7 ʻ Tipslelo Aʻoaʻo Kūkākūkā Liʻiliʻi no nā ʻĀina Holiday

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• Nā Helu Kūkākūkā Hoʻomākaukau
• Kūkākūkā iā ʻoe iho
• E pāʻani i ka "Paʻani Kūkākūkā"
• E hoʻomanaʻo e ukali
• Hōʻalo i nā "Killers Kūkākūkā"
• Kūlou ʻoluʻolu
• E lawe i kahi hanu
• Nānā no

Ua hoʻomaka ka hui mua o nā kono i nā pāʻina hoʻomaha. A ʻoiai he nui nā mea e aloha ai e pili ana i kēia mau ʻahaʻaina ʻoliʻoli, ʻo ka hui ʻana i nā poʻe hou he nui a hana i nā kamaʻilio liʻiliʻi hiki ke lilo i mea paʻakikī-ʻo ka poʻe i hānau ʻia me ka makana o ka gab.

"ʻO ka hapanui o mākou ke noʻonoʻo nui nei i kēia mau hanana, a noʻonoʻo e ʻike ka poʻe āpau i ka lumi ʻaʻohe o mākou mea e kamaʻilio a ʻike ai paha he ʻoluʻolu ʻole mākou," wahi a ka loio ʻōlelo liʻiliʻi ʻo Debra Fine, ka mea kākau o Ma waho aʻe o ka leka uila a ʻO ke akamai o ke kamaʻilio liʻiliʻi. ʻO ka hauʻoli, ʻōlelo ʻo ia he hewa ʻole. Ma na ahaaina, nā mea a pau (koe wale ka mea hoʻokipa) e noʻonoʻo nei e pili ana iā lākou iho-i kā lākou lole, nā hoa aloha, a me kā lākou hoʻolālā no ka hope. ʻAʻole lākou e noʻonoʻo no ke aha ʻoe e kū hoʻokahi ai ma ka pā cheese. (No laila, mai makaʻu ʻoe-ʻoiai makemake paha ʻoe e heluhelu i nā ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo ikaika ʻole e pale aku i ka ʻai nui ʻana i nā pāʻina hoʻomaha.)

ʻO ke ala maʻalahi loa e haku ai i nā kamaʻilio liʻiliʻi, e ʻōlelo ana ʻo Fine, ke waiho nei i waho o kou poʻo ponoʻī. "Pono ʻoe e lawe mau i ke kaumaha o ka hōʻoluʻolu o kāu hoa kamaʻilio," wahi āna. Ke pau kou hopohopo e pili ana pehea ʻo ʻoe e hele mai a hoʻomaka i ka nānā ʻana i ka hoʻomaha ʻana i ka mea ʻē aʻe, e hāʻule ana ka insecurities, e waiho ana iā ʻoe i ka hoʻohiwahiwa. E kōkua kēia mau ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo ʻewalu iā ʻoe e hana pololei i kēlā.

Nā Helu Kūkākūkā Hoʻomākaukau

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Ma mua o ka pāʻina, e noʻonoʻo i kekahi mau nīnau. (No kēia manawa o ka makahiki, manaʻo ʻo Fine, "He aha kāu mau hoʻolālā [hana, huakaʻi, hoʻomaha, etc.] no ka makahiki aʻe?" "Ke hana nei ʻoe i nā ʻōlelo hoʻoholo no ka Makahiki Hou?" a "He aha kāu mau hoʻolālā hoʻomaha-he leʻaleʻa. kuʻuna?") A laila e kāhea i kekahi mau kumuhana hiki iā ʻoe ke kamaʻilio inā e nīnau ʻia ʻoe. Ke hoʻomaʻamaʻa nei paha ʻoe no kahi marathon a i ʻole he ʻohana e kipa aku ana. ʻO kēia ala, e loaʻa iā ʻoe nā kamaʻilio kamaʻilio āu e pono ai e hōʻalo i nā manawa kūpilikiʻi.

Kūkākūkā iā ʻoe iho

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Inā ʻaʻole ʻoe i ʻike i kekahi ma ka pāʻina, hiki i ka hoʻolauna ʻana iā ʻoe iho ke hopohopo. I mea e maʻalahi ai, ʻo Bill Lampton, Ph.D., ka pelekikena o Championship Communication, e ʻōlelo e kamaʻilio e pili ana iā ʻoe iho. ʻO ka mua, e hoʻolauna wale iā ʻoe iho. A laila, e hoʻopuka i kāu kumuhana i koho ʻia, hiki ke maʻalahi e like me kou ʻike ʻana i ka mea hoʻokipa o ka pāʻina a i ʻole ka paʻakikī e like me ke ʻano o ka hopena o ke kau i kāu papa hana, ("E ke keiki, paʻahana wau. ʻO Nowemapa ko mākou mahina ʻoi loa ma ka hana!" ). ʻO ka mea hope loa, e kono i kāu hoa kamaʻilio e kaupaona: "ʻOi aku paha kāu hana i kēia manawa o ka makahiki?" Kūkākūkā koke!

