Hoʻopilikia wela

ʻAʻole maikaʻi a hoʻohaunaele nā ​​kūmākena a i ʻole nā ​​huhū huhū. Kū pinepine lākou i ka pane i nā pono a i ʻole nā ​​makemake i makemake ʻole ʻia. Kū paha nā Tantrum i nā keiki ʻōpio a i ʻole nā ​​mea ʻē aʻe hiki ʻole ke hōʻike i ko lākou makemake a kāohi paha i ko lākou mau manaʻo ke hoʻohoka lākou.

Kūlohelohe ka huhū a i ʻole "hana-i waho" i ka wā kamaliʻi. He mea maʻamau no nā keiki e makemake e kūʻokoʻa i ko lākou aʻo ʻana he poʻe kaʻawale lākou mai ko lākou mau mākua mai.

Hōʻike pinepine kēia makemake no ka hoʻomalu e like me ka ʻōlelo ʻana "ʻaʻole" pinepine a me ka huhū. Hoʻonui ʻino ʻia ʻo Tantrums e ka loaʻa ʻole o ka huaʻōlelo i ke keiki e hōʻike ai i kona mau manaʻo.

Hoʻomaka pinepine nā Tantrums i nā keiki 12 a 18 mau makahiki. Maikaʻi lākou ma waena o 2 a 3 mau makahiki, a laila emi a hiki i ka makahiki 4. Ma hope o ka makahiki 4, liʻiliʻi lākou e hana. ʻO ka luhi, pololi, a maʻi paha, hiki ke hana i nā tantrums i ʻoi aku ka hewa a i ʻole pinepine.

I KA HANA A KOU KEIKI HE TANTRUM

Ke huhū kāu keiki, he mea nui e noho mālie ʻoe. Kōkua ia e hoʻomanaʻo he maʻamau nā tantrums. ʻAʻole lākou nā ou. ʻAʻole ʻoe he makua maikaʻi ʻole, a ʻaʻole he keiki maikaʻi ʻole kāu keiki kāne a kaikamahine paha. ʻO ka ʻuwā ʻana a i ʻole ke kuʻi ʻana i kāu keiki e hōʻino loa ai ia kūlana. ʻO kahi pane mālie, maluhia a me ke ʻano, me ka "hāʻawi ʻole" a haki paha i nā lula āu i hoʻonoho ai, e hoʻēmi i ka hoʻoluhi a e ʻoluʻolu ʻolua.

Hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻāʻo i ka hoʻohihi mālie, ke hoʻololi nei i nā hana a kāu keiki e hauʻoli ai a i ʻole ke hana ʻana i kahi helehelena hoʻomākeʻaka. Inā he huhū kāu keiki mai ka home, alakaʻi i kāu keiki i kahi mālie, e like me ke kaʻa a i kahi lumi hoʻomaha. E mālama palekana i kāu keiki a hiki i ka pau ʻana o ka huhū.

ʻO ka huhū huhū kahi ʻano ʻimi ʻimi. ʻO kahi hoʻolālā e hoʻoliʻiliʻi i ka lōʻihi a me ke koʻikoʻi o ka tantrum e nānā ʻole i ka lawena. Inā palekana kāu keiki a ʻaʻole ʻinoʻino, hele i kahi keʻena ʻē aʻe i ka hale e hoʻopōkole paha i ka hanana no ka mea ʻaʻohe mea hoʻolohe keaka. E ukali paha kāu keiki a hoʻomau i ka humuhumu. Inā pēlā, mai kamaʻilio a hana hoʻi a kū ka hana. A laila, e kūkākūkā me ka mālie i ka pilikia a hāʻawi i nā koho ʻē aʻe me ka hāʻawi ʻole i ka koi o kāu keiki.

KA PALAPALA ANA I KA TEMPER TANTRUMS

E hōʻoia e ʻai a hiamoe kāu keiki i kā lākou manawa maʻamau. Inā ʻaʻole hiamoe hou kāu keiki, e hōʻoia e loaʻa iā lākou kekahi manawa mālie. Ke moe nei i lalo no 15 a 20 mau minuke a hoʻomaha paha ʻoiai ʻoe e heluhelu pū ana i nā moʻolelo i nā manawa maʻamau o ka lā hiki ke pale i ka huhū.

ʻO nā ʻano hana ʻē aʻe e pale aku ai i nā tantrums:

• E hoʻohana i kahi leo upbeat ke noi nei i kāu keiki e hana i kekahi mea. Hana ʻia e like me ke kono ʻana, ʻaʻole kauoka. ʻO kahi laʻana, "Inā kau ʻoe i kāu mittens a me ka pāpale, e hiki iā mākou ke hele i kāu hui pāʻani."
• Mai hakakā i nā mea nui ʻole e like me nā kāmaʻa a kāu keiki e komo ai a i ʻole noho paha lākou i ka noho kiʻekiʻe a i ʻole ka noho hoʻoluʻu. ʻO ka palekana ka mea nui, e like me ka hoʻopā ʻole ʻana i kahi kapuahi wela, ka hoʻopaʻa ʻana i ka noho kaʻa i paʻa ʻia, a me ka pāʻani ʻole ma ke alanui.
• Nā koho hāʻawi ke hiki. ʻO kahi laʻana, e koho kāu keiki i nā lole e ʻaʻai a me nā moʻolelo e heluhelu ai. ʻO ke keiki e manaʻo kūʻokoʻa i nā wahi he nui e pili ana i nā lula ke pono. MAI hāʻawi i kahi koho inā ʻaʻole maoli kekahi.

I KA NOHEA ANA E KOKUA

Inā hele a māhuahua ka huhū huhū a manaʻo ʻole ʻoe hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻokele iā lākou, e ʻimi i ka ʻōlelo aʻo a kāu kauka olakino. E kiʻi pū i ke kōkua inā ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke kaohi i kou huhū a me ka uē ʻana a i ʻole inā hopohopo ʻoe e hana paha ʻoe i ka hana a kāu keiki me ka hoʻopaʻi kino.

Paipai ka American Academy of Pediatrics iā ʻoe e kāhea i kāu kauka lapaʻau a i ʻole kauka kauka ʻohana inā:

• Maikaʻi loa nā Tantrums ma hope o ka makahiki 4
• Hōʻeha kāu keiki iā ia iho a i ʻole nā ​​mea ʻē aʻe, a luku paha i ka waiwai i ka wā tantrums
• Paʻa ka hanu o kāu keiki i ka wā tantrums, keu hoʻi a maule lākou
• He moeʻuhane hoʻi kāu keiki, hoʻohuli i ka hoʻomaʻamaʻa ʻana i ka lua, ka maʻi poʻo, ka ʻōpū, ka hopohopo, hōʻole e ʻai a hiamoe paha, a pili iā ʻoe

Nā hana kū i waho

Pūnaewele ʻAmelika Hui Pū ʻIa o Pediatrics. Nā ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo kiʻekiʻe no ke ola ʻana o nā huhū. www.healthy Children.org/English/family-life/family-dynamics/communication-discipline/Pages/Temper-Tantrums.aspx. Hoʻohou ʻia ʻOkakopa 22, 2018. Loaʻa iā Mei 31, 2019.

Walter HJ, DeMaso DR. Hoʻoluhi, kaohi-a me nā ʻano hana. I: Kliegman RM, St. Geme JW, Blum NJ, Shah SS Tasker RC, Wilson KM, eds. ʻO Puka Textbook of Pediatrics ʻo Nelson. 21st ed. Piladelapia, PA: Elsevier; 2020: chap 42.