhopu ia, ʻōlelo ʻo Shaklee ʻo ka papa ʻaina ka mālama mau, ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, nā ʻōnaehana hoʻomau o ke aloha, hōʻoia, a me ka prioritization o ka pilina.

"Ke ʻimi nei i ke kōkua o kahi ʻoihana laikini hiki ke kōkua iā ʻoe e hana ma waena o ia mea hiki ke kōkua pū," i ʻōlelo ʻo ia.

Ke laina lalo

ʻO ka mea i helu ʻia he micro-cheating ka mea ʻokoʻa mai ka pilina i ka pilina, e pili ana i ka mea i hoʻokumu ʻia e like me ka hoʻopunipuni. ʻO kēia ke kumu o ka hoʻokumu ʻana i ka palena o ka naʻau, ke kino, a me ka moe kolohe (a ʻoi aku ka wikiwiki ma mua o ka hope!) He mea nui.

Inā kū ka micro-cheating ma waena o ka pilina, he mea nui e kamaʻilio iā ia a laila e hoʻolālā me kahi hoʻolālā e mālama hou ia.

Ma hope o nā mea āpau, kāhea ʻia paha micro-ke hoʻomoe nei, akā ʻaʻole ia he manaʻo ʻaʻole ia a makika-hoʻokuʻu

ʻO Gabrielle Kassel kahi mea kākau wahine a me ke olakino ma New York – a ʻo CrossFit Level 1 Trainer. Ua lilo ʻo ia i kanaka kakahiaka, ua hoʻāʻo ma luna o 200 mau haʻalulu, a ʻai ʻia, ʻona, a palaki ʻia me ka lanahu - nā mea āpau ma ka inoa o ka puke pai. I kona manawa kaʻawale, hiki ke loaʻa ʻo ia i ka heluhelu ʻana i nā puke kōkua nona iho a me nā puke aloha, kaomi ʻana i ke keʻena, a me ka hulahula lāʻau paha. Hahai iā ia ma Instagram.