E pāʻani i ka "Paʻani Kūkākūkā"

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ʻO kahi pahele e hāʻule ai ka poʻe he nui ka pane ʻole ʻana i nā nīnau a nā poʻe ʻē aʻe, wahi a Fine. Hiki ke hoʻomaopopo. Ma hope o nā mea āpau, "He aha hou?" ʻO ka helu pinepine no "Aloha." Akā ke ho'āʻo nei ʻoe e kamaʻilio liʻiliʻi, e pane ana, "ʻAʻole nui, ʻo ʻoe?" kahi mea kamaʻilio paʻa surefire. Akā, ʻōlelo ʻo Fine e hāʻawi i kahi pane maoli. "Inā nīnau wale kekahi, 'Pehea kou mau lā nui?' ma mua o ka ʻōlelo maikaʻi ʻana, e ʻōlelo paha wau, 'Maikaʻi, ke hele mai nei kaʻu mau keiki kāne ʻelua mai ka hikina mai e noho pū me mākou i hoʻokahi pule. Ke kali nui nei au iā ia. i nā kumuhana kamaʻilio hou aʻe-ʻo kāu mau keiki, huakaʻi huakaʻi, poʻe kipa, a pēlā aku.

E hoʻomanaʻo e ukali

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ʻOiai ke pāʻani nei ʻoe i ka pāʻani kamaʻilio e like me kahi pro, ʻaʻole paha ke kanaka āu e kamaʻilio pū nei. Inā hāʻawi ʻia ʻoe i nā pane huaʻōlelo hoʻokahi, e ʻeli hohonu, wahi a Fine. "Pono ʻoe e hōʻoia ʻaʻole ʻoe i manaʻo wale ʻo 'Aloha' i ka wā i ʻōlelo ai ʻoe 'Pehea ia?'" wehewehe ʻo ia. "Inā pane lākou, 'Maikaʻi,' i mākaukau ka ukali ʻana, e like me, 'He aha nā mea hou me ʻoe mai ka manawa hope aʻu i ʻike ai iā ʻoe?'" (Mai haʻalele i ke aha e hele hewa ai nā kamaʻilio a pehea e hoʻoponopono ai iā lākou.)

Hōʻalo i nā "Killers Kūkākūkā"

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ʻO ke kānāwai maikaʻi ʻo ka hoʻokele ʻana i ka nīnau ʻana i kekahi mea āu i ʻike ʻole ai i ka pane, wahi a Fine. ʻO ia hoʻi ʻaʻole "Pehea kāu ipo?" inā ʻaʻole maopopo iā ʻoe ke noho pū nei lākou, ʻaʻohe "Pehea kāu hana?" ke ʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke hōʻoiaʻiʻo e hana mau ana ʻo ia ma laila, ʻaʻole "Ua komo ʻoe i Penn State?" ke ʻole ʻoe i ʻike ua hana ʻo ia. Hoʻopili i nā nīnau ākea, e like me "He aha ka mea hou?" a i ʻole "He mau hoʻolālā no kēia makahiki e hiki mai ana?"

Kūlou ʻoluʻolu

Ua puni ʻia ʻoe e kekahi Cathy kamaʻilio mai kou wā i hele ai? E kiʻi i kahi hōʻike mai nā mea hoʻokipa haʻiʻōlelo. Ke pau lākou i ka manawa ma ka māhele nūhou, e hōʻailona lākou i ka mea nīnauele ma ka ʻōlelo ʻana i kekahi mea e like me, "Aia ka manawa no hoʻokahi nīnau hou," a i ʻole "He hoʻokahi minute wale nō kā mākou i koe…"

ʻIke loa, ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke makaʻala loa i ke ola maoli, akā e hoʻāʻo e waiho i nā ʻōkuhi-a, e like me kā Fine i kapa ai, "e hoʻolei ana i ka hae keʻokeʻo." ʻO ka mua, e hoʻomaopopo i ka ʻōlelo a ka mea ʻē aʻe: "Wow, kani maoli kāu mau keiki." A laila e hoʻolele i ka hae keʻokeʻo: "Ua ʻike au i koʻu hoa hele i loko a makemake wau e ʻōlelo aloha ..." A ʻo ka hope, hāʻawi i kahi ʻōlelo hope a nīnau paha. "… Akā ma mua o kaʻu hana, e haʻi iaʻu, pehea i pau ai kā Sally hopena i kāna hana iā SAT?" "ʻAe kēia iā ʻolua e puka i waho me ka hanohano," wahi a Fine.

E lawe i kahi hanu

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Inā hoʻokomo ʻia ʻoe, hilahila, a i ʻole luhi paha a maʻi paha, hiki i nā ʻaha ke kaumaha. ʻO ia ke kumu e ʻōlelo ai ʻo Fine e hāʻawi iā ʻoe iho i kahi hanu i kūkulu ʻia. Ma mua o ka hui pū ʻana, e hāʻawi ʻo ia iā ia iho i pahu hopu-maʻamau ka mea e like me ke kamaʻilio ʻana me ʻelua a ʻekolu paha mau kānaka hou. Ke hoʻokō ʻo ia i kāna quota, lawe ʻo ia i kahi manawa hoʻomaha, hoʻomaha hoʻokahi. Hāʻawi kēia iā ia i mea hoʻoikaika hou i ka launa pū ʻana, me ka loaʻa ʻole o ke ahi-e hōʻoiaʻiʻo e loaʻa iā ia kahi manawa maikaʻi.

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